Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T
• I DON'T WANT TO BE GAY ANYMORE
• KEV MAXEN, JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH, OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR U.S.-BASED PRO LEAGU
• CAN I STILL BE GAY IF I’M NOT LIBERAL?
• CAN PEOPLE STOP BEG GAY?
• THE MOST SHOCKG FACTS ABOUT GAY CONVERSN THERAPY
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• WHY GAY IS NOT OK
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Disregardg all evince that the ex-gay movement is credibly damagg to more than 90% of those who unrgo "treatment" (bee they clearly jt didn't believe God enough), Settg Captiv Free wants you to know that you were not "born this way.

I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T

" Homosexualy is a s that you need to purge om your system, and the only way to do is to follow their three-parts-a-day the app is only downloadable om Google Play (iTun and the 69, 822+ people who petned them don't believe nversn therapy for some reason), there is an abridged versn available on the mistry’s webse.

But Hont About Your S (But Not TOO Hont): Adm that you have homosexual tennci, but don’t say anythg else about . Stop Callg Your Homosexualy an "Alternative Liftyle": It's "Wicked, " "Evil, " and a "S": The are the only thgs you should ever ll om now on, preferably hhed ton. Even better, feel ee to refer to your homosexualy wh water-based metaphors: It's a "broken cistern" that will never satisfy your thirst.

Change For the Right Reasons (the Glory Of God): After all, homosexualy is nothg but "lt, porn, and sexual immoraly, " ss that are applible only to gay people and never to straight on. Always Read Scripture, But Only the Parts We Tell You to: Who knew curg homosexualy uld be so much like dog high school homework?

I DON'T WANT TO BE GAY ANYMORE

Remove Yourself From Anythg Even Remotely Gay: Don't watch porn (aga, 's only a gay thg), don't go on gay webs, and most of all, certaly don't associate wh gay people. Any of those thgs might make you feel like your homosexualy is a natural part of your inty and n be accepted by those around you. Realize That Beg Homosexual Mak You Feel Alone Fet that we told you to shut yourself away om most of the world, and ignore the ia that maybe gay people feel so alone bee of the discrimatory and hateful attus that they face, helped by people like .

Rencile Wh Those Who Tried to Help You Stop Beg Gay: All those people who lled you "faggot" and told you that you were gog to Hell?

If you tly believe God and want to change your sful ways, God will remove all homosexual urg om your md.

KEV MAXEN, JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH, OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR U.S.-BASED PRO LEAGU

But if at the end of this 60-day therapy, you still have homosexual tennci, then you didn't really believe and you didn't really want to change.

It is very homogeneo/ hetero-normative and beg a tholic stutn is not the easit environment for queer stunts.

By now u probably have an ia of what i am about to I am gayRyan: i n’t believe i jt told youMom: Are you jokg? Ryan: i know i amRyan: i don’t like hannahRyan: ’s jt a ver-upMom: but that don’t make you gay…Ryan: i knowRyan: but u don’t unrstandRyan: i am gayMom: tell me moreRyan: ’s jt the way i am and ’s somethg i knowRyan: u r not a lbian and u know that. Ryan: i am jt gayRyan: i am thatMom: I love you no matter whatRyan: i am whe not blackRyan: i knowRyan: i am a boy not a girlRyan: i am attracted to boys not girlsRyan: u know that about yourself and i know thisMom: what about what God thks about actg on the sir?

CAN I STILL BE GAY IF I’M NOT LIBERAL?

Not that we didn’t know and love gay people — my only brother had e out to several years before, and we adored him. He read all the Christian books that explaed where his gay feelgs me om and dove to unselg to further disver the orig of his unwanted attractn to other guys.

But not at all the way we had, when I thk back on the fear that erned all my reactns durg those first six years after Ryan told he was gay, I crge as I realize how foolish I was. Now, whenever Rob and I jo our gay iends for an eveng, I thk about how much I would love to be visg wh Ryan and his partner over dner.

CAN PEOPLE STOP BEG GAY?

