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Contents:
- AS A GAY MAN, THE '80S CRIPPLED MY INTY
- THATCHER, AIDS AND HOPELSNS: GROWG UP GAY THE 1980S AND 90S
- GAY THE 1980S: GROWG UP UNR THE SHADOW OF AIDS AND HOW GENERATN X CONMNED THE FUTURE TO DEATH
- GROWING UP GAY IN THE 80S: TWO VERY CLOSE IENDS ALG WH THE SAME SECRET VERY DIFFERENT WAYS, A GUT POST BY SEAN HAY, TODD MILLER, AND CARLYN GREENWALD
- THATCHER, AIDS AND HOPELSNS: GROWG UP GAY THE 1980S AND 90S
- YOUR PERSPECTIVE IS YOUR RELIGN: GROWG UP GAY THE 80S AND 90S
- GROWG UP GAY THE 1980S
- GAYSPE #10: GROWG UP GAY THE 80’S AND 90’S
- GROWG UP GAY THE 1960S AND 70S
- THE CHALLENG OF GROWG UP GAY 1980S EXETERWRER AND PRODUCER BEN SANTAMARIA REFLECTS ON HIS TIME AS A TEENAGER DEVONVONLIVEBOOKMARKSHARECOMMENTSNEWSBYCHARLOTTE VOWLDEVONLIVE REPORTER21:15, 7 FEB 2021UPDATED09:58, 8 FEB 2021BOOKMARKBEN AT EXETER'S BIKHED THEATRE (IMAGE: RYAN PRICE)SIGN UP FOR OUR EXETER NEWSLETTER AND YOU'LL NEVER MISS A BIG STORY AGAMORE NEWSLETTERS SUBSCRIBEINVALID EMAILSOMETHG WENT WRONG, PLEASE TRY AGA LATER.MORE NEWSLETTERSWE E YOUR SIGN-UP TO PROVI NTENT WAYS YOU’VE NSENTED TO AND IMPROVE OUR UNRSTANDG OF YOU. THIS MAY CLU ADVERTS OM AND THIRD PARTI BASED ON OUR KNOWLEDGE OF YOU. MORE THANK YOU FOR SUBSCRIBG!WE HAVE MORE NEWSLETTERSSHOW ME SEE OURPRIVACY NOTICE SEE OURPRIVACY NOTICE&TIM;GROUP 28 SIGN UP FOR OUR EXETER NEWSLETTER AND YOU'LL NEVER MISS A BIG STORY AGAINVALID EMAILSOMETHG WENT WRONG, PLEASE TRY AGA LATER.SIGN UPNO THANKS, CLOSEWE E YOUR SIGN-UP TO PROVI NTENT WAYS YOU’VE NSENTED TO AND IMPROVE OUR UNRSTANDG OF YOU. THIS MAY CLU ADVERTS OM AND THIRD PARTI BASED ON OUR KNOWLEDGE OF YOU. MORE &TIM;GROUP 28THANK YOU FOR SUBSCRIBG!
- 'THERE WERE NO MOLS': GROWG UP THE 70S WH AN OUT GAY DAD
- IN 1980S MIAMI, THE TRIPLE CRISIS OF GROWG UP BLACK, GAY AND POOR
- PRI AND PREJUDICE FOR GAY MEN
- 'IT'S A S' BRGS A LOST GENERATN OF GAY MEN TO LIFE
AS A GAY MAN, THE '80S CRIPPLED MY INTY
While there have, undoubtedly, been signifint ton LGBT history earlier s, I believe the Eighti was a particularly important perd. That saw a major shift towards the emergence of a global gay culture. The gay genie me right out of s ltle pk bottle and to the streets (and the * growing up gay in the 80s *
For example, the UK’s ernment add Sectn 28 to their Lol Government Act that ma illegal for lol thori to support anythg that promoted homosexual relatnships as an alternative to a heterosexual “fay life”.
Bee no one really knew anythg about AIDS when spread like wildfire the 80s, many referred to as the “gay plague” and many wanted this to lead to a ban on homosexualy. Another was a Greek God of virily that ed his powers of bety and mcle to enchant both the guys and the girls… safely leveragg the nvenient tth that most of his peers wouldn’t be able to associate masculy wh homosexualy.
