Why Some Straight People Might Have Gay Sex | Psychology Today

Contents:

• 'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
• FEELG GUILTY ABOUT "GAY THOUGHTS"
• WHAT IF YOU ONLY THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?
• AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• TAG CLOUD2GO GAY HOTON ARE ASSOCIATN AWOME BAD BARS BREAKG CHARGE LLECTNS LOURS PANY NSCNS CRED CUTE FACEBOOK FIX FLAG GAY GETTG GOOD HARD HEART LGBT LICHAAM LMAO LOOKG LOVE MORTGAGE NEW NEWS NORTH OFFS PIZZA PRI QUOT RABOW REPAIR ROCHTER ROO SRE SHOOT STAR STUFF THGS THOUGHTS WHE YAHOO YORK IN
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• MEET THE STRAIGHT MEN WHO ARE TERRIFIED THEY ARE GAY

'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY

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FEELG GUILTY ABOUT "GAY THOUGHTS"

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WHAT IF YOU ONLY THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?

24, 2014— -- Steven Brodsky, a psychologist who specializ obssive-pulsive disorr, says that at any one time he has a "handful" of clients who are straight and spect that they are gay. J., said he had one adult patient who was so crippled by obssive thoughts about beg gay that he was unable to live penntly and had to move back wh his parents to pe. Brodsky said a prev therapist had misdiagnosed his patient as gay, and at the patient's requt, sent him off to reparative therapy, a ntroversial method that has not been proven to be effective and n be harmful.

AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?

"Brodsky argu that today's open acceptance of homosexualy and gay liftyl n bld therapists to this kd of anxiety disorr straight men. Jack Drcher, a noted New York Cy psychiatrist who is nsired an expert gay and lbian mental health and treats patients for OCD, agreed that "beg worried that one might be gay is not the same thg as beg gay. ""A person wh OCD who has is havg tsive thoughts about whether or not he is gay, is not gay, the sense that he has not rporated a homosexual orientatn any mimally affirmg way to his inty, " said Drcher.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

"Also, if he is not actually attracted to people of the same sex, do not masturbate to fantasi of people of the same sex, is not really aroed by same sex pornography, then is hard to make the se that he has a homosexual orientatn.

Another was heterosexual and feared he had agreed wh Brodsky that some therapists may miss an OCD diagnosis, but "the most likely e of that is not that they are too gay-affirmg but that they lack trag regnizg the symptoms of OCD. "Repeatedly, anxly, reviewg past suatns, ttg themselv, askg for reassurance, pulsively rearchg the Inter for gay tts, ttg themselv wh gay porn or gay people.

WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX

"As for treatment, Brodsky said he would help a patient who was tly gay validate their feelgs and atta self-acceptance, "achievg lm and peace of md. You might take some fort knowg that both your same-sex mutual masturbatn experience, and your "gay thoughts" when masturbatg alone, are shared by many.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Some younger and olr men feel strongly about publicly intifyg themselv, some way, as gay, straight, or bi, while others are ntent wh livg their happy liv private. My last post scribed a populatn of mal who nsir themselv heterosexual, do not label themselv gay or bisexual, chew volvement wh the LGBT muny, are often married or romantilly volved wh an oppose-sex partner, and who engage sex wh mal or exprs the sire to do so.

TAG CLOUD2GO GAY HOTON ARE ASSOCIATN AWOME BAD BARS BREAKG CHARGE LLECTNS LOURS PANY NSCNS CRED CUTE FACEBOOK FIX FLAG GAY GETTG GOOD HARD HEART LGBT LICHAAM LMAO LOOKG LOVE MORTGAGE NEW NEWS NORTH OFFS PIZZA PRI QUOT RABOW REPAIR ROCHTER ROO SRE SHOOT STAR STUFF THGS THOUGHTS WHE YAHOO YORK IN

Due large part to the popularizatn of the topic the btsellg 2005 book On the Down Low: A Journey to the Liv of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep wh Men, [i] Lato and Ain-Amerin men are the primary subjects rearch wh non-gay intified MSM. One of the earlit studi, "The Bisexual and Non-Gay Attached Rearch Project" om the early 1990s, found that participants engagg same-sex sexual behavr but not intifyg as gay or bisexual scribed themselv as “kky, ” “normal, ” or “jt a guy. Siar fdgs were found throughout a seri of terviews wh non-gay intified MSM prepared for the Centers for Disease Control and Preventn 2004.

In tally, the men terviewed reported that if sexual activy between men was anonymo, experimental, ocsnal, or if substance e was volved, the act was not “gay.

[iii] Daryl Hood, Garrett Prtage, June Crawford, Tania Sorrell, and Chris O’Reilly, "Report on the BANGAR Project: Bisexual Activy/non Gay Attachment Rearch Targetg Strategi Intifitn Project. [v] STD Communitns Database: Interviews wh Non-Gay Intified Men who have Sex wh Men (NGI MSM), ” (Atlanta, Geia: Orc Macro, 2005).

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

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MEET THE STRAIGHT MEN WHO ARE TERRIFIED THEY ARE GAY

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