What to Do When Your Child Says: "I'm Gay" | Psychology Today

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• BEYOND BOLLYWOOD: 5 REGNAL QUEER FILMS TO WATCH THIS PRI MONTHHERE ARE 5 INDIAN FILMS THAT PRENT A SENSIVE PORTRAYAL OF THE LGBTQIA+ MUNY.PHELIANUPDATED: 18 JUN 2022, 5:19 PM ISTINDIAN CEMA4 M READISHARE ON THE QUT DAILY
• OY VEY! MY SON IS GAY!!
• THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
• MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
• MY SON IS GAY
• THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
• MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS
• IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
• IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?
• I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T
• BEYOND BOLLYWOOD: 5 REGNAL QUEER FILMS TO WATCH THIS PRI MONTHHERE ARE 5 INDIAN FILMS THAT PRENT A SENSIVE PORTRAYAL OF THE LGBTQIA+ MUNY.PHELIANUPDATED: 18 JUN 2022, 5:19 PM ISTINDIAN CEMA4 M READISHARE THE QUT DAILY

BEYOND BOLLYWOOD: 5 REGNAL QUEER FILMS TO WATCH THIS PRI MONTHHERE ARE 5 INDIAN FILMS THAT PRENT A SENSIVE PORTRAYAL OF THE LGBTQIA+ MUNY.PHELIANUPDATED: 18 JUN 2022, 5:19 PM ISTINDIAN CEMA4 M READISHARE ON THE QUT DAILY

Eṉ Makaṉ Makiḻvaṉ / My Son Is Gay (2017, Ta)Starrg Anupama Kumar and Ashwjh, Lokh Kumar’s Eṉ Makaṉ Makiḻvaṉ is a movg tale of inty and acceptance. Laxmi is a strict school prcipal whose life turns upsi down when her son, Van out as gay.

OY VEY! MY SON IS GAY!!

The film trac her journey om ignorance to acceptance whilst throwg light on the stggl of a gay man a heteronormative and Karthik enjoyg an timate moment My Son is Gay. The protagonists not only fight agast the prejudice and homophobia wh their fai but also stggle to survive as artists a cut-throat society. As I relayed When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterlg, 2016), I found out that my son was gay om a note wh our son's name entwed wh another boy's, surround by a heart.

I had spected at tim that he was gay.

THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY

Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have fensively said "No!

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY

San Berland, the mother of a gay son who ach parents of LGBTQ kids, utn, "It's not a good ia to ask. Acrdg to my -thor, psychiatrist Jonathan Tobk, "Gay children feel credibly vulnerable when g out to their parents, and tak time to work up the urage to do this.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

Mol acceptance by not g gay slurs and never tellg gay jok. Watch gay-themed shows together such as "The Fosters" and "Will and Grace.

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React kdly to gay people the news or on televisn. In a way, you have an advantage by not knowg; giv you more time to prepare for the day (if ever) when he do reveal he's gay. Nelson, however, has somethg to tell 's productn, box office & pany Vios1More like thisReview film for the 1970sI also saw OY VEY MY SON IS GAY Montreal and was very disappoted.

MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?

Full of clichés, both Jewish and gay, was hard to believe that fai would behave the way they did today's wtern world.

The st of characters were all stock: Jewish parents, relativ both pro- and anti-gay, oppose typ as male lovers, siblgs who unrstand but stay silent. My Son Is Gay!! If you’d like to jo the Fom, drop a le at do feel like to fd out that your son is gay?

So my 19-year-old son told me he is gay last night.

MY SON IS GAY

He don’t “act gay, ” but ’s not a huge leap to image him beg still put me to shock. ”“Don’t get stuck on thkg about the mechanics of gay sex. Bee I’m obvly the person who is gog to have trouble unrstandg that he’s gay.

There's a new Android app out (here's the English versn) lled "Is My Son Gay? ") that will tell you if, fact, your son is a gay person.

