How to Cope When You're Gay and Lonely | GQ

Contents:

• WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
• SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• SAD TO BE GAY
• MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS
• FROM ‘GLAD TO BE GAY’ TO ‘SAD TO BE GAY’
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

Estimat as to the number of gay people the populatn range om 1--20 to 1--10, so why are some people gay? Are they gay by choice or is beg gay geic? The simplt answer is to look at the fn of the word "gay.

" The term gay is a synonym for homosexual, which is fed as, 1, 2. In other words, 5-10% of people experience same-sex sexual attractn or behavr; of urse, this don't speak to what mak people gay. No one knows for certa why any dividual is gay, but the current thought is that beg gay is not a choice.

(read: Cure the Gay: Gay Conversn Therapy – Real or Hoax? ) The reasons people are gay are both physlogil and psychologil.

SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY

Why Are People Gay? Morn science is workg to show that geics is one of the of beg gay, although some science nflicts this area. "In recent years, evince has accumulated that a homosexual orientatn is hered.

Study of fay history reveals that homosexual men have more homosexuals their fay tree than do heterosexuals. The precise gen volved the of beg gay have not yet been intified but they appear to e om the mother.

Addnally, some studi have found that the bras om homosexuals differ om the bras of heterosexuals. Psychologil reasons also appear to be part of why a person is gay. Acrdg to, what mak people gay may clu:5.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

A female-domated upbrgg a gay man's past, wh an absence of a male role mol. While psychologil factors may crease the likelihood that someone is gay, no sgle factor is known to e homosexualy. Is Beg Gay a Choice?

SAD TO BE GAY

Consirg whether people choose to be gay is plex. It very much appears that same-sex sexual attractn is not a choice but actg on is; so if you fe gay as the mere prence of same-sex attractn, then om everythg we unrstand, beg gay is not a choice. If, on the other hand, you nsir someone to be gay only if they act on their same-sex attractn then beg gay n be nsired a choice pendg on an dividual's behavr.

Whether science n ultimately prove the blogy of beg gay or not, 's important to support all adults their choic no matter how they intify. Gay By Choice or Is Beg Gay Geic?, HealthyPlace. Many of the straight parents I terviewed for When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know exprsed havg felt disappotment learng that their child was LGBT.

Would he be fired at his job if his supervisors found out that he were gay?

MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS

Would he have to live a gay-iendly neighborhood? Natalie, 63, a mother om Long Island, found out that two of her three children were gay.

FROM ‘GLAD TO BE GAY’ TO ‘SAD TO BE GAY’

" Natalie felt that was a loss to the fay geic pool and kept wonrg if beg gay was a choice. Richard Ogawa of Seattle figured out he was gay llege.

Richard told me, "Perhaps if every parent toyed wh the possibily that any of their children uld be gay, would change the way they raise their children.

Gay children are no different—so ltle of their sexual orientatn has to do wh who they are as a whole. "It is rare to work wh parents of a gay child who have not stggled wh the feelg of loss at some pot the procs of acceptg their child as gay, " my -thor, Jonathan Tobk, M.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Parents feel sad that their gay child has lost the possibily of havg a life whout signifint difficulty.

" Yet Tobk has found that "gay people tell you they are happy wh who they are and feel that they have emerged on the other si of g out as strong, sensive, and rilient dividuals.

Havg a gay child is not a loss of a child altogether.