THATCHER, AIDS AND HOPELSNS: GROWG UP GAY THE 1980S AND 90S
I don't s around feelg sorry for myself as a rult of my experienc of growg up gay the late 1980s and early 1990s. Ined, there were other factors my childhood, entirely unrelated to my sexualy, that exerted negative forc on that perd of my life. * growing up gay in the 80s *
In the UK, the Thatcher ernment created Sectn 28 of the Lol Government Act, makg illegal for lol thori to support anythg that might promote homosexual relatnships as a viable alternative to heterosexual ‘fay life’. And even the US Army, who had clared homosexualy to be “patible wh ary service” 1982, were forced to adm 1989 that gay recs were “jt as good or better” than heterosexuals. Beg gay amounted to a ath sentence, and I uld not pe wh forward four years and to the image of a teenage boy on his kne church, sperately prayg for dive terventn.
GAY THE 1980S: GROWG UP UNR THE SHADOW OF AIDS AND HOW GENERATN X CONMNED THE FUTURE TO DEATH
Growg up the 1980s, as a boy thkg that you are gay, was often a day to day stggle wh a visn of homosexualy that went om humoro and reee, a flourishg the […] * growing up gay in the 80s *
Ultimately, I would e to believe that short of celtial tercsn, I would be forced to make a choice; to nceal my doomed te self or risk wdg up hell by livg as an openly gay man and therefore sufferg a protracted, paful mise. Sectn 28, troduced 1988, ma school an exclively heteronormative environment, wh no avenue of advice or support, lt they fell foul of the ban on the 'promotn of homosexualy'.
Combe this wh an abject lack of 'out and proud' public figur and you found yourself antilly seekg shelter om a perfect storm of voic screamg at you that there was no 'pri' to be found beg gay. Certaly, for those young people growg up gay at the time, any cultural reference to issu such as gay parentg, dg e and discrimatn, n only have seemed like a stri forward.
GROWING UP GAY IN THE 80S: TWO VERY CLOSE IENDS ALG WH THE SAME SECRET VERY DIFFERENT WAYS, A GUT POST BY SEAN HAY, TODD MILLER, AND CARLYN GREENWALD
In a very personal piece, Lee Williscroft-Ferris discs growg up gay the 80s and 90s. * growing up gay in the 80s *
At the age of 20 and wh the most character-buildg perd my journey to self-acceptance behd me, the dawn of gay reprentatn mastream media me a ltle too late to be of benef to me personally. In 1967, the Sexual Offenc Bill was passed, crimilisg homosexual acts between two long as they were over 21, both nsentg, and nductg any sexual acts wh the privacy of their own hom.
THATCHER, AIDS AND HOPELSNS: GROWG UP GAY THE 1980S AND 90S
The 80's and 90's Did Not Bo Well for Gay Geeks Growg Into Adulthood. Eric Acunts of His Experienc wh Popular Culture vs. His Self Inty. See? We Get Deep Here on the Spe. * growing up gay in the 80s *
The Gay Black Group (formed 1981 by a number of Black and Asian gay and lbian people who found that most LGBTQ+ groups had a lack of mory members, makg hard for them to fd empathy and people to talk to who would unrstand) approached the Greater London Council 1982 to requt fundg.
YOUR PERSPECTIVE IS YOUR RELIGN: GROWG UP GAY THE 80S AND 90S
Listen to Growg Up Gay the 1960s and 70s podst for ee on GetPodst. All podsts at one glance. Disver onle now. * growing up gay in the 80s *
As the knowledge behd grew and people began to realise that was a vis that uld fect people through blood and sex, 1983, gay men were asked not to donate blood. Sectn 28 banned lol thori om ‘promotg homosexualy’ or ‘pretend fay relatnships’, and prohibed uncils om fundg tnal materials and projects perceived to ‘promote homosexualy’.
