“I Realized I Was Gay”: 29 Men In This Onle Group Who Came Out Later In Life Share What Was Their Turng Pot | Bored Panda

Contents:

• IN DEFENSE OF BEG BORG AND GAY
• “I REALIZED I WAS GAY”: 29 MEN IN THIS ONLE GROUP WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE SHARE WHAT WAS THEIR TURNG POT
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• IT'S TIME TO STOP PIGEONHOLG GAY MEN AS TOPS AND BOTTOMS
• HEY PANDAS, AT WHAT MOMENT DID YOU REALIZE YOU WERE GAY? (CLOSED)
• AM I GAY? QUIZ – 100% RELIABLE TT
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• SUP? LOOKG? PARTY? A GUI TO GAY APP LGO
• “I’M GAY AND I’M BORG”

IN DEFENSE OF BEG BORG AND GAY

About 10 years ago I saw John Waters give a lecture, and he said (and I’m paraphrasg here, bee was a long time ago), “Back when I was young the bt thg about beg gay was that you didn’t have to get married, have kids, or serve the ary. Much has changed 10 years, and gay Amerins have won rights many stat (but not all, so don’t get placent). Now the fight is about somethg different: It’s a fight between lettg beg gay fe a person or be jt one more fact about them.

Noted gay artist David Hockney recently told the Guardian that too many gay men now are “borg” bee they want to live “nservative” liv.

“I REALIZED I WAS GAY”: 29 MEN IN THIS ONLE GROUP WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE SHARE WHAT WAS THEIR TURNG POT

But most of what Hockney is sayg has to do wh the worry that the gay inty is slippg away. “We live the era domated by a born-this-way, ‘’s-a-small-part-of-me’ ethos that mimiz gay difference to sexual attractn, ” he wr. “The current dogma among mastream LGBTQ advocy anizatns and the majory of gay wrers and public figur se gayns as ltle more than a hazy accint of blogy that shouldn’t be legally or socially disadvantagg.

” Lowr is ncerned, as is Hockney, that gays are beg borg and losg that sense of shared touchston and flamboyant difference that once set them apart om the culture at large and ma them here as somethg that was like an ethnicy.

Gay kids many parts of the untry are much more accepted as they e out by iends, straight and gay, and don’t need to seek refuge wh their own kd. Frank Kameny, one of the founrs of the gay civil rights movement, told the first gay-rights prottors at the Whe Hoe that they should all wear sus or drs so that those power uld see that there was no difference between the picketers and everyday people. It’s a strategy that has worked wonrs for acceptance, makg gay people blend , and showg that there is ltle difference.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Now that the gay muny is startg to ga the equaly that has been fightg for, the nsequence is that they are jt as borg as everyone else. Jt like femism the ‘70s wasn’t about forcg women out of the hoe and to the workforce, was about givg them the choice to live any kd of life they wanted, the gay civil rights movement was about lettg gays have the social and legal protectn to live any kd of life they want as well. Its story begs 1978 when artist and signer Gilbert Baker was missned by San Francis cy supervisor Harvey Milk (one of the first openly gay elected officials the US) to make a flag for the cy's upg Pri, a proment gay rights activist himself, gave a nod to the strip of the Amerin flag but drew spiratn om nature too.

All across Twter, Facebook, and even text msag to fay members, people have taken upon themselv to profs their homophobic views. Below is a list om Bored Panda of people who had some pretty hilar and perfect rpons to homophobic ments (I thk 's safe to say that Gee Takei has the bt ebacks ever).

IT'S TIME TO STOP PIGEONHOLG GAY MEN AS TOPS AND BOTTOMS

Whether they’re obliv pletely by accint or entirely on purpose, the people pretend that folks who are lbian, gay, bi, trans, and queer don’t exist on Pla Earth. Accreded psychotherapist and thor Silva Nev, om the UK, explaed to Bored Panda why some people pretend that LGBTQ+ people don't exist and went to tail about the discrimatn, homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia they still have to al wh 2022. " Bored Panda had spoken about homophobia and why some people are homophobic wh Brish psychotherapist Silva before.

