5 Books Gay Men Can Read to Improve Their Liv - The Centre for Gay Counsellg

Contents:

• HOW TO BE GAY
• HOW TO BE GAY BY DAVID M HALPER – REVIEW
• 13 VERY GAY AND VERY GOOD BOOKS YOU SHOULD READ THIS PRI MONTH
• BOOK REVIEW: MAKG GAY OKAY: HOW RATNALIZG HOMOSEXUAL BEHAVR CHANG EVERYTHG
• BOOK REVIEWS: GAY BOOKS FOR THE SOUL
• A MEMOIR ABOUT QUEER INTY, TOLD ONE GAY BAR AT A TIME
• 5 BOOKS GAY MEN CAN READ TO IMPROVE THEIR LIV
• HOW TO BE GAY
• YOU CAN'T READ THAT! BANNED BOOK REVIEW: THIS BOOK IS GAY
• IS TROYE SIVAN’S ‘RH’ SEXY FUN OR GAY DETR?

HOW TO BE GAY

” The great value of tradnal gay male culture, he further poss, perhaps even more challenggly, “ris some of s most spised and repudiated featur: gay male femy, diva worship, atheticism, snobbery, drama, adoratn of glamour, riture of women and obssn wh the figure of the mother.

HOW TO BE GAY BY DAVID M HALPER – REVIEW

Among the most unual thgs about “How to Be Gay” is that is, at heart, a 500-pl-page work that explor a fundamental kd of gay sensibily by ncentratg almost exclively on one actrs, Joan Crawford, and on a sgle scene a sgle movie, the 1945 drama “Mildred Pierce. Halper works up to an argument (impossible to summarize here) about how the film evok a “dissint perspective” on the very ia of romantic is articulate about many other thgs this book, cludg how gay men often fd more ronance straight cultural artifacts than gay on. “How To Be Gay is…wrten by a gifted thker and wrer who has e to see that there is not jt a polil and sexual gay culture (s foundatnal event the rtg outsi the Stonewall Inn 1969), based on gay inty rather than sensibily, but also a nonsexual gay culture, based on mos of feelg and exprsive artifacts.

“[Halper] provotively argu that when to fg what means to be a homosexual man, sex is overrated… Culture matters more… [How To Be Gay] is never a bore… [It] explor a fundamental kd of gay sensibily… Halper teas an enormo amount out of [a] scene [ Mildred Pierce], cludg the sense of ‘glamour and abjectn’ gay dienc fd [Joan] Crawford, and how the film packag the ‘transgrsive spectacle of female strength, tonomy, feists and power. As he pots out, sexualy is the area where gay men differ least om straight men… Gay taste is somethg more sgular, probably lked to cipient feelgs of dissiary om one’s peers… Halper is right to fend the old ruals and the lgo and body language that go wh them… So long live mp, and all the other cultural pursus that gay people have tradnally embraced.

“[A] provotively tled cril cri r… To summarize Halper’s amb book is tricky, but thk of as an exploratn of the tensn between the official Pri Para, celebratg post-Stonewall gay inty, and the Drag March, celebratg pre-liberatn gay culture… Halper is at his bt when criqug the current assiatnist mol of gay-rights activism, wh s nial of any cultural terts or athetic pots-of-view that ht of femy or mps or of the ‘stereotypilly gay.

13 VERY GAY AND VERY GOOD BOOKS YOU SHOULD READ THIS PRI MONTH

’ His cultural history of how this attu emerged the 1970s will be surprisg to those who view the gay-rights movement as a nsistently posive progrsn; Halper argu nvcgly that as butch mascule styl beme ever more mandatory, both for attractg sexual/romantic partners (no femm, no fats! …Halper is plyg his own twist on the faiar ia that by aligng themselv wh certa forms—flamboyance, abject glamour, exaggerated femy—gay men implicly challenge the uptight s of a patriarchal culture… Gay culture, for Halper, isn’t really attached to any given person’s experience; rather, ’s a set of tactics, adopted behavrs, and strategi imbrited a much larger social field… Frivoly, irony, superficialy, thenticy, flamboyance, snobbishns, exquise taste: How To Be Gay works hard to unpack the stereotypil characteristics of gay male culture and succeeds monstratg how the tat of pathology and the rise of a post-Stonewall ethos of hypermascule self-termatn nspire to shut down a ank quiry to the persistence of such ‘faggy’ tras. Rather, Halper’s book is an terventn agast those who tmpet the ‘ath of gay culture’ (which he argu has been clared for over 40 years now) now that wing tolerance and greater visibily of gays the media should make Judy Garland, show tun, and drag queens obsolete… Halper’s h re-evaluatn of the theory and practice of mp is one of his most fascatg sights… Halper mak a se for mp as polilly subversive and a se study for the plited stcture of gay intifitn… One gets the sense that Halper anticipat his greatt tractors to not be social nservativ (though he has been their pariah the past), but stead to be other gay men who fear the sentialism of acknowledgg the role a distct gay culture plays shapg gay inty… Halper narrat the history of this mascule reactn agast gay culture, cullg om his own memori the 70s of how newly ‘liberated’ gay men appropriated the machismo of biker culture, mtach, and nstctn worker clothg to bat the stereotype of the pathetic queens and fairi of the prev generatn.

