"That's So Gay" Is Jt So Wrong | Psychology Today

Contents:

• "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
• LIFE IS TOTALLY GAY
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• THE 'GAY GENE' IS A MYTH BUT BEG GAY IS 'NATURAL,' SAY SCIENTISTS
• ARE YOU STRAIGHT, GAY, OR SOMEWHERE BETWEEN?
• THGS ARE EHER TOTALLY 'GAY' OR TOTALLY OL
• THAT'S GAY
• THE STGGLE FOR GAY RIGHTS IS OVER
• TOTALLY GAYMARK RIVERSTRACK 1 ON SUPER SONGS OF BIG MOUTH, VOL. 1 (MIC FROM THE NETFLIX ORIGAL SERI) PRODUCED BYMARK RIVERSOCT. 4, 20191 VIEWER6 CONTRIBUTORSTOTALLY GAY LYRICS[INTRO: ANDREW GLOUBERMAN]WHAT'S LIKE TO BE GAY?[VERSE: FREDDIE MERCURY]WHEN YOU’RE GAYEVERY DAY IS A NONSTOP BARETYOU'VE GOT STYLE AND FLAIR, YOU'RE LOVED EVERYWHEREKEPT FOR NORTH CAROLA!BEARS AND QUEENS, AND CATHOLIC TWEENSTHE WORLD’S YOUR BUFF BUFFETCOME AND JO THE FUN, SAY HELLO TO TIGHT BUTTSAND GOODBYE VAGAS[CHOS: FREDDIE MERCURY & ANDREW GLOUBERMAN]BE GAY, TOTALLY GAY (BE GAY!)BE A BRIGHT AND SHG RABOWY, YOU'LL FD YOUR NEW INTYIN THE LGBT MUNYOH...I'M GAY, TOTALLY GAY! (HE'S GAY!)I'M A FABULO, FLOUNCG LOUD AND PROUD CLICHé (SASHAY!)ON DISPLAY (ALL DAY!)AND I'VE FOUND MY LLG, TODAY (HOORAY!)OH, SHANTé (SO GAY!)[BRIDGE: ANDREW GLOUBERMAN]IT'S A FLAMG HOT PK LETTER DAYI'M NOT THE BOY I ED TO BEI’M HERE, I’M QUEERGET ED TO MEYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[OUTRO: FREDDIE MERCURY]HE'S ABSOLUTELY, UNNIABLY GAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTOR“TOTALLY GAY” IS THE FIRST SONG ON THE FIRST VOLUME OF MIC OM THE BIG MOUTH SERI. IN THE EPISO AM I GAY?, THE CHARACTER ANDREW IS QUTNG HIS SEXUALY, AND THE GHOST OF FREDDIE MERCURY SGS THIS SONG. AS SEEN SEASON 4 OF BIG MOUTH, CHARACTERS SG THIS SONG WH FREDDIE MERCURY WHEN THEY ARE QUTNG IF THEY ARE GAY OR NOT.EXPAND SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “TOTALLY GAY” BY MARK RIVERS?WHEN DID MARK RIVERS RELEASE “TOTALLY GAY”?WHO WROTE “TOTALLY GAY” BY MARK RIVERS?SUPER SONGS OF BIG MOUTH, VOL. 1 (MIC FROM THE NETFLIX ORIGAL SERI) (2019)BIG MOUTH (TV-SERI)1. TOTALLY GAY2. I LOVE MY BODY3. VALENTE’S DAY4. NEVER LOST NEW YORK CY5. I AM THE HORMONE MONSTRS (UNRELEASED)6. SEXY RED BRA7. SLUT WALK8. GUY TOWN9. WHY DO NOBODY (GET HOW GREAT I AM?)10. YOU LOOK BETIFUL, STEVE (UNRELEASED)11. SEX ON A LADY12. LIFE IS A F****D UP MS13. DISCLOSURE (THE MIL)14. ANYTHG GO FLORIDA15. PERFECTLY GROSS LTLE DIRTBAG16. SHAME17. THE SPECTM OF SEXUALY18. YOU’VE GOT THE POWER NOW19. SLICE O’ YOUR PIE20. I FEEL LIKE SH (THIS MT BE LOVE)21. SEX ON A LADY22. WHO NEEDS A BOY?23. EVERYBODY’S GOG THROUGH CHANGCREDSPRODUCED BYMARK RIVERSWRTEN BYMARK RIVERSRELEASE DATEOCTOBER 4, 2019TAGSPOPTVSOUNDTRACKEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

But parents who are enough aware of language’s substrata n help by helpg their kids’ schools unrstand the value of practicg the same kd of zero tolerance for homophobic language that they do for racist or anti-Semic or bullyg language.

