Dear Pnce: I’m a straight woman who married a gay man.

Contents:

• I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND
• CAN A GAY MAN FALL LOVE WH A WOMAN?
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• CAN A GAY MAN BE ATTRACTED TO A SPECIFIC GIRL, BUT NOT WOMEN GENERAL, AND STI
• DEAR COLEEN: I'M A GAY MAN BUT I'VE FALLEN LOVE WH FEMALE BT IEND
• GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?

I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND

I gus that would be up to the gay man qutn. It isn’t about all gay men, nor do prume that any actn would follow.

I thk asks if is possible for some one man who self-intifi as a homosexual to velop a romantic type of emotnal attachment to a woman. If any gay man n say y to this, then there’s one se, and that’s all tak to answer the qutn affirmatively. But beg neher male nor gay, I’m no thory.

“Gay” is jt a label that people apply to themselv bee they view as the most accurate label to scribe them. But if they want to ntue to intify as “gay” for nvenience purpos or jt for themselv, then fe. I have a iend who nsirs himself gay and pretty recently end a very long relatnship wh a woman.

CAN A GAY MAN FALL LOVE WH A WOMAN?

I work wh several gay guys, and last week one of them asked me out. Or gay man datg F to M person, or a lbian datg M to F person. as the “famo” le om the L Word go, “most people are straight until they are gay.

And gay until they are straight.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

Sudnly, men that I strongly associated wh beg gay and gay only are, if I’m not readg my rds rrectly, droppg maybe not so subtle hts. He’s also always been hont about beg gay and has never hidn om me.

Our son took the news very well and don’t re that his father was gay.

I’ve asked my hband about , and he nfirms that he’s gay, not bisexual. I have doubts that he might leave me someday for a gay relatnship like he did his ex-wife.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Would you nsir him bisexual or gay?

I thk your hband que clearly nsirs himself gay, which is far more relevant to your marriage than my asssment of his sense of self. The qutn of how he se his gayns relatn to his two marriag to women, specifilly his current marriage to you, is both more salient and open-end, so I’d suggt you start by askg him to share more of his thoughts on the subject wh you. That will get you a lot further than tryg to figure out if your hband is “really” bisexual (and, implicly, whether that means you n safely hope he won’t leave you for someone else) or “really” gay (and, implicly, whether you have to fear that he’s gog to break up wh you for another man).

” His gayns isn’t somethg you n ntralize by beg a sufficiently good or extra-lovg wife.

CAN A GAY MAN BE ATTRACTED TO A SPECIFIC GIRL, BUT NOT WOMEN GENERAL, AND STI

Can a gay man love and be a relatnship wh a woman? My Hband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has ed an uproar. Why do some people bee so outspoken and judgmental about marriag wh one straight and one gay spoe?

DEAR COLEEN: I'M A GAY MAN BUT I'VE FALLEN LOVE WH FEMALE BT IEND

Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight. The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show).

They report they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wiv accept this. People seem to get up arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men.

In our culture, we intify ourselv via a sexual-attractn bary: gay or straight. Later, their gay sexual inti surface and here they are—heterosexually married wh children.

GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?

Many straight women married to gay men nscly choose to do so wh their ey wi open. There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men.

They make this choice wh open discsns, which are very paful and emotnal for both the gay man and the straight wife. ” To the man, I say, “Consir whether you n really keep your homosexual feelgs and sir check. You might be able to claim your inty by meetg ocsnally wh gay men, stayg touch on Facebook, and lettg your gay iends know that you want to rema sexually fahful to your wife.