This is a valuable history lson to rears om subsequent generatns given that the signifiers of ’70s gay masculy are now nsired the mpy light of The Village People, and th part of the gay culture om which today’s champns of machismo and normaly try to distance their selv. “How To Be Gay mak for as fun a viewg pann [to Mildred Pierce and Mommie Deart] as do a rigoroly telligent read… Whether you’re well-versed all thgs gay or tend to avoid pop divas at all sts, How To Be Gay offers a h perspective on what we ll gay culture, why so many of love what we love and why we’re aaid to talk about .

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Still, the very specter of ‘gay inty’ a world where, for many, tegratn is viewed as the ultimate civil-rights victory, evably sparks ntroversy… His exhstive exploratn of the ins and idsyncrasi associated wh gay inty holds up a floor-length mirror to an entire subculture.

Halper terprets gayns through tradnal pop culture preoccupatns like goln age Hollywood, opera, and Broadway mils, focg on Joan Crawford ( particular her role Mildred Pierce) and Faye Dunaway’s notorly over-the-top portrayal of the star Mommie Deart. What he n be ncerned about, seems, is the culture of Gay, passed down through generatns of slappers, proppg up the bars of Soho London, Chelsea New York, and the Marais Paris, all quarters which are now as ad as the proverbial Halper has wrten an over-long book, more lolised s applitn than he seems fully to appreciate, about the aspects of beg gay other than sexual choice.

Outsi Ameri, he reliably gets thgs wrong, suggtg that Bollywood mils may reprent the same sort of gay cult to Indian gay men that Sex and the Cy do to Amerins – he's clearly never seen a film a Calcutta cema, or he would have noticed that the appeal is not a gay thg at all at s source. He don't wre about cloth, or gtur, or ga, or any of what intifi a gay man to another at 80 pac, or the syntax and vobulary and slang which mak them mutually clear at closer quarters – I mean, you n't always be sayg "Have you seen Mommie Deart?

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Elsewhere, lists of gay-nnected activi n stretch to surprisg plac: "beg gay had somethg to do wh likg Broadway mils, or listeng to show tun or torch songs or Judy Garland, or playg the piano, wearg fluffy sweaters, drkg cktails, smokg cigarett and llg each other 'girliend'.

Elsewhere, Halper wonrs whether gay culture is dyg out, on the basis that – he claims – straight people bought up the ho of gay people after they died of Aids the 1980s and 90s, and that the numbers of gay bars major ci are on the cle om peaks the 70s.

An tertg book about gay culture would spend time wh a range of gay men, of different ag and class and backgrounds, fdg out how their social works were formed, as well as vtigatg how they liked to be urse, that would be a great al harr than jt gog on about a uple of scen om 40s movi that you and your iends simply adore. You'd hardly gus, om Halper's acunt, that gay culture was anythg but owned and monstrated by late-middle-aged whe men about four Amerin cultural nfince is driven on by s ual fuel, money – some time soon the ccial gay diva will not be Lady Gaga, but Fish Leong. If they ever read this book, which they won't, they would probably put their hands to their throat the gture known to German gays as "the necklace of pearls", roll their ey, and say what we always say of a tragic effort all round – "Pur-lease.

A MEMOIR ABOUT QUEER INTY, TOLD ONE GAY BAR AT A TIME

Out there on the dreary plas, Halper stcts stunts who uld be his grandsons irony, archns, melodramatic flouncg, the worship of Judy Garland and all the other queeny foibl and fetish that most of thought had been disrd when gay men marched out of the closet and asserted their right to rpect and acceptance. That charge was dropped, and MIT sent him off on study leave for a uple of years; his next amic appotment, however, was faraway Atralia, where he n't have ma many iends if he imperialistilly announced, as he do his book, that "beg gay is like beg Amerin" and prented himself as the proselytisg agent of "total, global queerns".

5 BOOKS GAY MEN CAN READ TO IMPROVE THEIR LIV

His book vot lerally hundreds of pag to the obssive analysis of a tfight between Joan Crawford and her bchy dghter the film noir Mildred Pierce, wh footnot on Faye Dunaway's maenadic impersonatn of Crawford on the rampage wh a at-hanger Mommie Deart and Sofia Coppola – the distguished profsor, cintally, misspells her name – lewdly mimickg both Crawford and Dunaway a mic vio for Sonic abive enunter between Crawford and Ann Blyth Mildred Pierce is, for Halper, a Frdian primal scene, an thorative primer om which gay men n learn how to be ersatz women, sufferg wh grandiloquent flair while rollg their ey and sptg epigrammatic put-downs at each other.

HOW TO BE GAY

This swishg mak me wonr whether al-Qaida's fanatics may have a pot about the nce of the the 1960s, San Sontag – whose Not on Camp articulated a few fleet aphorisms most of what Halper spends more than 500 pag paraphrasg – weled a new gay formalist style cricism by clarg: "In place of a hermentics we need an erotics of art. Inspired by the notor unrgraduate urse of the same tle that Halper tght at the Universy of Michigan, provokg cri of outrage om both the right-wg media and the gay prs, How To Be Gay trac gay men’s cultural difference to the social meang of style.

YOU CAN'T READ THAT! BANNED BOOK REVIEW: THIS BOOK IS GAY

In orr to move forward is necsary to look at where the fenrs of marriage failed to make their se and to unrstand why the tth about marriage failed to nvce activist the stggle to pass state referenda fg marriage as the unn of one man and one woman, the fenrs of marriage foced on the posive aspects of marriage and sentially ignorg the problems herent the gay and lbian liftyle. If, as most societi have held, homosexual acts are wrong, then, acrdg to Reilly, such acts nnot be the basis for the ntract of send half of the book als wh the effect of the gay agenda on children, science, tn, the ary, and foreign policy.

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