Our advice lumnist, Adam Blum of San Francis's Gay Therapy Center, on the nflict over sire and personal objectiv.
Contents:
- WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
- I AM A GUY, AND I GET SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN. AM I GAY?
- WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
- HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
- STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
Straight women get om gay men what they don't get om straight men. * i'm attracted to a gay man *
In many ways, gay men and straight women are a perfect pairg. For the most part, relatnships between gay men and straight women are healthy and posive, wh one exceptn I'll get to later.
In the vast majory of s, relatnships between gay men and straight women are platonic. Sure, an ocsnal teenage girl falls for a boy who's gay, but don't take most girls very long to figure out that, this se, where there's smoke, there's most fely not fire. In general, the attractn women feel for gay men tends to be emotnal nature, clearg the way for a highly satisfyg relatnship that outlasts most other relatnships gay men and straight women have.
I AM A GUY, AND I GET SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN. AM I GAY?
Straight women get om gay men what they don't get om straight men. * i'm attracted to a gay man *
To beg, I'll addrs how and why straight women are emotnally attracted to gay men—an attractn, by the way, that is returned by gay men spas.
WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
* i'm attracted to a gay man *
Reasons women may be attracted to gay men. First, bee most straight women don’t feel sexual toward gay men, the relatnship don’t rry the threat of sexual tensn. Send, straight women love gay men bee closens wh gay men provis a wdow to how the mds of men work, somethg that women want to know as they navigate datg waters wh their straight male peers.
Though there are, of urse, differenc between straight and gay men, gay men are neverthels men who share many characteristics and motivatns wh straight men. When to the sexualy of young straight and gay men—meang, how equently they thk about sex, want , or feel impatient to get to the actual sex part—there are undoubtedly siari. When a straight woman hangs out wh a gay man, she begs to put the puzzle together that men, general, treat sex differently than women do.
HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
Fally, straight women love gay men bee they are emotnally attracted to the fearlsns and lack of self-nscns gay men.
In general, gay men, and gay women, too, tend to be more fearls than their straight unterparts—particularly straight men—bee they’ve ually experienced bullyg and prejudice bee of their sexual orientatn. The experienc fortify gay men wh thicker sk.
STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
As out adults, gay men ually learn to accept themselv and stop tryg so hard to w the approval and acceptance of others. Siarly, the iendship of gay men offers somethg different than the pannship of straight men.
Meanwhile, gay men have the social license to be as outrageo or emotnal as they want to be bee gay men don't have to f to such a tightly prcribed role. As I mentned at the begng, not all relatnships between straight women and gay men are healthy. While not the majory, some straight women love gay men for different reasons.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
The group of women I’m referrg to are often lled "f*g hags, " a term that manag to be rogatory toward two groups: women and gay men.