LIFE IS TOTALLY GAY

I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had. If young gay people are sayg that they do not experience the phrase “that’s so gay” as homophobic – and if they are even g the phrase themselv – then perhaps we should accept their arguments and ncentrate on other battl. Totally not gayWhen closeted gay men who sperately seek the attentn and approval of others jokgly engage sexual nuendos that would otherwise appear to make them homosexual but then claim that s "totally not gay" when is -fact pletely, 100% Hey, why don't I pretend to perform fellat on you.

Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight.

The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs. The news this week that the largt study of s kd failed to nfirm the existence of a "gay gene" is not so much a disappotment for those lookg to unrstand the LGBTQ muny, as is an acknowledgement that science do not need to tell what should be plaly obv: gays, lbians, bisexuals and pansexuals are who they are.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

As Northwtern Universy psychologist Jeremy Jabbour and his lleagu pot out an article recently published the Archiv of Sexualy, many rearchers today still thk terms of a three-way divisn of sexual orientatn to straight, bi, and gay. In sum, the pattern of data suggt that men who report themselv as “mostly straight” have some tennci mon wh “gay” men, but they’re also more like “straight” men than those who intify as “bisexual. While has now bee a well-accepted notn that sexualy is fluid, and that dividuals are not necsarily only simply straight, gay or bisexual —and that sexualy n change over time— is important that we rema cril of this ia, and what ultimately means for LGBTQ cultural shift has acpanied a siar shift that has occurred for genr rol: we are now (largely) more acceptg of the ia that an dividual’s genr may not acrd neatly wh the sex assigned at birth; they may choose to take on certa aspects of tradnal genr rol, relquish others and possibly even create totally new ways of enactg genr.

This is hardly a new thought: Aled Ksey’s disveri the 1940s led to the velopment of the Ksey sle, a sle scribg an dividual’s sexual orientatn rangg om 0 (exclively heterosexual) to 6 (exclively homosexual) fascatg part of this sle was s allowance for dividuals to fall somewhere between 0 and 6, wh 3 scribed as ‘equally heterosexual and homosexual’. In a perfect world, where heterosexualy and homosexualy were both valid and equal choic, surely we would see many more dividuals acceptg their homosexualy wh ltle need for modifiers such as ‘bi-ish’ and ‘not gay’ or ‘still explorg’? Chanc are if you don’t intify as lbian, gay, bisexual or trans yourself, you might thk about what you’ve seen on TV – so Queer as Folk, Orange is the New Black, or The L Word, to name a few TV hs.

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THE 'GAY GENE' IS A MYTH BUT BEG GAY IS 'NATURAL,' SAY SCIENTISTS

The Stggle for Gay Rights Is OverFor those born to a form of adversy, sometim the harst thg to do is admtg that they’ve Tsironis / RtersEdor’s Note: This article is part of a seri about the gay-rights movement and the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall uprisg. For this childhood fan, was a marvel: A sport wh heavily oiled men nng around spanx tights that was neverthels notor for crassly homophobic stereotyp now celebrat gay day seems to brg wele exampl of how Amerins are beg more relaxed about sexual orientatn. Sce gays began anizg polilly the 1950s—meetg secret, g psdonyms, and unr nstant surveillance by the FBI—their movement for legal equaly and societal acceptance has arguably advanced faster than any other Amerin history.

By the time Print Tmp took office, the sodomy laws that effectively ma gay people crimals had been repealed, the right for gays to serve openly the ary was won, and marriage equaly was achieved natnwi.

After the ary’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy was repealed, the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, a group that reprented gay soldiers discharged unr the directive, merged wh OutServe, an advocy group for gay ary personnel. Aga, ” clared the headle of a characteristilly psimistic Tim op-ed by the legendary gay activist and playwright Larry this glooms li the 2016 electn, which many gay activists believe threatened to halt, if not reverse, all of the progrs they have ma.

ARE YOU STRAIGHT, GAY, OR SOMEWHERE BETWEEN?

At a time when Amerins are riven by tribal differenc related to polics, race, genr, geography, relign, and other factors, is hard to fd another issue around which there is so much nsens as basic fairns for gay people.

