When Did You Know You Were Gay? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHEN DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE GAY?
• WHEN DID YOU REALIZE YOU WERE GAY?
• WHEN DID YOU REALISE/ACCEPT THAT YOU WERE GAY?

WHEN DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE GAY?

Then he addrsed the class, stctg each to take out a piece of paper and a pen and wre down the moment when we all realized we were gay. I had already been asked a ln tim, "When did you know you were gay", but I was thrilled to have someone state the qutn aloud, the ntext of an amic exercise. If I was gay, I wonred if meant that I would be required to cut my hair to a buzzcut like the (first, ostensibly) lbian (I had ever nfirmed as such) my mother had poted out to me at the Ralph Lren outlet a middle-class untry town you might fd somewhere like Vermont; a untry town where you might fd lbians.

Depictns of gay people were not flatterg. ), all gay men had AIDS. The very few gay men I knew did die of AIDS, though was rarely spoken about.

Other pictns of gay men were flamboyant queens, sissy effemate men, etc. Early on, I had hts I was gay, but I ignored them.

WHEN DID YOU REALIZE YOU WERE GAY?

He was my masturbatn material my teenage years, yet, I did not realize I was gay. When I was llege, I wanted to learn more about beg gay, so I went to Barn and Noble.

Not only did I know this is where a lot of gay men hung out, but B&N also had books on the subject. The first “gay” book I bought was Gvanni’s Room by Jam Baldw. Early gay fictn nearly always had tragic endgs.

WHEN DID YOU REALISE/ACCEPT THAT YOU WERE GAY?

This kept the realizatn I was gay at bay even longer. Slowly, however, I was g to the ncln I was fact gay. I got some gay vios through the mail, and I read Brad Gooch’s Fdg the Boyiend Wh: A Practil Gui for Tappg to Your Own Source of Love, Happs, and Rpect.

Yet, I still uldn’t adm to myself I was gay. It was an ugly scene; I nied I was gay. From then on, she spected I was gay, and ma me go to the closet even further.