Male Gay Bar Etiquette - In My Humble Opn - Straight Dope Msage Board

Contents:

• HOW ‘GAY’ SHOULD A GAY BAR BE?
• HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR
• MALE GAY BAR ETIQUETTE
• SUP? LOOKG? PARTY? A GUI TO GAY APP LGO
• DEFINITIONS FOR GAY BARGAY BAR
• WHAT EXACTLY IS THE POT OF A “STRAIGHT-FRIENDLY” GAY BAR?
• TOWN, DC’S LARGT GAY BAR, IS CLOSG. WHAT DO  MEAN?
• GAY
• BEER IS SO GAY
• WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A ‘GAY BAR’ BE JT A BAR?
• QUEER & GAY BERL: YOUR GUI FOR LGBTQ+ BERL
• D.C. IS LIFTG PACY RTRICTNS. WHAT DO THAT MEAN FOR GAY BARS?

HOW ‘GAY’ SHOULD A GAY BAR BE?

Pri, formerly known as Gay Pri, is a regnn of LGBTQ inty, affirmatn of equal rights, and celebratn of visibily, digny, and diversy the LGBTQ muny.

While the word homosexual is still ocsnally ed some ntexts, you might have noticed that don’t make an appearance any versn of the LGBTQ acronym. As our age note on the term stat, “up until 1973, homosexualy was listed The Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs (DSM), psychiatry’s standard reference on the classifitn of mental illns. ” In fact, the term homosexual was liberately rejected by early gay rights activists bee, acrdg to The New York Tim, “they did not want to be intified as exclively sexual begs.

Gay, on the other hand, n be ed to scribe a person of any genr who experienc same-sex attractn, although is most often ed to scribe a man who is attracted to men. On June 28, 1969, the New York Cy police raid the Stonewall Inn, a bar equented by gay and genr-nonnformg people (at a time when terms like LGBTQ didn’t yet exist).

HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR

Queer lerally means “strange or odd om a nventnal viewpot, ” and by at least by the late 1800s, queer was ployed as a rogatory term for an effemate or gay man.

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MALE GAY BAR ETIQUETTE

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SUP? LOOKG? PARTY? A GUI TO GAY APP LGO

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You're more likely to see public sex happeng at a leather bar than, say, your classic tsel palace gay bar wh boyish go-go dancers and Top 40 hs blarg over a by dance floor.

DEFINITIONS FOR GAY BARGAY BAR

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The bartenr (or someone there) will be able to tell you where to go, what plac sell gear, what parti are happeng, where the guys cise, where the gayborhood is, and so on.

If you ci your neart one is not for you, go to a gay leather bar New York Cy (Eagle NYC, The Cock), San Francis (Powerhoe, Eagle SF, 440 Castro), Los Angel (Eagle LA, Fltle), London (Eagle London, The Backstreet), Berl (SO MANY). That has bee even more difficult our digal world, which has drawn gay guys away bars to spend their evengs at home textg on hookup apps an effort to fd “The One” or “The One Right Now.

WHAT EXACTLY IS THE POT OF A “STRAIGHT-FRIENDLY” GAY BAR?

0 / 0 votGay barA gay bar is a drkg tablishment that ters to an exclively or predomantly lbian, gay, bisexual, and transgenr (LGBT) clientele; the term gay is ed as a broadly clive ncept for LGBT muni. Gay bars once served as the centre of gay culture and were one of the few plac people wh same-sex orientatns and genr-variant inti uld openly socialize. Other nam ed to scribe the tablishments clu boy bar, girl bar, gay club, gay pub, queer bar, lbian bar, drag bar, and dyke bar, pendg on the niche muni that they served.

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TOWN, DC’S LARGT GAY BAR, IS CLOSG. WHAT DO  MEAN?

Other nam ed to scribe the tablishments clu boy bar, girl bar, gay club, gay pub, queer bar, lbian bar, and dyke bar, pendg on the niche muni that they served. Wh the advent of Inter social workg servic and an creasg acceptance of LGBT people across the Wtern world, the relevance of gay bars the LGBT muny has somewhat dimished.