It was an obv joke about Pence’s religsy and social nservatism, an example not of Tmp’s purported homophobia but the lack of rpect he has for even his most loyal followers, up to and cludg his own vice print, whom he is apparently willg to mock before a group of Whe Hoe visors. ”Perhaps fearg that few beyond their perpetually furiated base of die-hard supporters will listen, some gay groups have reached for dub statistil evince to back their claims of a Tmp-duced homophobic backlash. Days later, the Natnal Coaln of Anti-Vlence Programs (NCAVP), a group mted to batg antigay hate crim, published a report claimg a shockg 86 percent crease “hate vlence related homicis of LGBTQ people” om 2016 to fdgs would be alarmg, if te.

THGS ARE EHER TOTALLY 'GAY' OR TOTALLY OL

Likewise, the portn of heterosexual rponnts who said they would feel unfortable “learng a fay member is LGBTQ” was 27 percent 2016, and rose to 30 percent the followg for the report on LGBTQ homicis, is unclear how many of the murrs clud the report were actually motivated by antigay anim.

Acrdg to Walter Olson of the Cato Instute, who rearched the dividual cints, “ is hard to see any evince at all that the perpetrators were motivated by such bias” 16 of the 20 slaygs of gay men.

Earlier this year, an amic journal quietly retracted a study by a Columbia Universy profsor purportg to show that livg areas wh high levels of antigay sentiment rc gay people’s life expectanci by a dozen years.

THAT'S GAY

That so many people ially believed his story reflects the pervasivens of the sentiment that a ti of homophobia scend upon Ameri the time sce Tmp beme the 45th picture is different for transgenr Amerins. But is the nflatn of transgenr issu wh the gay-rights movement, a recent velopment and not one unrtaken whout some ntroversy among gays and lbians themselv, which acunts for much if not most of the evince ced as reprentg regrsn on gay to marriage equaly and other protectns for gays advanced by the Supreme Court, Jtice Anthony Kennedy’s “opns seem secure bee his jurispnce largely mirrors chang society, ” Saikrishna Prakash of the Universy of Virgia Law School told Poli, referrg to the former Supreme Court jtice’s majory opns the 2003 se strikg down sodomy laws and the 2015 se legalizg same-sex marriage. The ia that gay Amerins might have achieved somethg approachg equaly go agast a central assumptn of the zegeist, which, this age of Tmp, Brex, and a risg global ti of natnalism and illiberalism, postulat that Enlightenment valu are on the cle.

THE STGGLE FOR GAY RIGHTS IS OVER

When I asked the Human Rights Campaign, the untry’s leadg gay-rights group, for statistics on the number of LGBTQ people annually nied employment, hog, or service at a hotel or rtrant due to their sexualy or genr inty, the group was unable to provi me wh any.

” Such language is sufficiently vague to enpass everythg om a stray homophobic ment heard on the street to beg fired, and is th not a eful gge of the extent of a problem remediable by ernment actn.

In a 7–2 cisn, all the more damng for havg been wrten by the judicial hero of the morn gay-rights movement, Anthony Kennedy, the Court cisively led agast a gay uple’s attempt to force a Christian baker Colorado to make a ke for their weddg ceremony. The urt assailed Colorado burecrats for nng roughshod over the First Amendment rights of the baker, whose relig nvictns forba him not om servg gay people—he offered to make the uple all the baked goods they uld ever wish to nsume—but om exprsg approval for somethg he nsirs gay people are expected to be grievoly offend by the behavr of Jack Phillips, the owner of Masterpiece Cakhop. Ameri is a land of some 330 ln people, and I do not require every small-bs owner across the untry to reject 2, 000 years of relig teachg orr to pursue my by a moral absolutism remblg the relig zeal of those they oppose, some gay activists and their progrsive alli have taken a zero-sum approach to the issue of antidiscrimatn, seekg to punish and stigmatize people who hold the exact same view of marriage that Barack Obama exprsed up until May 2012.