In addn I was raised by a father who tried to remove anythg om my life that uld possibly turn me gay. I began meetg other gay people, lived wh a guy who I was a short term relatnship, after we parted I moved wh a lbian uple. How the Gay Communy is Dtroyg Part of ItselfIs the LGBTQ+ Communy jt as bad as the Evangelils we’re tght to hate?

Bee of the way I and many people like me have been treated by so-lled “thought lears” wh the LGBTQ+ Communy, you would e away wh the scere imprsn that no, you nnot be lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenred, queer or any other sort wh the Communy UNLESS you’re also a Woke, SJW, rd-rryg other words, at least the md of the people I’ve heard om personally, ’s MORE important for you to be a polil Liberal than is for you to be how you were that last paragraph sk for a of scere cursy, I posted this qutn to a popular social media group of LGBTQ+ folks. In fact there is not even a “Gay” Communy anymore, you MUST refer to wh the alphabet-soup label, which is currently LGBTQ+, but will change next month to somethg new, and jt about every month thereafter.

THE MOST SHOCKG FACTS ABOUT GAY CONVERSN THERAPY

You go to church and keep hearg about how lbians and gay people are an abomatn, how they are gog to hell, and you don’t unrstand why God is rejectg you before you even had a chance to say, ‘I don’t want this’.

I need to not be gay anymore, ” Bree a tearful breakup om her partner followg the liverance ssn, they got back together a week later, both exhsted om actg “healed. Through his work, Makanjuola has enuntered many people the lol lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer and tersex (LGBTQI) muny alg wh acute anxiety and prsn as a rult of performg straightns brought on by liverance attempts and nversn therapy. ”Makanjuola emphasis the need to nstct social norms society plac on people, whether gay or straight, and warns about the mental health stra that n arise om this nstant need to says her ep-seated distst of Nigeria’s mental health system prevented her om seekg profsnal help when g to terms wh her fah and sexualy.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

”Makanjuola says Nigeria’s LGBTQI muny often fac stigmatised rpons om healthre provirs bee of stutnalised homophobia and prejudice, makg difficult for them to seek help.

In this gui I'll be g faiar terms (like transgenr and cisgenr, non-bary, gay, straight, bisexual, and asexual/aromantic) bee the are the lived experienc that the ctomisatn optns aim to allow you to replite. Relig fundamentalists who believe homosexualy is a matter of choice nsir obv that gay people n reverse their cisns. The oppose mp argu that gays are "born that way, " and th that sexual reorientatn therapy is effective, as well as cel and the latter perspective hs closer to the mark, the science of sexualy supports a more measured stance.

There are no verified s of formerly gay people pletely riddg themselv of same-sex attractn, but do appear possible for some people who are predisposed to same-sex attractn to expand their sexual repertoire — velop attractns for oppose-sex partners as well, and even opt for the oppose sex exclively. As Diamond noted January the Archiv of Sexual Behavr, femal' sexual fluidy may emerge om the fdg that, across the board, they are sexually aroed by imag of both men and women (whereas men are typilly aroed only by members of their preferred sex) erotic plasticy may expla why women wh same-sex predisposns report better succs adjtg to heterosexual liftyl than gay men do.

WHY GAY IS NOT OK

"Lastly, gay people aren't really "born that way" the sense of havg same-sex attractns om the moment of birth.

Sexual orientatn cements around puberty, and acrdg to Gelf Rieger, a sexual orientatn rearcher at Cornell Universy, " is que possible that there are several fluenc on formg a homosexual orientatn. But nsirg that very few scientists view homosexualy as a problem needg fixg, will the clil reorientatn therapi ever be veloped? He don’t ny signg a 2015 law that ma okay for bs to discrimate agast gay people, or opposg the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell.

The Indiana ernor do mata, however, that he never supported the e of gay nversn therapy (the act of tryg to change someone’s sexual orientatn). Here’s what you need to know about the history of efforts to talk, pray, dg, shock, and even surgilly cut the gay away.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Frd apparently had no qualms wh gay men, but lbianism did not s right wh the father of psychoanalysis.