GROWG UP GAY THE 1980S
Based on a te story, the new movie “Moonlight” follows Chiron, a boy growg up black, gay and poor 1980s Miami. The film documents Chiron’s inty stggle three acts, featurg a different actor for each. It’s a landspe director Barry Jenks knows well -- he grew up the same neighborhood around that time. Jefey Brown speaks wh Jenks and screenwrer Tarell Alv McCraney. * growing up gay in the 80s *
In the same year, rponse to the Sectn 28 legislatn, actor and gay rights activist Sir Ian McKellen was speakg on BBC Rad 3 about the issu raised by the Act and publicly me out. It was named after the 1969 Stonewall rts New York Cy’s Greenwich Village, and om the outset looked to prevent such attacks as Sectn 28 on lbians, gay and bi people om ever occurrg aga. In 2003, Stonewall was granted charable stat and has sce gone on to help achieve the equalisatn of the age of nsent, lift the ban on LGB people servg the ary, secure legislatn which allowed same-sex upl to adopt, helped secure civil partnerships and then same-sex marriage and ensured that the recent Equaly Act protected lbian, gay and bi people terms of goods and servic.
In 2015, Stonewall extend s rem to mpaign for trans equaly alongsi lbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) equaly, followg an extensive nsultatn wh over 700 trans people. Growg up the 1980s, as a boy thkg that you are gay, was often a day to day stggle wh a visn of homosexualy that went om humoro and reee, a flourishg the 1970s Dis culture materialized the well-mcled and tan boys of The Village People, that seemgly overnight went through a metamorphos to the emaciated and sweaty Aidan Qun “An Early Frost. As the 80s turned to the 90s, we all beme rather tired of AIDS; and, we tried to make go away our own heads: wh the reopeng of numero gay bathho around the Cy, after they were closed at the height of the crisis, and tried to force the llective nsc of the untry to other flated and prsg gay issu – for stance, the ridiculo replacement of the AIDS movie-of-the-week by the phenomena of weepy stori surroundg the tag-le “…I was thrown out of the ary, bee I am gay.
GAYSPE #10: GROWG UP GAY THE 80’S AND 90’S
* growing up gay in the 80s *
” Later, when aths dramatilly cled, bee of antiviral cktails, AIDS slipped further back to the gay md – beg a sort of Dark Age epoch the history of homosexual eedom – that ugly perd between the triumphs of 60s and 70s acplishments, epomized by Stonewall and Harvey Milk, and this new era of renaissance eedom; for, they already had their ey on the prize – and was gay marriage.
GROWG UP GAY THE 1960S AND 70S
After that, when he would go to the book stor to get new magaz, he would ually pick up a gay one for me and I would pay him back wh the money I ma mowg lawns.
THE CHALLENG OF GROWG UP GAY 1980S EXETERWRER AND PRODUCER BEN SANTAMARIA REFLECTS ON HIS TIME AS A TEENAGER DEVONVONLIVEBOOKMARKSHARECOMMENTSNEWSBYCHARLOTTE VOWLDEVONLIVE REPORTER21:15, 7 FEB 2021UPDATED09:58, 8 FEB 2021BOOKMARKBEN AT EXETER'S BIKHED THEATRE (IMAGE: RYAN PRICE)SIGN UP FOR OUR EXETER NEWSLETTER AND YOU'LL NEVER MISS A BIG STORY AGAMORE NEWSLETTERS SUBSCRIBEINVALID EMAILSOMETHG WENT WRONG, PLEASE TRY AGA LATER.MORE NEWSLETTERSWE E YOUR SIGN-UP TO PROVI NTENT WAYS YOU’VE NSENTED TO AND IMPROVE OUR UNRSTANDG OF YOU. THIS MAY CLU ADVERTS OM AND THIRD PARTI BASED ON OUR KNOWLEDGE OF YOU. MORE THANK YOU FOR SUBSCRIBG!WE HAVE MORE NEWSLETTERSSHOW ME SEE OURPRIVACY NOTICE SEE OURPRIVACY NOTICE&TIM;GROUP 28 SIGN UP FOR OUR EXETER NEWSLETTER AND YOU'LL NEVER MISS A BIG STORY AGAINVALID EMAILSOMETHG WENT WRONG, PLEASE TRY AGA LATER.SIGN UPNO THANKS, CLOSEWE E YOUR SIGN-UP TO PROVI NTENT WAYS YOU’VE NSENTED TO AND IMPROVE OUR UNRSTANDG OF YOU. THIS MAY CLU ADVERTS OM AND THIRD PARTI BASED ON OUR KNOWLEDGE OF YOU. MORE &TIM;GROUP 28THANK YOU FOR SUBSCRIBG!