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Was packed wh a diverse crowd almost impossible to fe: 21 to 80, at boys to elr gays, nonbary folks to middle-age lbians to a woman a rhtone tiara wearg a sash that proclaimed her the “bri. Is the Applebee’s of gay bars, a rporate enty that uld be picked up and dropped off any cy Ameri and no one would know the difference.

Yet many of the plac I equented are gone: Phase 1 Barracks Row, Apex Dupont Circle, Ins Fairfax (which wasn’t a gay bar, but hosted a lot of drag shows), not to mentn all of the LGBT clubs Navy Yard that closed to make way for Natnals Park over a ago. When Town opened 2007, the sleek, warehoe-style club seemed out of place at 8th and Florida, far om DC’s tradnal “gayborhood” on 17th Street.

BEER IS SO GAY

All that said, I hope that the owners of Town follow the lead of DC Eagle and Secrets, which found new hom so they uld ntue to wele both people at a gay bar for their first time and people who experience every week. Obvly sucks to lose a well-loved place but at the same time…I don't thk the actual activy (whether s gay bar or DIY mic shows) is disappearg necsarily though the landspe is certaly changg. A lot has been wrten before about the role of gay “pneers” jumpstartg growth property valu by crementally vtg real tate and muni.

A muny wh a lot of disvtment but historil charm, gay people are the only on not racist or otherwise prejudiced enough/sperate enough for a place to stake a claim to see the value opportuny and have the risk-tolerance to act on , and so a gayborhood is born. Payton Chung poted out that bs n’t survive on nostalgia alone, quotg Marty Chernoff, then-owner of Tracks, a popular DC gay club the 1980s and 90s.

Maybe isn't a dited gay club as much as a uple nights a week at a club but I thk there is still a need of such a space where gays n be gays and there is no judgment (except maybe about someone's outf).

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A ‘GAY BAR’ BE JT A BAR?

That same year, Pieters beme a natnal spokperson for AIDS awarens and gay polil activism after his historic terview wh televangelist Tammy Faye on her broadst, which fied the work's homophobic tennci.

QUEER & GAY BERL: YOUR GUI FOR LGBTQ+ BERL

Rapoe, who is gay, is an outspoken advote for LGBTQ+ rights and was a lear the natnal team’s fight for genr equaly, which paid off last year when U. Jenna Lyons, the first openly gay hoewife, and Jsel Taank, the first Indian hoewife, jo the diverse st tend to better reprent all of the different kds of New Yorkers.

Gay Beer, Dyke Beer, and Queer Brewg are among the emergg group of beer producers that are centerg queer inty and queer muny, whether by highlightg queer brewers, donatg some profs to queer chari, or creatg queer third spac — munal spac distct om home and work — at a time when they’re disappearg.

The pair were spired while drkg at Juli’, a historic gay bar New York Cy that was the se of early “sip-” protts, where gay men would drk at bars that refed to serve homosexuals. Together, they were tryg to figure out why there wasn’t already a beer posned more for queer people, which led Moore and Pazmo to realize that gay beer was a project they uld take on themselv themselv. Moore and Pazmo note that “gay” also means “happy, ” a nnotatn hasn’t really held s, but still gets ed as a cheeky way to eli the haters.

D.C. IS LIFTG PACY RTRICTNS. WHAT DO THAT MEAN FOR GAY BARS?

“A lot of bars are not wantg to say they’re lbian bars, they’re wantg to say they’re queer bars — but a lot of gay male bars keep sayg they’re gay male bars, ” she says.

For Moore and Pazmo, that meant an “Amerina whout the Amerin flag” sign, somethg that reflected the athetics of Juli’ Bar, and the gay men of the ’60s who participated the “sip ” protts. Wae says, “Many were pleased to see the lnch of somethg actively tryg to make change wh a stagnant and homogeno dtry, and queer and trans folk were pleased to see somethg that reprented them a way that hadn’t been done before. ”“I remember seeg all the gay men walkg this directn, ” Lopez, now 28, says while hangg wh iends on the Nellie’s rooftop on a warm and btlg Saturday night.