Can Someone Be Homosexual and Not Gay? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHY GAY IS NOT OK
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• IT'S NOT OKAY TO BE GAY (NO T'S PRONOUNCED)
• SONG-IT'S NOT OK TO BE GAY CHORDS
• WHY DO SOME CHRISTIANS BELIEVE ’S OK TO BE GAY, WHEN THE BIBLE SAYS ISN’T?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• IT’S OKAY TO BE “GAY” AND “LBIAN” AND NOT “QUEER”.
• IT'S OK TO BE GAY LYRICS
• IT’S OKAY TO BE GAYWHOUT ANDREWJUL. 31, 20151 VIEWER1 CONTRIBUTORIT’S OKAY TO BE GAY LYRICSIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE GAYWHEN THOSE KIDS BEAT YOU UP LISTENG TO (UNKNOWN)OR WAS 'E YOU WERE A BIG LIMP BIZK FAN?THERE'S SOMETHG THAT A-HOL N'T HANDLEAND 'S SUCH A SHAMESUCH A FUCKG SHAMEIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE GAYYOU BT STEP OUT THE WAY 'E BCH I'M FABULOTHAT DON'T MEAN I N'T APPRECIATE SOME BOOBISTOP ACTG LIKE ALL GAYS ARE ALIENSWE ACTUALLY HAVE FEELGS DON'T YOU KNOW?(UNKNOWN) BLEED RABOWSIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY-YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEIT DON'T MATTER WHAT YOU PUT YOUR MOUTHAS LONG AS YOUR HEART'S THE RIGHT PLACEIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE GAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTHAVE THE SI SOP ON THIS SONG?SIGN UP AND DROP SOME KNOWLEDGESTART THE SONG BASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHEN DID WHOUT ANDREW RELEASE “IT'S OKAY TO BE GAY”?CREDSRELEASE DATEJULY 31, 2015TAGSROCKPUNK ROCKEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE
• IT’S “OKAY” TO BE GAY, AND YOU NEED TO KNOW WHY

WHY GAY IS NOT OK

Government should protect gay people om discrimatn bee homosexualy is an unalterable aspect of their inty. Perhaps sexual preference n be changed – and people have the right to engage gay sex and have homosexual relatnships if they choose to do so. (The fourth optn, that gay people have no choice but to be gay, but should be punished for anyway, is morally unthkable.

A gay man is more likely than a straight man to have a (blogil) gay brother; lbians are more likely than straight women to have gay sisters. In 1993, a study published the journal Science showed that fai wh two homosexual brothers were very likely to have certa geic markers on a regn of the X chromosome known as Xq28. This led to media headl about the possibily of the existence of a “gay gene” and discsns about the ethics of abortg a “gay” fet.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

In some societi, homosexualy is accepted, others, is owned upon but tolerated, yet others, is a ser crimal offense, possibly punishable by ath. What you have learned about homosexualy as you were growg up will affect whether you nsir engagg homosexual acts to be sirable or disgtg. Some people might argue that if you are “geilly gay” but the thought of homosexualy nseat you, then you jt haven’t accepted the fact that you really are gay.

That argument is based on the assumptn that sexual preference is purely blogil; therefore, has no place a discsn about the possible of homosexualy. In 1991, a study published the journal Science seemed to show that the hypothalam, which ntrols the release of sex hormon om the puary gland, gay men differs om the hypothalam straight men. The third terstial nucls of the anterr hypothalam (INAH3) was found to be more than twice as large heterosexual men as homosexual men.

This study was cricized bee ed bra tissue obtaed at topsi, and all of the homosexual subjects the study were believed to have died of AIDS. This study, which also ed bra tissue om topsi, did not reveal any signifint difference between the size of the INAH3 gay men and straight men.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

It did, however, show that gay men, nrons the INAH3 are packed more closely together than straight men.

