Christian children's book thor Matthew Pl Turner and his ex-wife, blogger Jsi Turned, opened up on TODAY about what happened after he me out as gay.
Contents:
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
- WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY
- MY SPOE ME OUT AS GAY. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
- FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
- DIVORCED UPLE SHAR SPIRG JOURNEY AFTER HBAND OUT AS GAY
- THE FEMALE SPOE: A PROCS OF SEPARATN WHEN A HBAND ' OUT' AS GAY
- I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
- STRAIGHT SPOE REVERY: 9 WAYS TO REVER & MOVE ON AFTER FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
- OUT: WHEN MY HBAND CAME OUT AS GAY, I LOST MYSELF
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
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Unls your spoe shar their sexual orientatn wh you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay.
You notice them talkg more about gay people nversatn, eher a posive light or rogatory manner. Among the upl, when the gay, lbian, or bisexual partner out, a third of the upl break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years and then spl; the remag third try to make their marriag work. There's no qutn that learng your partner is gay when you believed them to be straight n be extremely difficult.
People do not choose who they are attracted to, so make sure to not direct homophobic backlash towards your partner. Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband.
WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY
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So I was totally nial about the fact that I was gay, lerally well until our marriage and until Jsi nonted me about , " Stoddard told TODAY Parents.
That teachg was eply engraed Stoddard, and even when — six months to their marriage — Frew found a llectn of gay pornography on Stoddard's puter and asked him about his sexualy, he uldn't say the words out loud. ""And you have to remember, we were part of this relign that tght that even if you were gay, or even if you had feelgs of same-sex attractn, wasn’t somethg you need to act upon, " Stoddard add.
MY SPOE ME OUT AS GAY. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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Acrdg to the CDC, "some risk factors are lked to beg gay or bisexual a hostile environment and the effects that this has on mental health. And there was a perd where we wonred if a mixed-orientatn marriage worked, where even though he was gay he wanted to rema married.
FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
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"On the flip si of that, the panmic has given me time and space to bee way more fortable my own gay sk. I anticipated the homophobia om certa people my life — I didn't realize how much homophobia I had my own self. But Alan knew he was gay at a young age — knowledge that ntradicted his fah’s teachgs.
DIVORCED UPLE SHAR SPIRG JOURNEY AFTER HBAND OUT AS GAY
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”Now, Alan says his ex-wife, fay members, and children love the more thentic, hont versn of himself more than the person he was when he wasn’t out as a gay man. Whether is a hband who out as gay or a wife who clar she is a lbian, the spo who love them are broadsid wh a thoand qutns. What do the Bible say that would help a spoe know what to do when his or her “other half” out as gay?
Defely, some cisns mt be ma when a spoe out as gay, but before those cisns are tackled, we need to clarify some terms. The word gay brgs wh implitns of homosexual enunters, but the term is often ed to refer to orientatn, rather than behavr.
THE FEMALE SPOE: A PROCS OF SEPARATN WHEN A HBAND ' OUT' AS GAY
For Christians who fd themselv same-sex attracted, actg on those homosexual urg is not an optn.
I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
So, if a Christian hband or wife out as gay, other qutns mt be asked: is he or she actg on those urg or simply admtg the attractn? If the spoe who has e out as gay is willg to stay the marriage and rema fahful, alg wh his or her same-sex nfn through acuntabily and unselg, the marriage n be prerved. We wouldn’t leave a spoe if he or she was wrtlg wh other sful temptatns, so we shouldn’t leave him or her a stggle agast homosexualy.
STRAIGHT SPOE REVERY: 9 WAYS TO REVER & MOVE ON AFTER FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
A hband or wife who out as gay, like all who e to terms wh same-sex attractn, has a choice to make. Homosexual acts are never acceptable (Levic 18:22; 20:13; 1 Corthians 6:9; Ju 1:7; Romans 1:24–27). People who have mted themselv to honor the Lord wh their bodi nnot live a sexually immoral liftyle, and that clus homosexual behavrs (1 Corthians 6:18–20).
OUT: WHEN MY HBAND CAME OUT AS GAY, I LOST MYSELF
If a hband who out as gay sists on pursug his homosexual lt, his wife is eed om her vows, and vice versa. But if the one intifyg as gay is ready to embrace a gay liftyle, or if he or she abandons his or her role the marriage, the other spoe may have ltle choice but to ask him or her to leave.