Why Are Most of My Gay Friends Sgle? - Philalphia Weekly

Contents:

• HOW TO HAVE A GAY FRIEND
• MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND
• AM I GAY?
• I’M NOT HOMOPHOBIC, I HAVE A GAY IEND…
• GAY CSH ON A ... GAY FRIEND?
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS
• I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
• HOW TO FD YOUR GAY BT FRIEND
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• WHY ARE MOST OF MY GAY FRIENDS SGLE?
• IT’S OKAY FOR CHRISTIANS TO HAVE GAY FRIENDS

HOW TO HAVE A GAY FRIEND

Whether you're gay and lookg for gay iends or you're tryg to help a iend who's e out, we've got you vered! If you already have gay iends, ask them to troduce you to some of their gay iends so you n expand your work. If you get asked to hang out wh a gay iend, do even if you're not really exced about sce 's an opportuny to meet iends.

The are great sual plac to meet other gays, pecially if you're to a quieter atmosphere or aren't old enough to go to a bar. " Obvly, jog a gay-rights group is an optn for meetg gay iends, but you uld branch out to anythg you're terted .

For example, you might jo an LGBT service group that plants tre, distribut food or suppli to the homels, or rais awarens for gay rights. While n be easier to go to popular gay spots, don't overlook the fact that gay people are at the store, library, rtrant, etc. " They may ask you out, or if they get the sense that you're gay, they may be able to pot you to a well-known LGBT spot town.

MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND

For example, if you hear someone say, "That's so gay, " you uld say, "How do you thk that would make a gay person feel? You might read about qutns that you shouldn't ask, the stggl a gay person go through, and what the gay muny is like your area.

At tim, many gay men feel as though they're the only on experiencg certa thoughts and feelgs, on that society still often ems abnormal. So when a gay man first bonds wh someone else who intifi as gay or queer, 's evably a total lightng bolt moment. But I still remember clumsily g out to him after a Le Tigre ncert and him sayg, "I thk I'm gay, too.

He didn't still a sense of ternalized homophobia me, which was important bee I was a mpy gay guy who'd always been teased for beg mpy. " He gave me the permissn to be myself when I didn't even know who that, on DeanI grew up a small nservative town and didn't know anyone gay at school, so I met my first gay iends through social media.

AM I GAY?

Wh this tt, you n fd out where you lie on the spectm of heterosexual, homosexual, allosexual, and asexual. Jt for funI'm spic that I may be gayI've never had a csh on anyone, and am unsure where I lie on the spectm of sexualyWhat would your ial partner be if you two are gog to spend a week on an island?

Havg sex wh the person I love mostCuddlg wh the person I love mostJt beg next to the person I love mostHangg out wh iends / beg aloneHow would you feel if your bt iend me out as gay? Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc.

I’M NOT HOMOPHOBIC, I HAVE A GAY IEND…

Like any other day I was browsg through my Facebook newsfeed, and ran to a post om a person who I nsir a iend, said post stated “People are makg me look like the biggt homophobic, the tth is that I don’t re what gay people do wh their liv, fact I have a gay iend, but still I don’t agree wh them adoptg children, and that is my opn. But what I found tertg was how he ed “his gay iend” as some kd of validatn of him not beg homophobic.

GAY CSH ON A ... GAY FRIEND?

I was astonished, how n someone state that they are not homophobic but also say all those hurtful unstaed allegatns. Then dawn on me that people don’t know what beg homophobic is, and also believe that havg a “gay iend” s a ee out of jail rd for sayg prejudice thgs agast the LGBTQ muny.

Homophobia is observable cril and hostile behavr such as discrimatn and vlence on the basis of sexual orientatns that are non-heterosexual. I know my iends don’t hate gay people, but homophobia is not jt hate, hate is jt one end of the spectm, there is so much between hate and acceptance.

As my iend said, he don’t re about gay people, and bee they don’t re they don’t know and bee they don’t know they don’t unrstand and bee they don’t unrstand the have prejudice agast the LGBTQ muny. And you n see this prejudice my iends statement that he don’t agree gay upl should adopt, closed his own opn wh no rearch whatsoever, which is a rult of his ignorance on the subject and yet wh a very strong opn about .

