In this week’s What Your Therapist Really Thks lumn, an 18-year-old wants to know what to do about his parents, who haven’t accepted that he is gay.
Contents:
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- ALWAYS KNEW I WAS ADOPTED; JT FOUND OUT I’M GAY
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
- ‘MY PARENTS STILL WON’T ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY!’
- I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
- I FOUND OUT MY HBAND IS GAY
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight. Know if you are gay.
Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you. There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all.
Neher is there anythg wrong wh you for beg gay. The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is. Remember that beg gay do not require you to nform to typil gay stereotyp.
ALWAYS KNEW I WAS ADOPTED; JT FOUND OUT I’M GAY
Most people who are gay are distguishable om those that aren't. Beg gay do not necsarily make you any ls mascule or feme, and there is no need or prsure to nform to stereotyp that don't feel right to you - bee you are who you are.
You do not need to f to the gay muny jt as much as you don't need to f to the straight muny.
In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different ncept. There is no evince that "helpg gay people to bee heterosexual" is possible. Homosexualy is not viewed as an illns and short, won't be treated as such.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
There are many, many gay people all sorts of muni, and there are many people there for you when you need support.
‘MY PARENTS STILL WON’T ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY!’
Fd a group or a hangout where you feel fortable, and where there will be other gay people to talk wh. If you were raised an environment that owns on homosexualy, you are not worth any ls. The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs.
Your iends and fay love "you, " not straight you or gay you, they love you. Unrstand that a person who is gay is no different om any other person. Like everyone else, gay people have dreams and goals and want pannship and love jt like anyone else you know.
If you are the USA, there is the Gay-Straight Alliance. What if my whole fay is agast homosexualy?
I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
I don't want to e out bee my siblgs may get bullied for havg a gay brother. It is important to note that the Amerin Psychologil Associatn has clared that groups claimg to cure homosexualy are dangero and unhealthy. If you are still beg supported by parents whom you are que sure would disown you for beg gay, may be pnt to wa to tell them until you are pennt.
You may regret the acceptance of your orientatn the future, pecially if you're a part of the world where the gay muny is beg prosecuted by a specific culture. Article SummaryXIf you stggle wh acceptg your attractn to the same sex, know that beg gay is pletely normal and you n be proud of who you are by fdg support and embracg your dividualy.
I FOUND OUT MY HBAND IS GAY
It’s also important to unrstand that you don’t need to nform to gay stereotyp or tl, as they are artificial social nstcts.
I’m gay. If I’m gay, ’s a big al. I didn’t choose to be gay, but, out of all the possible words I uld claim om the sexualy spectm, I choose the most parsimon one.
GAY. I didn’t jt fd out I’m gay exactly. After some rearch, I learn that other women middle age who disver they are gay report siar feelgs: It was like I was watchg a movie about myself but unable to ntrol what was unfoldg.