Why do my iends thk I'm gay, even though I'm not? And how do I stop people thkg that I'm gay? - Quora

Contents:

• HELP! MY ONLY FRIENDS ARE HOMOPHOBIC AND DON’T KNOW I’M GAY
• ASK POLLY: WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS THK I’M GAY?
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT
• AM I GAY?
• HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
• HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
• I’M PRETTY SURE MY IEND IS GAY. HOW DO I ASK HIM?

HELP! MY ONLY FRIENDS ARE HOMOPHOBIC AND DON’T KNOW I’M GAY

Why do my iends thk I'm gay, even though I'm not? And how do I stop people thkg that I'm gay?

Friends thk I'm gay, and 's gettg to me.

The problem my se is that both of my iends say homophobic thgs all the time, kd of as playful putdowns of each other. What they don't realize is that I am gay.

ASK POLLY: WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS THK I’M GAY?

I haven't told them bee I know where they stand on gay people; they thk gay marriage is an abomatn, and they thk beg gay is a choice as opposed to somethg you're born as.

I fear that if I tell them I'm gay, they will distance themselv om me and I'll end up beg totally iendls this world. My iends thk I’m gay help. To start, let me clarify that I don’t have anythg agast anyone who is gay, fact, my s gay, and that has never changed the way I’ve seen her.

However, as all straight guys n attt to, people thkg your gay is somethg we don’t want or like at all.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

Now here are the reasons why they thk I’m gay:.

Jt a uple days ago I told my iends about Gary, and as I told I jokgly said “yeah I asked for this du Gary’s snap at a cross untry meet one time, no homo tho”. They thk there was really no need for me sayg no homo, and that sce I said , I’m tryg to hi somethg, and that somethg is I’m gay. Reason 2: At lunch, they were clowng on me, as iends do, about Gary, and how gay I am.

At one pot time, back before 7th Gra, when I was first htg puberty, I really thought I was gay for like a 2 day time perd. Now I realize that ’s normal for dus to be weird out by that stuff when they first start to see girls as more than jt iends, but at the time I thought “Well, if straight guys like to jack to girls, and I don’t like the ia of jackg to them, then, the most obv ncln is that, I am a homosexual person”. Addnally, I was a pretty chubby guy 7th gra and very self nsc, and when I’d look at myself the mirror and then look at a guy who was mcley and toned and jt better lookg objectively, I would thk to myself “man I’d like to have that body”, and then those thoughts turned to “bro your gay bee you like the way the dus and their bodi look”.

PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT

I snapped out of that mdset pretty quickly bee I realized how stupid I was thkg, but I brought up to my iends a uple days ago and they never let me expla myself, and so now they jt thk I’m gay. So, my iends know all this about how I’m bad at talkg to girls, so they may see as I’m bad at talkg to girls bee I’m simply jt not to them, and that I’m to dus stead, and that I’m gay. So that’s why my iends thk I’m gay.

AM I GAY?

I’m very distrght bee the ia of word gettg around school (and pecially to the girls) that I’m gay or the ia of my buddi thkg Im a du that lik dus mak me crge. And, to make thgs worse, the more I try to expla myself the more I seem like I’m tryg to ver up the fact I’m secretly gay. However, I still feel like I need to say somethg, bee if I dont then they’re gog to still thk I’m gay.

Everyone I meet thks I’m gay. So ’s been a mon trend ever sce I was highschool that everyone always asks one way or another “is he gay” or “ are you gay” and ’s gettg irratg. ”Dear Polly, I fally garnered the urage to wre to you about my particular problem, and I hope you n shed some of your wisdom on the sce the 6th gra, people have been askg me if I’m gay.

HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

Back then, the other kids thought any person who was any b different om them was gay, and attached a bad meang to the word.

I found a great girl sophomore year and we dated up until senr year, but the askg still ntued, some of which was g om my clost high school, I tried as hard as I uld to rid myself of the label people had given me. It also didn’t really help my se that my bt iend me out that he was gay senr year. However, people I had barely e to ntact wh began walkg up to me and askg if I was gay.

And if nothg, am I really gay? Some of the women are hopg you’ll be the gay nfidant of their dreams, or maybe they want to be the one who gracefully hers you out of the closet.

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

(Intertgly, if you’re a women, the same behavrs will make people thk you’re gay. You have to five yourself for not livg up to your ternal fantasy of what you “should” ask, “If there’s nothg I n do to nvce people I’m not gay, then am I really gay?

I’M PRETTY SURE MY IEND IS GAY. HOW DO I ASK HIM?

You uld rent When I Knew, the documentary where gay men and women expla how they figured out they were or no duck, somethg feels unsettled to you about your inty right now.

And sce jog the fandoms I’ve been exposed to some very explic smut, het and gay. ) It’s rarer than beg gay or trans, so I feel sort of alienated and like I’d be makg a fs over nothg. There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay.

You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted. For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to. If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women.