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Then my gaze fell to the ground as I tried to nvce myself that what she was sayg was te. “Yeah, you know what? You’re right. I didn’t do anythg. Everythg will be fe.” A few days earlier, word had spread around the mp of our Christian llege that a rint advisor one of the dorms had been fired, and as much as the school’s admistratn tried to ver up, we all knew why. The mere mentn of a same-sex relatnship or enunter was enough to get you sent to mandatory unselg. It didn’t take much imagatn for to put together.\r\nCan You Be Fired for Beg Gay? You Defely Can.\r\nShortly after the firg, the rt of the rint assistants had a secret meetg. We pooled to a small apartment to be briefed on the suatn. I don’t remember much about what was said. All I uld thk was: I’m next. The followg day I received a phone ll om my boss, the head of rince life, askg me to e to his office for a talk. It would be the first of eight meetgs that I’d have over the next 24 hours. From his office, I went to the unselg center, to my own personal unselor off-mp, back to mp to meet wh the head of the unselg center and fally back to my boss’ office aga—where I answered the same qutns I’d answered jt a few hours before. Each meetg had different elements, but all shared the same goal of termg whether my prence was a risk to the mp. The ultimate cisn was up to the school’s print and vice print. In each meetg I went to, I was told that all the rmatn I shared would be reported back to them. What I didn’t know was that they’d already ma their cisn. Ten mut after end, I received a phone ll to e to my fal meetg, where I was brought to the disciplary office and greeted by a face that I knew well. I had been a disciplhip group lear one of her class the year prr. She had tears her ey. Turng her face toward me she said, “I’m so sorry to do this, but the universy has termed that you are a risk to the mp and we need you to move out of your dorm by noon tomorrow.” I remember askg why, but I already knew. Later I would fd out that the wealthy parents of a few stunts had lled and plaed about gay RAs. They threatened to pull their children om the school and pull their fundg for new buildgs that were already beg nstcted on mp. It was the worship of money and votn to fear that termed my fate that day.\r\nBeg Fired Sent Me Spiralg Into Deprsn\r\nI remember walkg out of that meetg, not beg able to feel anythg. Five more meetgs followed and rried on late to the night. I packed and moved out the next morng, storg all of my belonggs at my iend’s place and sleepg on her floor. The first night, I laid on her bedroom rpet, surround by the box holdg everythg that I owned, and thought back to my roommate tellg me that they uldn’t fire me. But they had. They’d wield their power as a private Christian universy to throw me away. I’d given everythg to the universy—to my iends, lleagu, profsors and boss. I’d led untls groups and events. I was nsistently pourg out all of the love I had wh me. But there I lay, flat on the ground, outed to the entire universy, wh no home, no money and no job. I hontly do not know how I managed to graduate the followg semter, or how I’m still here today to wre down the memori. At the begng of 2016, I was admted to a mental health facily after a suici attempt. On the night I tried to take my own life, I wrhed and cried on my bedroom floor, beggg, “I jt want to be ee.” I had grown tired of rryg my own story—the memori, the grief, the betrayal.\r\nGettg Fired for Beg Gay Was My Ticket to Freedom\r\nLtle did I know I’d end up gettg ee after all, at a hospal alongsi other women who wanted the same thg. Twelve of them watched me be wheeled to the ward. After beg procsed, I sat down at the fay-style table the middle of the room. A few other women were lorg, and whout a word, they passed me the lored pencils. Jt like that, I was weled to their circle. We were women who had been chewed up and sp out by the world, rryg more spirual weight than our bodi uld hold. Yet we me together this dark and awful place and offered each other what the world had nied : a place where we felt wele. We ma for ourselv, wh matted hair, no bras and worn scbs. A uple of days to my stay, one of the women me up to me and asked me about myself. Her first qutn was, “So do you have a boyiend?” I lghed, “No, I’m gay.” She quickly replied, “Well, do you have a girliend?” We both lghed, and as I sed, I found myself lost wonr at how simple and easy this part of my life uld be. Maybe I didn’t have to expla myself to every Christian iend who wanted to know how I thought beg gay was acceptable. 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Contents:

