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i really don't want to be gay

Kev Maxen, assistant ach of the Jacksonville Jaguars, is the first openly gay ach of a U.S. men’s profsnal league sport

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I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay?

You don’t need to be certa you are gay before talkg to someone or attendg an LGBTQ+ meetg.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY

I am a gay male. I have been out nearly 7 years now (age 16, sophomore year of HS).

That week I told my iends and fay I was gay.

It is very homogeneo/ hetero-normative and beg a tholic stutn is not the easit environment for queer stunts.

LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT

Michael Sam beme the first openly gay player to be drafted when the then-St.

(Kent Nishimura / Los Angel Tim) To the edor: I wonr if the LGBTQ+ muny realiz that the Supreme Court lg favor of a webse signer who didn’t want to create weddg s for gay upl n work our favor as well. (“How the ripple effect of the Supreme Court’s 303 Creative cisn uld swamp civil rights, ” Opn, July 12)As a gay man, I am always ncerned if the bs where I spend my money are supportive of my muny. Charl Barkley is not aaid to take a polil stance and he emphatilly clared his support for LGBTQ+ people, attackg the homophobic boytt of Bud Light.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY

He ed some strong words to illtrate his pot, llg homophob ‘a**hol'. I am gay but have never admted this to anyone.

I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY…

My iends probably spect I am gay, but we have never discsed .

Your iends, who might already spect that you’re gay, will get to know you on a eper level and likely feel much closer to you. Kev Maxen, an assistant ach for the Jacksonville Jaguars, ma sports history after publicly g out as gay. Maxen’s disclosure is a historic one, makg him the first openly gay ach of a U.

Maxen’s announcement two years after NFL star Carl Nassib beme the league’s first active openly gay player. “I jt wanted to take a quick moment to say that I’m gay, ” the former Las Vegas Rairs player, 30, revealed a June 2021 Instagram vio. I’m totally rpect and unrstand gay.

‘EX-GAY’ MEN FIGHT BACK AGAST VIEW THAT HOMOSEXUALY CAN’T BE CHANGED

I jt hated myself dividually for why I’m gay, I don’t want to be gay, I jt wanted everythg be normal. Also, gay adult films do not reflect realy.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

Those people are actors beg paid to do what the director tells them to do, and many are not even gay. She also shuts down whenever I brg up boyiends or boys general (and she’s never dated a boy, as far as I know), and seems bothered by anti-gay ments and sermons she hears.

I’m worried that she might be gay and don’t feel fortable tellg bee of some ments her father has ma the past. We’re already at odds over the electn, but I still love her even if she is gay.

—Dghter Might Be Gay. You mt realize you nnot make your dghter one wh ls gay by wishg she were straight.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

Nor n you make her ls gay by keepg quiet when her father or pastor says somethg homophobic or by repeatedly askg if she has a boyiend.

Your dghter may be gay or bisexual, but she may also be straight and merely disturbed by the anti-gay sentiment your church po.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* I REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE GAY

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