PET and MRI studi performed 2008 have shown that the two halv of the bra are more symmetril homosexual men and heterosexual women than heterosexual men and homosexual women. The studi have also revealed that nnectns the amygdalas of gay men remble those of straight women; gay women, nnectns the amygdala remble those of straight men. Some studi have shown that the rp llosum – the ma nnectn between the two halv of the bra- has a different stcture gay men than straight men.

IT'S NOT OKAY TO BE GAY (NO T'S PRONOUNCED)

Gay women and gay men are more likely to be left-hand or ambixtro than straight women and straight men, acrdg to a number of different studi. A 1992 study showed that the anterr missure, a smaller nnectn between the bra’s two hemispher, is larger homosexual men than straight men. By manipulatg hormone levels durg this time, scientists n make rats engage homosexual behavr later on.

So far, attempts to “cure” homosexualy by operatg on the bra – homosexuals were once given lobotomi - have never worked. (Attempts to elimate homosexualy via hormone therapy haven’t been effective eher.

Gay men and straight men have the same levels of sex hormon; sex hormone levels are the same gay women and straight women. Today, however, we know much more about the bra than we did when homosexualy was nsired a disease that required treatment, and the amount of knowledge that we have about the bra is creasg. Even if gay people n never stop beg attracted to members of the same sex, they n learn not to act on their sir.

SONG-IT'S NOT OK TO BE GAY CHORDS

If we fe beg gay as engagg homosexual behavr (the ncept of “gay” as an inty is a Wtern cultural ncept – people who have sex wh both men and women may ll themselv gay, straight or bisexual, pendg on the l of their culture or subculture), then people stop beg gay as soon as they stop engagg this behavr. I believe that people have the right to engage any behavr that they choose, as long as their actns do not harm others, and I believe that gay sex and gay relatnships do not e harm to anyone. (Of urse, there are abive and unhealthy gay relatnships that should not be tolerated, jt as there are unhealthy heterosexual relatnships that should not be tolerated.

If sexual preference n be altered, then people who support gay rights n’t rely on the argument that gay people should be protected om discrimatn bee gay people have no choice but to be gay – an argument that seems like an apology for homosexualy, as if homosexualy is a disease for which there is no cure. There is an element of homophobia that argument– the implitn that gay people would bee straight, if only they uld.

WHY DO SOME CHRISTIANS BELIEVE ’S OK TO BE GAY, WHEN THE BIBLE SAYS ISN’T?

Supportg gay marriage be equivalent to supportg the nstctn of wheelchair ramps.

The “gays n’t help beg that way” approach is remiscent of the old view of homosexualy as a psychiatric illns. Jt as gay people who are happy as they are should not be forced to change their sexual orientatn, gay people who want to be straight should have the right to change if they n – and the rrect word is “change” – not “cure”.

Photo creds: Vanuver Gay Pri Para 2008 by edallaluna on Wikimedia Commons; DNA by ynse on Wikimedia Commons; Bra fMRI by views exprsed are those of the thor(s) and are not necsarily those of Scientific Amerin. A youth and genr specialist wh Foc on the Fay, he is now active ex-gay youth mistry, leadg semars around the untry. After speakg to a group of high school senrs about the damage of viewg homosexualy as a normal, alternative liftyle, I opened up for qutns.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

But how n we unter arguments for homosexualy whout relyg on Scripture, which our opponents may dismiss as valid?

While I wasn't ready for my Q&A ssn wh the high schoolers, I vowed that I'd learn to prent a biblil view of homosexualy to nonbelievers. They vised a seven-pot sle that placed exclive heterosexualy and exclive homosexualy at oppose pol, wh bisexualy at the midpot.

IT’S OKAY TO BE “GAY” AND “LBIAN” AND NOT “QUEER”.

Usg this sle, the rearchers averaged figur supportg their claims that 10 percent of mal between the ag of 16 and 55 were more or ls exclively homosexual for at least three years.

On March 31, 1993, The Wall Street Journal ran an article tled "Homosexuals and the 10-Percent Fallacy.