• RISHI SUNAK APOLOGIS TO LGBT VETERANS FOR PAST ARMED FORC GAY BAN
• WORKERS N’T BE FIRED FOR BEG GAY OR TRANSGENR, SUPREME COURT L
• TEACHER: I WAS FIRED FOR BEG GAY. NOW IT CAN’T HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE
• WORKERS N'T BE FIRED FOR BEG GAY OR TRANSGENR, SUPREME COURT SAYS LANDMARK LG
• FIRED FOR BEG OPENLY GAY
• FIRED FOR BEG GAY
• TEACHER FIRED FOR BEG GAY GETS AN APOLOGY FOUR DES LATER
• CAN YOU BE FIRED FOR BEG GAY? ANSWER PENDS LARGELY ON WHERE YOU LIVE
• FIRG OF GAY CATHOLIC SCHOOL TEACHER ULD TT LATT SUPREME COURT LG
• 15 STAT WHERE IT'S LEGAL TO FIRE SOMEONE FOR BEG GAY
• I WAS FIRED FOR BEG GAY, BUT NOW I'M FREE
• DPE SUPREME COURT LG, YOU N STILL GET FIRED FOR BEG GAY, TRANSGENR | WEBB
• £50,000 PAYOUT FOR GAY MAN FIRED BY RAF

RISHI SUNAK APOLOGIS TO LGBT VETERANS FOR PAST ARMED FORC GAY BAN

*Government lays ban for five years*Prsure on Sunak to act*LGBTQ+ activists fear loophol*Campaigners divid over trans rightsBy Lucy MiddletonLONDON, July 20 (Thomson Rters Foundatn) - When Alex me out as gay, the 15-year-old’s parents issued a stark ultimatum: unrgo nversn therapy or clear out of the fay home the northern English cy of chose optn one and unrwent multiple ssns wh elrs om the fay’s Jehovah’s Wns ngregatn, seekg a ‘cure’ for homosexualy.

WORKERS N’T BE FIRED FOR BEG GAY OR TRANSGENR, SUPREME COURT L

A ernment survey showed that more than half of Brons who had tried nversn therapy were offered through a relig group, almost 12% were signposted by a health re Ozanne, a gay evangelil her 50s who chairs the UK’s Ban Conversn Therapy Coaln, sought treatment her 20s and 30s, after fallg love wh a procs led to hospal admissn for a nervo breakdown. Prime Mister Rishi Sunak apologized Wednday for the treatment of gay veterans, sayg that a prev ban on LGBTQ+ people servg the U. ”The apology me after an pennt review published Wednday timated that hundreds, if not thoands, of veterans were dismissed or suffered unr an official ban on homosexualy the U.

TEACHER: I WAS FIRED FOR BEG GAY. NOW IT CAN’T HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE

“As today’s report mak clear, that perd many endured the most horrific sexual abe and vlence, homophobic bullyg and harassment, all while bravely servg this untry, ” Sunak told Parliament. It documented the effects of what lled “an prehensible policy of homophobic bigotry our armed forc. Veterans’ ttimoni “give shockg evince of a culture of homophobia, and of bullyg, blackmail and sexual asslts, abive vtigatns to sexual orientatn and sexual preference, disgraceful medil examatns, cludg nversn therapy, ” the report said.

Olympic gold medallist Kelly Holm, who had served the Brish army and who me out as gay last year, said meant “a huge amount” to hear the ernment apology.

“From a personal pot of view, the ban affected me terms of who I was and what I uldn’t be for 34 years, ” Holm ban on homosexualy was abandoned 2000, when the European Court of Human Rights led favor of four service personnel who were vtigated and then discharged bee of their sexualy. Image source, Emma RileyImage ptn, Rad operator Emma Riley was discharged om the Navy for beg a lbian the 1990sRishi Sunak has apologised for the historil treatment of LGBT veterans who were sacked or forced out of the ary for beg PM lled the ban an "appallg failure" of the Brish was illegal to be gay the Brish ary until 2000 - wh thoands of veterans thought to be affected.

