Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends | Psychology Today

Contents:

• I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND
• ‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’
• ‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN
• I’M THE GIRL WHO FELL IN LOVE WH A GAY GUY
• I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?
• IN LOVE WH MY BT IEND, BUT HE'S GAY
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND

So you're the same crappy boat as all people (gay, straight, or bi) who love someone that don't love them back. I always thought that was my flt that I was gay and that I was gog to my iendship wh her nstantly.

Durg that time I jt felt like everythg was wrong wh me, if only I was a boy or if only she was gay or if only I didn't love her etc..

‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’

I uldn’t say was bee he was gay, ” said the 46-year-old. Davidson, om Sydney, Atralia, says she’s not the first straight woman to fall for a gay man.

People ask, uldn’t we tell we were fallg love wh a gay man?

” But both refer to the same thg — straight women who have strong, often highly tense and mutually supportive relatnships wh gay men. The days, straight women and gay men who get along would probably jt be lled iends, but “handbags” were often vol and visual supporters of the LGBTQ muny when discrimatn — legal and otherwise — was still rampant.

‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN

“So many women have acted as protectors, cheerlears, and supporters of their gay iends, but always the background, ” Davidson says.

“Straight alli, and particularly women, are a val part of the fight for gay rights. ” Her grandmother was a “beard, ” or fake girliend, to gay men she was close to, while her mother helped when the muny was beg vastated by AIDS. “I’d been raised a fay wh lots of gay men , so I should have known better than anyone (not to fall love wh one), ” Davidson says.

“A gay man wasn’t a shy unirn I’d never seen before.

I’M THE GIRL WHO FELL IN LOVE WH A GAY GUY

“I know a woman who was a relatnship for 17 years before he me out as gay. Most of the time, a gay bt iend might be obliv if his female iend has fallen for him. But some gay men actually enurage , she says.

“The wonrful thg about gay men is they talk to me like I’m a person bee they don’t want to get your pants. “Wh a uple of months he was htg the gay bars. Davidson says straight men uld learn a thg or two om their gay brothers.

I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?

“I kd of knew (he was gay) and I kd of didn’t. “I’m gog to try not to fall love wh any more gay men. I uldn’t say was bee he was gay, ” said the Davidson, om Sydney, says she’s not the first straight woman to fall for a gay bloke.

People ask, uldn’t we tell we were fallg lovg wh a gay man?

IN LOVE WH MY BT IEND, BUT HE'S GAY

But both refer to the same thg — straight women who have strong, often highly tense and mutually supportive, relatnships wh gay men. The days, straight woman and gay men who get along would probably jt be lled mat, but “handbags” were often vol and visual supports of the homosexual muny when discrimatn — legal and otherwise — was still rampant.

“So many women have acted as protectors, cheerlears and supporters of their gay iends, but always the background, ” Ms Davidson says. Her grandmother was a “beard”, or fake girliend, to gay men she was close to; while her mother helped when the muny was beg vastated by AIDS. “I’d been raised a fay wh lots of gay men so I should have known better than anyone (not to fall love wh one), ” Ms Davidson says.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

”Most of the time a gay bt iend might be obliv if his female iend has fallen for him. “The wonrful thg about gay men is they talk to me like I’m a person bee they don’t want to get your knickers. ”Ms Davidson says straight men uld learn a thg or two om their gay brothers.