Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
- AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
- AM I GAY?
- 9 SIGNS TO WATCH OUT FOR IF YOU THK YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- HOW GAY ARE YOU?
- STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
- MALAYSIAN NEWSPAPER'S HOW-TO-SPOT-A-GAY CHECKLIST SPARKS OUTRAGE
- QUIZ: HOW TO TELL IF MY BOYIEND IS GAY?
- FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Sexualy is highly plex and sensive, and there are a lot of accurate stereotyp out there that don't tly... * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Keep readg for a thorough list of potential signs that your boyiend might be gay. There are many reasons why someone might act this way, so this by self is not a surefire sign that he’s gay.
HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
Someone's sexualy is personal, so 's important to rpect their privacy. However, you might want to know if a person is gay bee you're terted datg them or want to support them as a iend. Beg open wh them n be... * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
If you believe your boyiend lov and r for you but he "seems to be gay, " keep md that he uld be bisexual, pansexual, or terted men.
There are several inti which someone n be terted more than one genr, so don't thk he's "jt gay". If you stumble upon evince of gay porn on his puter or phone, though, that may be a ltle different. If he’s gay, he might thrive on other men’s attentn, equently touch or hug them, or exchange flirty ments wh them (pecially about their physil appearance).
Notice if he equently hangs out wh his gay iends, or jos them on nights out at LGBTQ+ bars and clubs.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
” Notice if he acts unfortable around gay men, regularly mak homophobic ments or jok, or liberately never talks about anythg remotely gay.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
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If his relativ are highly anti-gay, he may not feel safe or wele to e out to them. He might also be wrtlg wh ternalized homophobia or self-loathg bee of the nflict between his inty and his upbrgg.
An enunter his teen or llege years is more likely to mean he’s gay or queer than an experience later life, which uld have more plex explanatns. Don’t rely on gay stereotyp like an effemate voice or walk, flashy or tight clothg, his TV and mic preferenc, or beg a neat eak to terme your boyiend’s sexualy. There are many gay men that exhib none of the tras, as well as many straight men that do.
HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
How do I know if I am gay? Are there fe signs you are gay? We have answers. Consir the signs you might be gay. * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted. For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to. If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women.
Another important thg to remember is that 's not very important whether or not he's gay. One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born.
The hormone exposure levels may manift actual, physil ways which n be a vague ditor that a guy might be gay. It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens.
AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
Am I gay? Some fd this hard to answer. Knowg whether you are gay or straight, though, down to attractns and behavrs. Fd out more. * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge. Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny. The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together.
There's the stereotype that if a guy is a good drser or if he spends a bunch of time on his hair, he's gay. Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay.
Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you. You n talk about another iend that is gay or even jt about someone hypothetilly g out if you don't know someone who's gay.
AM I GAY?
Are you qutng your sexualy? Fd out if you’re gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Learn what the terms mean and if they apply to you. * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
He do a great job of showg people that there's more to gay people than all those offensive stereotyp. But if he is gay, he will probably tell you once he's fortable and feels like he tsts you.
9 SIGNS TO WATCH OUT FOR IF YOU THK YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
Have you noticed somethg unexpected wh your boyiend that seems gay? Read on to know 'how to tell if your boyiend is gay?' and what n be done. * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
This is the bt way to fd out if someone is gay and much ls offensive than makg assumptns about them.
Say somethg like, "You know you're stuck wh me as a iend no matter what, but I jt have to ask bee I don't want to make assumptns and e to the wrong nclns: are you gay?
Article SummaryXTo tell if your guy iend is gay, notice whether he refers to other guys as attractive, which uld be a sign that he’s gay. Pay attentn to how much he talks about women a romantic or sexual way, sce a lack of tert women uld suggt he’s gay.
HOW GAY ARE YOU?
Learn how to approach and flirt wh gay guys at clubs, bars, or other venuMeetg gay guys is hard. First you have to terme if the guy you're terted is gay or straight. Then you have to approach him and strike up a... * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
For stance, say somethg like, “Not that I md eher way, but I was jt wonrg whether you're gay?
” For more tips, cludg how to show your iend that you’re okay wh gay people, read on!
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?
STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
Consirg the biphobic society we live , would be naive to thk datg a bi guy is the exact same as datg a gay or straight guy. * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.
A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?
And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
MALAYSIAN NEWSPAPER'S HOW-TO-SPOT-A-GAY CHECKLIST SPARKS OUTRAGE
Quiz: How to Tell if My Boyiend Is Gay? - It may be an awkward topic to brg up, but if you are wonrg how to tell if your boyiend is gay or not, you are certaly not alone. “How to tell if my... * how to find out if a guy is gay checklist *
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.
The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
QUIZ: HOW TO TELL IF MY BOYIEND IS GAY?
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.
He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.
Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, eher givg or receivg.
FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
The reason is that the guy really is gay and he wants to exprs that sexually and romantilly.
Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
When down to , there is no reliable "Am I Gay tt", so the only way to know that you are gay (fn of gay) is to look wh yourself to terme your own thoughts and feelgs towards others of the same sex. You might also want to nsir the possibily that you are neher gay nor straight and are bisexual or jt cur.