My ar rears, we've had some great te datg nfsns so far: "My boyiend sent me his rume," "My boyiend got a tattoo of my name," "My boyiend has no iends" and "I'm embarrassed by my boyiend." Well, today, we have a big one. Christa, 31, tells about how she found out that her hband Read her story after the jump....
Contents:
- HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOU FD OUT YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- TE DATG CONFSN: "I FOUND OUT THAT MY HBAND WAS GAY."
- I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
- THE SGLEHOOD SERI: HOW I FOUND OUT MY BOYIEND WAS SECRETLY GAY
- QUIZ: HOW TO TELL IF MY BOYIEND IS GAY?
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- IS MY BOYIEND GAY?
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOU FD OUT YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
If you're readg this, there's a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay. No doubt you're also feelg pretty nfed and wonrg how to al wh the suatn. It's a very sensive suatn to al wh, and you need to make sure you rpect his feelgs. But at the same time, you n't * found out my boyfriend was gay *
But what do you do when your relatoship ends bee your boyiend out as gay? Did you make him gay? Do your feelgs really have to change jt bee he’s gay?
17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Sexualy is highly plex and sensive, and there are a lot of accurate stereotyp out there that don't tly... * found out my boyfriend was gay *
No matter what he might say, he didn’t jt wake up this morng and ci he was gay. So no, you didn’t make him gay. It’s not his flt he’s gay.
I found out my boyiend me out as gay and I'm pletely vastated. If you’re readg this, there’s a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
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So how n you tell if your boyiend is gay? If you see any of the signs below, your boyiend may be gay.
He watch gay pornIf your boyiend watch a lot of gay porn, there’s a good chance he’s sexually terted men. He might not be fully gay, but he’s obvly cur enough to check out on a regular basis. After all, most heterosexual guys have no tert watchg any porn unls there’s a woman your boyiend is tryg to hi his sexualy om you, ’s doubtful that he’ll openly watch gay porn while you’re around.
The only way you’ll know is to look at his search history, which is a pretty big vasn of his do he react if you offer to watch gay porn wh him?
TE DATG CONFSN: "I FOUND OUT THAT MY HBAND WAS GAY."
I want to rrect you on somethg you've said repeatedly: A man n “hi” his bisexual orientatn. I disagree. I felt my boyiend was gay or bi immediately. * found out my boyfriend was gay *
He’s been wh men beforeIf he’s been relatnships or hooked up wh men the past, ’s a pretty big ditor that he’s gay or bisexual. ”If you hear this kd of ment a lot, he might be attemptg to normalize his homosexual thoughts by makg them seem like nothg more than a joke. He’s homophobicIt sounds untertuive, but some gay or bisexual men will exprs homophobic sentiments.
It’s a way of flectg spicn off of themselv and makg seem like they uld never be terted other to the way your boyiend talks about homosexualy. Do he e hostile or sultg words to scribe gay men? Do he make jok about beg gay that cross the le om good-natured teasg to offensive terrory?
If so, might be bee he’s secretly stgglg wh his own urse, there are plenty of heterosexual guys who e homophobic language as well. He’s not terted sleepg wh youThere are lots of reasons why your boyiend might not want to have sex that don’t volve him beg secretly gay. Do he always want to know who is gay and who is straight?
I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
I also found out there was a gay muny the apartment which was tertg. I had never lived a place que like that one... * found out my boyfriend was gay *
His fantasi volve menA of heterosexual men have sexual fantasi volvg other men, and don’t mean they are gay. He has a lot of gay iendsPeople tend to associate wh others who share siar terts and valu.
So if your boyiend has a lot of gay iends, uld be bee he’s subnscly tryg to surround himself wh people like urse, plenty of straight guys have gay iends as well.
But if seems like the majory of his social circle is gay, uld be a sign that he’s stgglg wh his own sexualy. He has a gay datg app on his phoneEven if he hasn’t actually ed the app to hook up wh guys, he’s obvly cur and may be thkg about dog so the future. Keep md that havg a datg app on his phone don’t mean he’s cheatg on you, but you serve to know if he’s actively lookg for other signs your boyiend is gayIt’s jt as important to unrstand all the signals that uld mistakenly lead you to believe your boyiend is gay.
THE SGLEHOOD SERI: HOW I FOUND OUT MY BOYIEND WAS SECRETLY GAY
Quiz: How to Tell if My Boyiend Is Gay? - It may be an awkward topic to brg up, but if you are wonrg how to tell if your boyiend is gay or not, you are certaly not alone. “How to tell if my... * found out my boyfriend was gay *
Here are some of the issu and stereotyp about gay men that you n safely ignore. He r about his appearance & groomgThe stereotype of the neat, well-drsed gay man is ridiculo at this pot. Gay guys e as many different styl and personali as straight guys do.
So don’t assume that your boyiend is gay jt bee he lik to drs well or take re of his appearance. He sounds gayYou might have heard that gay men often speak wh a lisp, but this stereotype is pletely unte.
QUIZ: HOW TO TELL IF MY BOYIEND IS GAY?
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While some gay men do speak wh a lisp, plenty of straight guys do as well. Don’t assume that your boyiend is gay jt bee he has what you nsir to be feme mannerisms. If your boyiend cri durg sad movi or gets upset about issu that are important to him, don’t mean he’s gay.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
He uld jt be touch wh his to do if you thk your boyiend is gayOkay, so you’ve noticed some of the signs that your boyiend might be gay. It’s possible he’s been wantg to have this nversatn wh you but hasn’t had the urage to brg though you may have seen many of the behavrs on this list, don’t throw them his face as a list of ‘evince’ that he’s secretly gay.
Don’t prsure himWhether your boyiend is gay, straight, or somethg between, he’ll need time to procs his feelgs. Jt let him know you’re there for him when he’s do you do if he do adm that he’s gay?
If your boyiend adms he’s gay, will be a difficult time for both of you and there’s no gettg past the fact that your relatnship is over.
IS MY BOYIEND GAY?
Don’t try to change himThe worst thg you n do is try to change him or ‘cure’ him of his homosexualy.
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
There’s nothg you uld have done to change his sexualy, and ’s not your flt that he’s gay. Some people even fall to the trap of thkg they were such a bad partner they somehow ‘turned’ their partner gay.
Move on wh your lifeBreakups are always tough, but fdg out your boyiend is gay is a particularly difficult suatn.