Gordon Muir reported that he had found "substantial evince ditg that ls than 5 percent of men and women have had any homosexual ntact their lifetime, and no more than 3 percent of men and nsirably fewer women claim to be bisexual or exclively homosexual.

IT'S OK TO BE GAY LYRICS

Dpe the fdgs, some groups ntue to e the 10 percent figure to make homosexualy sound more wispread. The latt rearch on this area, published this April Science, uld not reproduce the fdgs of a prev study which had tied homosexual behavr to certa geic patterns. Each of most choose his battl wisely--and I would not die on the sword of a nongeic lk to homosexualy.

Even if rearchers were to suggt a heredary tie wh homosexualy, as they have wh alholism, the right tack wh this argument is not to ntend that 's false, but that promot life-threateng behavr. Likewise, a recent Cens Bure abstract noted that AIDS aths for gay men the Uned Stat totaled more than 28, 300 1995. " While AIDS is no longer nsired jt a gay disease, s universaly often overshadows the fact that, acrdg to the Centers for Disease Control, "homosexuals ntue to make up the majory of s.

" Consequently, the 1993 fdgs of three rearchers wh the Eastern Psychologil Associatn, quoted by Jefey Satover "Homosexualy and the Polics of Tth" (Baker), should e as no surprise.

IT’S OKAY TO BE GAYWHOUT ANDREWJUL. 31, 20151 VIEWER1 CONTRIBUTORIT’S OKAY TO BE GAY LYRICSIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE GAYWHEN THOSE KIDS BEAT YOU UP LISTENG TO (UNKNOWN)OR WAS 'E YOU WERE A BIG LIMP BIZK FAN?THERE'S SOMETHG THAT A-HOL N'T HANDLEAND 'S SUCH A SHAMESUCH A FUCKG SHAMEIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE GAYYOU BT STEP OUT THE WAY 'E BCH I'M FABULOTHAT DON'T MEAN I N'T APPRECIATE SOME BOOBISTOP ACTG LIKE ALL GAYS ARE ALIENSWE ACTUALLY HAVE FEELGS DON'T YOU KNOW?(UNKNOWN) BLEED RABOWSIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY-YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEIT DON'T MATTER WHAT YOU PUT YOUR MOUTHAS LONG AS YOUR HEART'S THE RIGHT PLACEIT'S OKAY TO BE A F*GGOTIT'S OL IF YOU WANNA BE QUEERIT'S OKAY IF YOU WANNA KISS OTHER GUYSIT'S PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE GAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTHAVE THE SI SOP ON THIS SONG?SIGN UP AND DROP SOME KNOWLEDGESTART THE SONG BASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHEN DID WHOUT ANDREW RELEASE “IT'S OKAY TO BE GAY”?CREDSRELEASE DATEJULY 31, 2015TAGSROCKPUNK ROCKEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

Satover wr that "they found that the gay male lifpan, even apart om AIDS and wh a long-term partner, is signifintly shorter than that of married men general by more than three s. Though rearchers have yet to prove or disprove a geic lk for homosexualy, they have proven one unniable fact: Homosexualy n be adly. Unfortunately, many homosexual relatnships do not monstrate one of the key ditors of love: monogamy.

Mattison found that even homosexual men "permanent" relatnships tend to stray more often than heterosexual men: "Y, that wayward impulse is as evable man-to-man affairs as man-to-woman, only, for gays, starts chg faster. In "Straight Answers About Homosexualy for Straight Rears" (Prentice-Hall), David Loovis adms that fily is a problem for male and female homosexuals. This lack of monogamy dit that the "lovg relatnships" scribed by apologists for homosexualy look more like fictn than fact.

IT’S “OKAY” TO BE GAY, AND YOU NEED TO KNOW WHY

After all, God isn't ncerned wh aligng only the thoughts of homosexual advot to His Word. So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label.

Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.