And one day, while tryg to figure out what our next TV show was gog to be, we started chattg about our different, but all too siar, experienc growg up gay small towns. What would happen if the #1 athlete the state me out as gay and how would that affect the team, the school, the town, the state, and most importantly, his personal relatnships? The first openly trans stunt was my gra and our school had a GSA as well as a secret club where an openly gay teacher would meet wh queer-intified and closeted stunts before school on a if you need the ve, you get basis.
'THERE WERE NO MOLS': GROWG UP THE 70S WH AN OUT GAY DAD
So when I got the chance to jo the Time Out team, I not only nnected wh all the hilar, heartfelt, plex characters the ial pilot, but that acknowledgement of a gay stunt stgglg the face of a world that wants to believe ’s beyond bigotry. Heartstopper meets Friday Night Lights this keenly felt g-of-age story about a teen hometown hero who mt fd out who he is outsi of basketball when his g out as gay sts him his populary and place on the team.
Sectn 28, troduced 1988, ma school an exclively heteronormative environment, wh no avenue of advice or support, lt they fell foul of the ban on the ‘promotn of homosexualy’.
Combe this wh an abject lack of ‘out and proud’ public figur and you found yourself antilly seekg shelter om a perfect storm of voic screamg at you that there was no ‘pri’ to be found beg gay. I rell the word 'poof' beg ed a lot, but would be tertg to hear om gay people who were their teens to twenti back then, and personal ttimoni om that time.
IN 1980S MIAMI, THE TRIPLE CRISIS OF GROWG UP BLACK, GAY AND POOR
In once scene, Jim Carrey’s buddi are tryg to check his ner thigh for be marks the high school shower, and when appears to the other showerg jocks that some gay sh is gog down, someone yells “Fags the showers! It was like a warng to all gay kids: better go kill yourself now, or learn to hi your sexualy as well as you n, bee life om high school on is gog to be a livg hell for the flip si of movi and televisn, though, there was the mic world of the 80’s, as fed by MTV.
Dire Stras had a huge h song wh Money For Nothg wh lyrics that epomized what regular straight-middle-Ameri thought of all the homos sellg lns of albums:See the ltle faggot wh the earrg and the makp?
Yeah buddy that’s his own hairThat ltle faggot got his own jet airplaneThat ltle faggot he’s a lnaireSo I suppose as a ltle gay, the closet kid, I had a choice to make; listen to the Hollywood movie makg mache, who was tellg me I was visible or a pariah, or listen to the mic world, which told me to embrace who I was and show off and be proud.
PRI AND PREJUDICE FOR GAY MEN
Eher bee of the sympathy created by the AIDS epimic, or simply bee more and more gay people all over were g out of the closet and beg accepted, Hollywood began to change s tune.
While we were still a long way off om lead characters beg gay (much ls showg gay timacy on screen) was no longer kosher to drop the word fag as a sual sult film. Dpe my feelgs about MTV and realy televisn general, I have to adm: The Real World did more to show the average Amerin kid that gay people their own age were jt like them than anythg else pop culture did up to that pot. Unls was a black and whe die book, good luck seeg very many visible gay or lbians ics at the time In the world of popular mic, long gone were the days of genr bendg superstars.
In this we’ve had more gay visibily film and televisn than ever before, and the world of mic seems slightly ls homophobic than did the prev , if only slightly.
'IT'S A S' BRGS A LOST GENERATN OF GAY MEN TO LIFE
Major hip hop stars like Kanye Wt have publicly spoken agast the homophobia hip hop culture, and pop punk stars like Pete Wentz of Fall Out Boy have gone on rerd several tim about how he wish he was gay and lik to kiss boys. ) On TV, Ellen is a fixture, and Will & Grace was on for what seemed like twenty I n’t help but wonr what the gay kids of today are gog to turn out to be like.
) In many more ways than we ever had the 80’s, popular culture is givg gay kids a more empowerg msage to be te to themselv and to be proud of who and what they are (at least at this particular moment time).