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

A prejudiced person may not act on their attu, but the moment you voice your opn and mpaign agast that certa group, your prejudice be discrimatn and all that is what f beg homophobic. Focg on my iend, he n have all the gay iends that he wants for personal reasons, maybe he thks they are a good time. But still he don’t thk they are worthy of beg parents, the fact that they are gays weights more on all the other quali that they have, so to him beg gay on s own won’t make them good parents.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

And that statement alone is prejudice, so I’m sorry my iend but havg a gay iend don’t tomatilly not make you homophobic. LGBT is still a popular term ed to discs genr and sexual mori, but all GSRM are wele beyond lbian, gay, bisexual, and transgenr people who nsent to participate a safe space. Gay iend, told him I liked him (same feelgs as you: butterfli, always sg when I see him, n only thk of him...

We talked earlier today, and I jt flat out asked him why he wouldn't talk to me, and he said he was jt really trated - that he wasn't sure if he was gay anymore and that he was havg genr inty issu as well. You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted. For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to.

If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women. One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born. The hormone exposure levels may manift actual, physil ways which n be a vague ditor that a guy might be gay.

HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS

It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens. Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge.

Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny. The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together.

I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG

There's the stereotype that if a guy is a good drser or if he spends a bunch of time on his hair, he's gay.

HOW TO FD YOUR GAY BT FRIEND

Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay. Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you. You n talk about another iend that is gay or even jt about someone hypothetilly g out if you don't know someone who's gay.

He do a great job of showg people that there's more to gay people than all those offensive stereotyp. This is the bt way to fd out if someone is gay and much ls offensive than makg assumptns about them.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Say somethg like, "You know you're stuck wh me as a iend no matter what, but I jt have to ask bee I don't want to make assumptns and e to the wrong nclns: are you gay? Article SummaryXTo tell if your guy iend is gay, notice whether he refers to other guys as attractive, which uld be a sign that he’s gay.

Pay attentn to how much he talks about women a romantic or sexual way, sce a lack of tert women uld suggt he’s gay. Keep md that experienc of sexual aroal are extremely nuanced, and aren’t ncrete proof that you’re gay. You may be gay, but you uld also be pansexual or bisexual if you sometim thk about the other genr.

Keep md that even if you have a sexual experience wh someone of the same genr or another genr, that don’t necsarily mean that you’re gay. Thgs would be so simple if you uld jt label yourself as gay and be done wh , but may not be that easy.

WHY ARE MOST OF MY GAY FRIENDS SGLE?

That means, for example, that you n be transgenr but also straight (for stance, you might intify as a woman and feel attracted to men) or gay (e. Article SummaryXIf you’re not sure how to know if you are gay, thk about any past romantic experienc you have had. If you have had romantic experienc or fantasi volvg people who are the same genr as you, then there is a good chance you are gay or bisexual, but 's okay if you're a ltle nfed.

Every time you attend a Pri March, ftival or cent Gay Club Night, you may have noticed jt how many fellow queers live your cy.

There are a few webs that list specialized LGBTQ meet-ups, but hontly, simply Google your hobby, cy, and the word "gay" and see what up. Post notic general birdg, bikg, and crochetg areas to let folks know you'd like to enjoy your pastime wh gay pany.

IT’S OKAY FOR CHRISTIANS TO HAVE GAY FRIENDS

Jog a gay-rights anizatn is an obv way to meet gay people, but you uld broan out to anythg you're terted . When I me out to my parents I started off by sayg "Hey one of my iends me out to me and said they were gay what should I do? Raise your glass of weak vodka soda garnished wh 1/18th of a lime to the ever-so-important gay iend group.

) To be ank, havg a gay iend group is as important to queer life as iced ffee ’s a sad but te fact that growg up gay n be an isolatg experience. ) On top of that, take to acunt the hurdl of gay culture: beg the closet, g out, homophobia, ternalized homophobia, and velopg ep, unrequed csh on straight acquatanc om high school you barely spoke to, cludg that guy who was two years olr than you wh the dirty brown hair and always wore tank tops durg the summer and uld have moled and now is probably married wh three kids and I’m pretty sure his name was Ian. Somewhere along this super gay marathon (and I’m reag om sertg a pole metaphor here, send ngratulatns at your nvenience), you slowly accumulate some like-md iends beyond the people you’re hookg up wh or datg, and beg to realize there are ed others who have wad through the same torrent of emotns and experienc you’ve enuntered.