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Contents:

• THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
• CELEBRI WHO HAVE LEFT A GAY LIFTYLE
• CAN SOME GAY MEN AND LBIANS CHANGE THEIR SEXUAL ORIENTATN? 200 PARTICIPANTS REPORTG A CHANGE OM HOMOSEXUAL TO HETEROSEXUAL ORIENTATN
• GAY CONVERSN: I SLEPT WH OVER 200 MEN, NOW I'M A HAPPILY MARRIED HETEROSEXUAL DAD
• LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS

THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT

Straight men who have engaged suatnal homosexualy (such as prison or the ary), what's your story?

When I was young, I was told the whole world was divid to heterosexual men and heterosexual women, bar a small number of unfortunate ‘homosexuals’ of both genrs and possibly an even smaller number a third tegory, ‘bisexuals’, who ‘swung both ways’; pl, fally, a ty band of wretched creatur who were physilly not que one thg or the other. How many ‘homosexuals’ were there?

Ksey diststed btal tegorisatn but, wishg to unt, nstcted what me close to a slidg sle ntag seven gradatns between exclive heterosexualy and exclive homosexualy. He found that almost half his male terviewe had reacted sexually to both genrs; more than a third had had a homosexual enunter; and more than one ten reported roughly equally strong sexual rpons to both men and women.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Surveys for the Observer of ten and four years ago suggt that around 4 per cent of Brish men would ll themselv ‘homosexual’. Some of the men I slept wh have gone straight spe a strong cultural barrier to a gay man dog this. Some iends I thought — knew — to be straight have gone gay, or ‘bisexual’.

All all, I’ve probably slept wh as many straight men as self–intifyg gay or bisexual on: I doubt most were lyg, and some s have reason to know they weren’t. For every ‘bisexual’ man who’s actually gay but reluctant to say so, there’s a straight man who’s actually bisexual. And there are plenty of ‘gay’ men who know that, a different life, they uld reasonably ntentedly be straight.

In what pass for the gay ‘muny’, there’s somethg of a taboo about admtg, even to ourselv, that que a few of (not me) uld, wh a ltle axg and self-disciple, be ‘straight’. There exist strong reasons for this taboo among gays: first, ‘we n’t help ’ was absolutely central to our early pch for equaly, and we need to believe .

IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?

Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay? " Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

If a hband is gay, n vastate not only the relatnship but the straight wife as well. Signs of a Gay Hband – Is My Man Gay? The cleart way to know if your hband is gay is if he tells you.

If the hband is hont wh both you and wh himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you n tly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own.

CELEBRI WHO HAVE LEFT A GAY LIFTYLE

In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved. But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye.

CAN SOME GAY MEN AND LBIANS CHANGE THEIR SEXUAL ORIENTATN? 200 PARTICIPANTS REPORTG A CHANGE OM HOMOSEXUAL TO HETEROSEXUAL ORIENTATN

Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay. Signs Your Hband or Man May Be Gay. You fd pop-ups of gay pornography on the puter while he claims they are not his.

GAY CONVERSN: I SLEPT WH OVER 200 MEN, NOW I'M A HAPPILY MARRIED HETEROSEXUAL DAD

He adms to havg a homosexual enunter the past.

LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS

He viss gay bars claimg he's there only to hang out wh his gay iend(s). He watch porno movi wh gay male scen. He mak ntual homophobic ments or he mak too many gay ments nversatns.

His ego appears to be boosted by pliments om gay men. The signs a hband is gay are not meant to be five. A hband may be gay and display none of those signs or a hband may display the signs and not be gay.

The signs of a gay hband are signed as a startg pot. Kaye advis that women "follow their stcts" when cidg whether their hband may be gay. What If My Hband is Gay?