“If people grew up wh homophobic parents and they haven’t been exposed to different opns, they are more likely to be homophobic themselv.

HEY PANDAS, AT WHAT MOMENT DID YOU REALIZE YOU WERE GAY? (CLOSED)

Most Islamic untri have anti-gay laws wh punishment rangg om imprisonment to the ath penalty. Many people the UK growg up such hoeholds are more likely to be homophobic, ” the mental health expert poted out that homophobia is still very prevalent morn younger people want to be part of the ‘ crowd’ and adopt the beliefs of their iends and peers. “Teenagers n be homophobic as a way to nform to heterosexualy and be more accepted by their peers, ” Silva said.

Meanwhile, the therapist poted out that some people bee homophobic bee they are tryg to reprs and ny that they personally have same-sex attractns. “In beg homophobic they attempt to reprs their own feelgs by fightg agast the source of their aroal: the LGBTQ people, ” he said.

AM I GAY? QUIZ – 100% RELIABLE TT

“Pri is an opportuny for all of to e together celebratn, prott, and solidary wh lbian, gay, bi, and trans muni all over the world, ” Santos told about the extent to which Pri is celebrated each and every year. “All lbian, gay, bi, trans, and queer people should be able to thrive as themselv, but 2021, LGBTQ+ people are still beg held back bee of who we are, ” he explaed to prevly that even though there’s a lot of progrs, there are plenty of challeng that yet rema to be tackled.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

“At Stonewall, we’ll ntue to fight until every lbian, gay, bi, trans, and queer person is ee to be themselv, wherever they are, ” Santos said that the fight for equaly ntu. A month ago, at the age of 44, Amerin actor and former Whe Hoe staff member Kal Penn me out as gay by announcg his engagement wh his partner of 11 years, Takei, bt known as Mr. Sulu or that guy who nails the exclamatn Oh My, me out back 2005, when he was Ian McKellen, Lily Toml, Anrson Cooper, Ricky Mart, and many others me out much later their liv and reers for a multu of reasons, so ’s much more mon than one might on r/AskGaybrosOver30 have been sharg the exact stori.

Ksaim, Ron Frazier Report 61 (M), I me out as bisexual at 44, my stepson at 11-12 me out as gay and this phed me to be tthful. At that time the last thg you wanted to be was gay (at least my md)It wasn't until i was 26 or 27, i Fet, that a very good iend fally asked me when I was gonna e out of the closet.

SUP? LOOKG? PARTY? A GUI TO GAY APP LGO

Eventually, after a mental breakdown pretty much and a lot of booze and tears, I fally admted I was gay.

(this was the 90s Orlando FL)So my iend got me to talk to other gay guys and try and accept I didn't accept myself...

I jt admted to beg gay, but I didn't accept I moved and got to a job that put me a lot of small towns. I am still stgglg but now I don't put sex to "right" or "wrong" tegoriAnd I'm learng that beg gay is normal and not really a big al. Life is btal and terrible and lonely and horrible for a lot of people, gay straight, bi or whatever.

“I’M GAY AND I’M BORG”

[leted], Miguel Disrt Report I moved to Ireland jt before the referendum that legalized gay marriage.

I was fairly certa I wouldn't change, but I felt like I owed to God to try, before qutng and changg the beliefs I was raised spendg years dog all the manly thgs that were supposed to straighten me out, I had a particular weekend - a men-only whewater raftg trip - when I realized I had achieved all the thgs I was aimg for that were supposed to change me, and I was still 100% I knew the gay wasn't gog anywhere, I figured I would want to be able to be open and hont wh people om then on, regardls of how the rt of my life went. Kasuri, Jakub Sztowicki Report Why not so much later life, but I me out at 28, always knew I was gay, but didn't have the nfince or self worth to do until I REALLY had to, by which time I had been married for over 4 years.

The ter and beg able to chat to other men was my way of reachg out, as I never would have gone to a gay 2002 got to the pot where I REALLY need to fd out, so I arranged to meet a guy and loved , 2 weeks later I met another guy, 2 months after that I me out to myself, 2 months after that I me out to my then wife and then fay and iends the followg day.