Gay Men and Their Mothers: Is There a Special Closens? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• 'IT'S ALWAYS SUNNY' 'S ROB MCELHENNEY CELEBRAT HIS 2 GAY MOMS 'LOVE IS LOVE' MOTHER'S DAY VIO
• REAL 'MORN FAY': TWO GAY MOMS, ONE GAY DAD AND A WHOLE LOT OF LOVE
• ‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’
• TWO DADS, TWO MOMS: GAY COUPL AND THEIR FAI
• HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY
• GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
• GAY PARENTS RAISG KIDS: HOW WILL THEY FARE?
• TWO GAY MOMS

'IT'S ALWAYS SUNNY' 'S ROB MCELHENNEY CELEBRAT HIS 2 GAY MOMS 'LOVE IS LOVE' MOTHER'S DAY VIO

"The gredients for a fay are kdns and love, iendship and unrstandg, " said real life, jt like on the seri "Morn Fay, " a gay fay experienc different suatns than most fai, like when the tws ll upstairs for their mother. "Frank was there was to hold them first and he looked their ey and said, 'we have to figure out a schle, I have to be here, '" said Jaron and Seth have two moms and a dad - three gay parents and a stepsister Lren. "My fay [is] like everyone else 'e I do what every other 10-year- old the USA do… I wake up get ready for school go to school do stuff after school…even though I have gay parents that do not affect what I do at all, " said Berman Boys Don't Jt Have Two Moms, They Also Have a DadFrank liv nearby and spends every Sunday alone wh the boys.

REAL 'MORN FAY': TWO GAY MOMS, ONE GAY DAD AND A WHOLE LOT OF LOVE

Many gay fai entered 'GMA''s search for real morn fai om all over the untry, cludg a fay Florida of two gay men and two lbians raisg children weeks ago, a vio went viral on YouTube: In ont of Iowa lawmakers, 19-year-old Zach Wahls stated his se for his two moms. Rso-Young’s goal for the film is to draw attentn to every gay fay, pecially sce the Equaly Act — which amends the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and clus protectns for LGBTQ+ people agast discrimatn — still has not been signed to law and signifint threats rema for LGBTQ+ fai. For more than a , three gay fai have allowed documentary filmmaker Julia Ivanova to follow them at close range as they’ve built their hoeholds through adoptn, surrogacy and -parentg Nova Stia and Brish Dads, My Moms and Me, Ivanova’s new documentary, is an timate look at the home liv of the gay parents and their teenage children – their good days and their bad days, their closens and their challeng.

When she approached Canadians on the street Vanuver for their opns, people appeared tepid about LGBTQ fai, wonrg on mera about whether the children of gay parents might grow up nfed, damaged or “turn out gay. Fathers Steve and Stt also mented that they are kd of between two muni and not ftg eher of them well, beg parents and beg gay men and havg children as the central tert their was important to show that the fathers fought hard to have babi? The fai, their own wordsThe Globe asked the fai of filmmaker Julia Ivanova’s new documentary My Dads, My Moms and Me how the climate has shifted for them sce their participatn Ivanova’s 2007 film Fatherhood Dreams, released shortly after gay marriage was legalized.

I know that we n’t take what we have for legalizatn of gay marriage Canada, while an important tone s own right, did not have a huge impact on our queer parentg sce we are a three-parent fay and this change of law did not impact our legal rights or legimize our fay stcture. Also, we had been parentg for a already wh both kids born before that happened so the legalizatn of gay marriage is only one factor among many that strengthened awarens of queer fai and ma parentg easier for . The are stereotyp, of urse, but stereotyp e handy when you evably leave the safety of your lbian mom’s trailer and have to work and survive a world where everybody thks stereotypil terms, even gays.

‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’

Gay people who grew up straight parents’ hoeholds may have stggled wh their sexual orientatn; but when me to the vast social universe of adaptatns not alg wh sexualy—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learng at home.

Though I have a bgraphy particularly relevant to gay issu, the first person who ntacted me to thank me for sharg my perspective on LGBT issu was Mark Regnes, an email dated July 17, 2012. Earlier studi examed children still livg wh their gay parents, so the kids were not at liberty to speak, erned as all children are by filial piety, guilt, and fear of losg their allowanc.

TWO DADS, TWO MOMS: GAY COUPL AND THEIR FAI

Bisexual parents threaten the re of the LGBT parentg narrative—we do have a choice to live as gay or straight, and we do have to ci the genr nfiguratn of the hoehold which our children will grow up.

HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

Havg lived for forty-one years as a strange man, I see as tragilly ftg that the first stct of experts and gay activists is to exclu my life profile as unf for any “data sample, ” or as Dr. Whether homosexualy is chosen or bred, whether gay marriage gets legalized or not, beg strange is hard; tak a mental toll, mak harr to fd iends, terfer wh profsnal growth, and sometim leads one down a sodn path to self-meditn the form of alholism, dgs, gamblg, antisocial behavr, and irrponsible sex.

GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?

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GAY PARENTS RAISG KIDS: HOW WILL THEY FARE?

Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post.

My rearch, clil and personal experienc suggt that there is ed a al lk between male homosexualy and a close maternal relatnship but flows the oppose directn than what was prevly thought. I thk personally [beg gay] ma me a more emotnal person, more sensive, more touch wh both the male and female sis of myself, but allowg me to even acknowledge that other si ma me closer to my mother. However, we get to hot water when we allow stereotyp to get the way of unrstandg the uniquens of dividuals and their circumstanc—so is important to remember that not all mothers and gay sons are close.

The days, gay parents are no novelty: We see them strollg through our neighborhoods, participatg our PTA meetgs, and, perhaps most notably, appearg on our TV screens: Mchell and Cam, fathers to Lily, on the ratgs smash Morn Fay; Glee’s Sue Sylvter, expectant mom to a baby nceived wh an as-yet-unrevealed sperm donor, and Rachel’s dads, played wh humor and grace by Jeff Goldblum and Brian Stok. Though this media mastreamifitn of gay parentg is a relatively new phenomenon, for s, gay parents have had children all sorts of fay nfiguratns—whether through adoptn, prev heterosexual relatnships, or, creasgly, by choosg to have blogil offsprg g vro, surrogate, and other methods. Earlier this month, when Print Obama announced his support for same sex marriage days after North Carola voted to ban , he changed the nversatn nsirably by argug that ncern for children is a reason to support, rather than oppose, gay marriage.

TWO GAY MOMS

” His support for gay marriage was self a landmark turn, but jt as notable was s direct affirmatn of gay upl as parents, which served to rebut the standard argument agast gay marriage—namely, that risks the well-beg of children and the fay. Much of the ncern for the children of gay parents has centered specifilly on boys, who as a group have seemed, pecially recent years, prey to nfn, rentment, and stctivens—somethg creded to the risg proportn of mal beg reared fatherls hom. Science has proven that homosexualy has blogil roots, and if we believe that is neher a choice nor an unlucky orientatn, then we n relax and tst that the young men and women will fd out what possibily naturally to them.