WORKERS N'T BE FIRED FOR BEG GAY OR TRANSGENR, SUPREME COURT SAYS LANDMARK LG

Addrsg MPs, the prime mister said: "Many endured the most horrific sexual abe and vlence, homophobic bullyg and harassment all while bravely servg this untry.

"The LGBT Veterans Inpennt Review, led by Bra's first openly gay judge Lord Etherton, began last year and heard about the experienc of 1, 145 veterans between 1967 to 2000. Homosexualy was crimalised the UK 1967 but a ban ntued the armed forc.

FIRED FOR BEG OPENLY GAY

Acrdg to the report, the Mistry of Defence said at the time that jtifitn for the policy clud "matenance of operatnal effectivens and efficiency" - but the report said there had been an "prehensible policy of homophobic bigotry" the armed forc. It heard shockg acunts of homophobia, bullyg, blackmail, sexual asslts, "disgraceful" medil examatns, and nversn mak 49 remendatns to the ernment cludg:Affected veterans to be given an "appropriate fancial reward" pped at £50m overallThe rtoratn of medals that had to be hand back on dismissal or dischargeThe clarifitn of pensn rights The prentatn of a special veterans' badgeThe ernment said would rpond full after summer of the veterans affected watched the PM's public of them, Emma Riley, 51, was a Royal Navy rad operator for three years before she was arrted and discharged for beg a lbian after tellg a lleague her sexualy the early told BBC News she weled the report, and hoped would be put to place "swiftly. Carol Man, who was dismissed after tellg her boss she was gay 1978, kept her sexualy secret for another 30 years and said she had been "robbed" of her life.

"Olympian Dame Kelly Holm, who served the army and me out as gay last year, lled the publitn of the report a "historic moment", while Cathere Dixon, a former army officer who is now vice chair at Stonewall, said was "an important step towards jtice" for those whose ary reers were "ed" bee of their sexualy. Many still have a crimal rerd to this also tails how some veterans faced a plete loss of e, while others were emed eligible to claim their pensn bee of their report more than 20 years after four servicemen and women, who were sacked for beg gay, won a se the European Court of Human Rights and overturned the armed forc chary Royal Brish Legn lled on the ernment to accept the report's remendatns chary's director general Charl Byrne weled both the report and Mr Sunak's "landmark apology", sayg many people who had dited their liv to the untry were "forced or felt prsured to leave the armed forc, and this mistreatment stroyed or shortened their reer". A 6-3 vote cid that a key provisn of the Civil Rights Act, Tle VII, which bars job discrimatn bee of reasons such as genr, clus bias agast gay workers.

FIRED FOR BEG GAY

“An employer who fir an dividual for beg homosexual or transgenr fir that person for tras or actns would not have qutned members of a different sex, " Jtice Neil Gorsuch wrote for the urt. "The Gay and Transgenr muny jt whooped Tmp’s ass, and Jtice Gorsuch helped!

Kennedy was a voice for gay rights and the thor of the landmark lg 2015 that ma same-sex marriage legal throughout the Uned Stat.

There may not yet be te equaly this untry, but we are equal on paper for the very first I was born 1964, Illois was the only state that did not have an anti-sodomy law that crimalized gay relatnships. As a stunt, I never heard a teacher say a posive thg about lbian, bisexual, gay, or transgenr people.

TEACHER FIRED FOR BEG GAY GETS AN APOLOGY FOUR DES LATER

I’m probably alive today bee of I told my mother I was gog to be a teacher she said, “You are gay. Gay teachers. Shortly after I beme the Oregon State Teacher of the Year 2014, I was fired for not beg able to keep my mouth shut after my school warned me not to say public that I was gay.

As a gay man, I n make the life of Ls, Gs, Bs, and Ts better by havg a picture of my fay on my sk.