TOTALLY GAYMARK RIVERSTRACK 1 ON SUPER SONGS OF BIG MOUTH, VOL. 1 (MIC FROM THE NETFLIX ORIGAL SERI) PRODUCED BYMARK RIVERSOCT. 4, 20191 VIEWER6 CONTRIBUTORSTOTALLY GAY LYRICS[INTRO: ANDREW GLOUBERMAN]WHAT'S LIKE TO BE GAY?[VERSE: FREDDIE MERCURY]WHEN YOU’RE GAYEVERY DAY IS A NONSTOP BARETYOU'VE GOT STYLE AND FLAIR, YOU'RE LOVED EVERYWHEREKEPT FOR NORTH CAROLA!BEARS AND QUEENS, AND CATHOLIC TWEENSTHE WORLD’S YOUR BUFF BUFFETCOME AND JO THE FUN, SAY HELLO TO TIGHT BUTTSAND GOODBYE VAGAS[CHOS: FREDDIE MERCURY & ANDREW GLOUBERMAN]BE GAY, TOTALLY GAY (BE GAY!)BE A BRIGHT AND SHG RABOWY, YOU'LL FD YOUR NEW INTYIN THE LGBT MUNYOH...I'M GAY, TOTALLY GAY! (HE'S GAY!)I'M A FABULO, FLOUNCG LOUD AND PROUD CLICHé (SASHAY!)ON DISPLAY (ALL DAY!)AND I'VE FOUND MY LLG, TODAY (HOORAY!)OH, SHANTé (SO GAY!)[BRIDGE: ANDREW GLOUBERMAN]IT'S A FLAMG HOT PK LETTER DAYI'M NOT THE BOY I ED TO BEI’M HERE, I’M QUEERGET ED TO MEYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[OUTRO: FREDDIE MERCURY]HE'S ABSOLUTELY, UNNIABLY GAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTOR“TOTALLY GAY” IS THE FIRST SONG ON THE FIRST VOLUME OF MIC OM THE BIG MOUTH SERI. IN THE EPISO AM I GAY?, THE CHARACTER ANDREW IS QUTNG HIS SEXUALY, AND THE GHOST OF FREDDIE MERCURY SGS THIS SONG. AS SEEN SEASON 4 OF BIG MOUTH, CHARACTERS SG THIS SONG WH FREDDIE MERCURY WHEN THEY ARE QUTNG IF THEY ARE GAY OR NOT.EXPAND SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “TOTALLY GAY” BY MARK RIVERS?WHEN DID MARK RIVERS RELEASE “TOTALLY GAY”?WHO WROTE “TOTALLY GAY” BY MARK RIVERS?SUPER SONGS OF BIG MOUTH, VOL. 1 (MIC FROM THE NETFLIX ORIGAL SERI) (2019)BIG MOUTH (TV-SERI)1. TOTALLY GAY2. I LOVE MY BODY3. VALENTE’S DAY4. NEVER LOST NEW YORK CY5. I AM THE HORMONE MONSTRS (UNRELEASED)6. SEXY RED BRA7. SLUT WALK8. GUY TOWN9. WHY DO NOBODY (GET HOW GREAT I AM?)10. YOU LOOK BETIFUL, STEVE (UNRELEASED)11. SEX ON A LADY12. LIFE IS A F****D UP MS13. DISCLOSURE (THE MIL)14. ANYTHG GO FLORIDA15. PERFECTLY GROSS LTLE DIRTBAG16. SHAME17. THE SPECTM OF SEXUALY18. YOU’VE GOT THE POWER NOW19. SLICE O’ YOUR PIE20. I FEEL LIKE SH (THIS MT BE LOVE)21. SEX ON A LADY22. WHO NEEDS A BOY?23. EVERYBODY’S GOG THROUGH CHANGCREDSPRODUCED BYMARK RIVERSWRTEN BYMARK RIVERSRELEASE DATEOCTOBER 4, 2019TAGSPOPTVSOUNDTRACKEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

Meanwhile, the state of New York is threateng to close an evangelil adoptn agency that ref to place children wh gay upl, spe the fact that the agency do not even accept ernment fundg and that no gay uple had ever even plaed about beg nied you had told gay activists 10 or even five years ago that their energi would center upon mpaigns related to var foods—forcg p pastry chefs to make k and boyttg Chick-Fil-A, or “hate chicken, ” bee s Christian owner has donated money to efforts opposg same-sex marriage—most would have nsired their missns plete.

To unrstand why so many the movement refe to accept victory, helps to unrstand the tensns that have long existed at s the emergence of “homophile” activists the 1950s, the tenor and aims of the Amerin gay-rights e have alternated between two tennci: tegratnist and separatist.

If tegratnists believe that gay people are pretty much the same as straight people and th want the same thgs out of life, separatists ntend there is somethg herently distct about “queerns” obligatg s adherents to pursue polil paths and romantic and social arrangements divergent om the Amerin mastream. Galvanized four years later by the Stonewall rts, when the patrons of a Greenwich Village bar fought back agast police harassment, the gay movement veloped a more radil and antagonistic attu toward straight society as s lears me unr the sway of the untercultural New Left.