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I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND

Sam Wilkson me out as gay at 18 years old, then realised he was pansexual after fallg love wh his female bt iend. * falling in love with a gay friend *

So you're the same crappy boat as all people (gay, straight, or bi) who love someone that don't love them back. I always thought that was my flt that I was gay and that I was gog to my iendship wh her nstantly. Durg that time I jt felt like everythg was wrong wh me, if only I was a boy or if only she was gay or if only I didn't love her etc..

I uldn’t say was bee he was gay, ” said the 46-year-old. Davidson, om Sydney, Atralia, says she’s not the first straight woman to fall for a gay man. People ask, uldn’t we tell we were fallg love wh a gay man?

‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’

” But both refer to the same thg — straight women who have strong, often highly tense and mutually supportive relatnships wh gay men. The days, straight women and gay men who get along would probably jt be lled iends, but “handbags” were often vol and visual supporters of the LGBTQ muny when discrimatn — legal and otherwise — was still rampant. “So many women have acted as protectors, cheerlears, and supporters of their gay iends, but always the background, ” Davidson says.

“Straight alli, and particularly women, are a val part of the fight for gay rights. ” Her grandmother was a “beard, ” or fake girliend, to gay men she was close to, while her mother helped when the muny was beg vastated by AIDS. “I’d been raised a fay wh lots of gay men , so I should have known better than anyone (not to fall love wh one), ” Davidson says.

‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN

“A gay man wasn’t a shy unirn I’d never seen before. “I know a woman who was a relatnship for 17 years before he me out as gay.

Most of the time, a gay bt iend might be obliv if his female iend has fallen for him. But some gay men actually enurage , she says. “The wonrful thg about gay men is they talk to me like I’m a person bee they don’t want to get your pants.

“Wh a uple of months he was htg the gay bars. Davidson says straight men uld learn a thg or two om their gay brothers.

I’M THE GIRL WHO FELL IN LOVE WH A GAY GUY

“I kd of knew (he was gay) and I kd of didn’t. “I’m gog to try not to fall love wh any more gay men.

I uldn’t say was bee he was gay, ” said the Davidson, om Sydney, says she’s not the first straight woman to fall for a gay bloke. People ask, uldn’t we tell we were fallg lovg wh a gay man?

But both refer to the same thg — straight women who have strong, often highly tense and mutually supportive, relatnships wh gay men.

I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?

The days, straight woman and gay men who get along would probably jt be lled mat, but “handbags” were often vol and visual supports of the homosexual muny when discrimatn — legal and otherwise — was still rampant.

“So many women have acted as protectors, cheerlears and supporters of their gay iends, but always the background, ” Ms Davidson says. Her grandmother was a “beard”, or fake girliend, to gay men she was close to; while her mother helped when the muny was beg vastated by AIDS.

“I’d been raised a fay wh lots of gay men so I should have known better than anyone (not to fall love wh one), ” Ms Davidson says. ”Most of the time a gay bt iend might be obliv if his female iend has fallen for him.

IN LOVE WH MY BT IEND, BUT HE'S GAY

“The wonrful thg about gay men is they talk to me like I’m a person bee they don’t want to get your knickers. ”Ms Davidson says straight men uld learn a thg or two om their gay brothers.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

You feel really stupid “what kd of girl am I to fall love wh a guy I should have known was gay? Girls, never feel stupid for fallg for a gay guy, happens way more than you n image!

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* FALLING IN LOVE WITH A GAY FRIEND

‘I fell love wh a gay man and nearly broke me’ .

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