CAN YOU BE FIRED FOR BEG GAY? ANSWER PENDS LARGELY ON WHERE YOU LIVE

It might be the only time their K-12 school experience when a stunt se that gay people have normal liv wh dogs and barbecu the backyard.

FIRG OF GAY CATHOLIC SCHOOL TEACHER ULD TT LATT SUPREME COURT LG

Bostock was fired bee he joed a gay softball league. Read that sentence but take out the word “gay. ” I was fired bee I was openly gay.

Take out “gay” and replace wh all the other thgs I am: gger, Irish, a lapsed Catholic, a member sce 1973 wh lifetime standg of the Archie Comics Fan Club. I’m a lot of thgs, none of which I should have been fired schools eventually reopen, LGBT teachers will walk through those doors for the first time knowg they n no longer be fired for beg gay. "An employer who fir an dividual for beg homosexual or transgenr fir that person for tras or actns would not have qutned members of a different sex.

The Supreme Court s volved two gay men and a transgenr woman who sued for employment discrimatn after they lost their jobs. The feral appeals urt  New York led favor of a gay skydivg stctor who claimed he was fired bee of his sexual orientatn. He tried to put a woman wh whom he was jumpg at ease by explag that he was gay.

15 STAT WHERE IT'S LEGAL TO FIRE SOMEONE FOR BEG GAY

In a se om Geia, the feral appeals urt  Atlanta led agast Gerald Bostock, a gay employee of Clayton County, the Atlanta suburbs. Bostock claimed he was fired 2013 bee he is gay.

Circu Court of Appeals dismissed Bostock's claim a three-page opn that noted the urt was bound by a 1979 cisn that held "discharge for homosexualy is not prohibed by Tle VII.

I WAS FIRED FOR BEG GAY, BUT NOW I'M FREE

Campaigners agast the Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) policy, which bans openly gay people om servg the US armed forc, were offered hope when Harry Reid, the Senate majory lear, said he would schle a vote on next week. Their mpaign was given add impet when Lady Gaga turned up at Sunday's MTV mic awards wh four former service members who had been discharged unr the law, and, an terview on Monday, asked her fans to tweet Reid about the the law was brought by Print Clton 1993, was a promise, replacg a total ban on gay people the ary.

And even if DADT is scrapped, seems unlikely that those who have been discharged will be Rhonda Davis served the US navy for 11 years before her honty about beg gay lost her her job. "I me across a lot more gay men than lbians my time there, " says Davis. And they really don't like when a pretty woman turns them down, whether she's straight or gay.

DPE SUPREME COURT LG, YOU N STILL GET FIRED FOR BEG GAY, TRANSGENR | WEBB

Some gay people the armed forc say their sexualy is an "open secret" among lleagu. When she mentned beg gay, the recment officer said she wasn't really supposed to tell anyone, but he was happy to sign her up.

"As soon as he found out I was gay, he shouldn't have let me jo, but he did – probably to boost his numbers – and I soon found myself on the 10-week bootmp trag urse.

Later, my immediate supervisor said, 'We all know you're gay, but you know you uld really get kicked off for this. Claim: Map shows stat which employe n be "fired for beg gay. I saw a map of stat where you n be fired for beg gay.

£50,000 PAYOUT FOR GAY MAN FIRED BY RAF

Origs: The map displayed above intifi twenty-ne stat (shown red) where, acrdg to the acpanyg tle, "you n be fired for beg gay. While the twenty-ne stat shown red above may currently lack statewi laws prohibg discrimatn on the basis of sexual orientatn, is not te that all employers all of those stat may eely fire employe "for beg gay. "But more than four s after what Jim Gaylord, now 76, refers to as “the unpleasant event, ” the Washgton school district that he was fired om will offer a public apology.

Gaylord was paid a vis om the Wilson High School vice print around Thanksgivg 42 years ago, he relled. A stunt had recently speculated that his teacher was gay, and the vice prcipal approached Gaylord to qutn him about the claim.