So below I've provid a better list of ways to tell if your son is a gay person who is you e home om work and you hear nois upstairs and you go up to vtigate and your son's door is open and you tch him "hookg up" (as kids ll today) wh his iend Michael, and you quickly turn around and walk back downstairs and later that night over dner you say "You know, honey, if there's ever anythg you need to tell me... " and he says "Mom, I'm gay, " then your son is your son has recently gone to llege and hasn't been touch much and you figure hey he's new to llege, he's by makg iends and whatnot, and then late one night he lls you on the phone soundg upset about somethg and you ask him what's wrong and he's quiet for a while and then says "Nothg's wrong, really, I'm jt... Dad, I'm gay, " then your son is your son ever been on a long drive to one of your dghter's swim meets wh you and when stopped at a red light he's turned to you and said "Mom, I feel like I owe to you and dad to tell you that, well, Donald is my boyiend.

THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY

I'm gay"? Then your son is probably gay.

MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS

Chanc are that if you are on your athbed and your tranged son to vis you the middle of a ray night and he ss by your bed quietly until he begs to cry and clutch your hand and says "I wish I'd told you sooner that I'm gay" and then you both stay there silence, you pretendg to be asleep, the only noise the beepg of the mach that will only keep you alive for a ltle while longer, your son is you and your spoe are ever visg your son the big cy he now liv wh all his fancy iends and fancy rtrants and you're out to an awkward lunch before your tra home and you three get to another potls fight about years-old stuff and 's really unfortable and fally you or your spoe says "Well, if you'd jt settle down wh the right girl, I thk-" and then your son terpts you by yellg "Guys, I'm GAY. Gay gay gay, gay as gay gets.

I'm gay. I'm not gay, but my boyiend is!

" and then you lgh and ms his hair and the livg room your hband shows your son's boyiend his mol ships, then your son is probably gay, though he might be bisexual, so be reful about your son ever says "Oh my goodns, " when surprised or when openg a gift, well then yeah, he probably gay. When parents learn that their child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, they n experience a range of emotns.

IS YOUR CHILD GAY?

As a matter of fact, you might someday look back and fd that you are grateful for the experience of havg a gay or lbian child. Well, my study of 65 fai of gay and lbian youth for the book, Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child, I found that some parents get to the pot where they believe that the experience of havg a gay child actually ma them a better person—more open-md and sensive to the needs of others, particularly those other mory groups. If you jt found out your child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, you may be thkg that such ias are prepostero.

The tstworthy nfidants let them vent but also rrected some of the misperceptns they absorbed om society, such as that gay people are lonely, unhappy, promiscuo, not fay-oriented, unable to have children, or sted for an unhappy life. Contact Parents, Fay, and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG).

IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?

List of Helpful Books for Parents of Gay and Lbian Children.

Straight Parents Gay Children: Keepg Fai Together (revised edn). Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lbians, and Gays Talk About Their Experienc.

Somethg to Tell You: The Road Fai Travel when a Child is Gay.

I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T

Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child. Fortunate Fai: Catholic fai wh lbian dghters and gay sons.

Mom, Dad, I'm Gay: How Fai Negotiate Comg Out. Dave, I have a 17-year-old son, and I am fairly sure he is gay.

BEYOND BOLLYWOOD: 5 REGNAL QUEER FILMS TO WATCH THIS PRI MONTHHERE ARE 5 INDIAN FILMS THAT PRENT A SENSIVE PORTRAYAL OF THE LGBTQIA+ MUNY.PHELIANUPDATED: 18 JUN 2022, 5:19 PM ISTINDIAN CEMA4 M READISHARE THE QUT DAILY

I psed on our lol PBS affiliate, where a huge choir was sgg, and after a few sends I realized was the Gay Men's Chos of some cy or another dog a fundraisg ncert. At this time my life, I was 99 percent certa I was gay, though nowhere near ready to sprg on my parents. We had no gay people our liv back then, no way to gge my fay's level of tolerance.

We had no gay people our liv back then, no way to gge my fay's level of watched as they livered a rendn of what I remember as "Somewhere Over the Rabow, " bee eher they or my memory are unfivably basic. Stirrg and brave and subversive, g as did a time before marriage equaly was on the map, a time when you only saw gay people on the news.

Good on you for not pot-blank askg your son whether he's gay.