Boys Gone Wild - Gay Men Who Want to Get Hazed - Nymag

Contents:

• MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN
• GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY
• THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY
• YOU’RE NOT BREAKG BARRIERS BY BEG GAY A ATERNY
• JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY

MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN

Wh theater doors bolted shut for the next…foreeable future, we’re thrilled to see some Broadway talent pop up the pilot episo of Boy•Friends, a new edy based off the My Gay Boyiend web-seri.

The show centers around two llege roommat, one gay and one straight, and their “journey through llege and to adulthood to bee the homo-hetero power uple of the ag. The Syrace Universy chapter of Theta T was spend this week after the school’s newspaper, the Daily Orange, published shockg vios of at boys makg racist, homophobic, anti-semic oaths and engagg tly plorable behavr.

GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY

Related: Rich Frat Boy Says He’s The Real Victim In Antigay Tira Agast Uber Driver, Plans To File Lawsu Agast The “Mimum Wage F*ggot”. The vios also clu simulatns of oral sex, masturbatn, glory hol, and dg e, and crackg homophobic jok: “Get together and [talk] about their signifint others while drkg different w and talkg gay girly accents! Related: Frat Boy Dish On What It’s Like To Be Gay And Greek.

Class, and the odd profsor, on his way to teach , who all knew I'd jt “shacked, ” a term ually rerved to slut-shame sorory women but which was applied jt as egregly to me, the out gay man who wasn't Greek but sperately wished he were. When I me out my Appalachian high school at 15, my male classmat provid a daily ccible of homophobia. I was lled “cksucker, ” “fudgepacker” and “homo” more often than I was lled by my name.

Even as a gay man, my sexual currency was fed through heterosexualy.

THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY

The sex was eher borgly heteronormative, like the top-tier aterny man who wanted me to lie there silently as he thst and out of me, leavg $50 on my nightstand as he left bee he thought I “need” , or vlently homophobic, as wh the man om the “date rape aterny” who liked to smack me the face and sp on me, remdg me what a ltle queer I am. In their book, this was nothg short of a party foul; I had ed the “good tim wh the gay boy” by volvg feelgs, somethg they uld never five.

I see Greek life as a system that upholds the opprsive stctural forc of racism, sexism, classism and homophobia, and my head I n nstct exactly why aterni and sorori are such pernic stutns. As the only out young gay kid at my school, I took the advancement of my sexual experienc to my own hands and I did what we all do: I bought a fake ID and h the gay clubs. While I knew wouldn’t be like a gay llege eroti I’d read on (gay non, really), I rather naively wasn’t expectg the fall out.

I realize I fell to that old gay adage of placg my feelgs on a person who, for whatever reason, was never gog to vt them back me.

YOU’RE NOT BREAKG BARRIERS BY BEG GAY A ATERNY

Worst of all, though, the shame attached to the memori of those first tim marred how I would approach sex for was listeng to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify, ” and seeg the band’s out gay sger Olly Alexanr talk about how the song was spired his sexual trysts wh straight men, that I realized that the feelgs are way more mon than people let on. Sure, I know all about gay guys havg sex wh straight guys, but felt reassurg to see him scribe the “sat and sner role” he embodied durg those experienc, and to hear the uncertaty and melancholy weaved to the than anythg though, was the repeated lyril mantra of “I won’t be ashamed. But, rather, Ohlger thought he wouldn’t be wele the aterny once the brothers found out he was gay.

“I didn’t thk the whole, beg a at and beg gay went together at all, ” Ohlger said.

“Oh, I didn’t tell you guys, but I’m gay, ” Ohlger told the brothers. He was always tellg people he was homophobic, jt that kd of person, ” Ohlger said.

JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY

“And I fet what he said exactly, but he said ‘I jt wanted to say I hope you sh the hoe, bee you ma me qutn what I always thought (about gay people). “So what I was thkg, ” Ohlger said, “what really me down to was, if I uld change the opn of how 60 straight at guys viewed one gay person, or the whole gay muny, while I hung out wh my bt iends and had a really good time, why wouldn’t I do ? His ial ncern that aterny life and beg gay don’t mix ronat throughout the LGBT muny.

Numero other gay men who are aterni are eher not out to their entire hoe or only out to a select few. Their reasons for wantg to rema anonymo are all the same — that most or all of their brothers don’t know they are gay. Steve pots to what he lls the “du culture” as the reason many gay men are not fortable g out their aterni.

Steve said that this “du culture” often tim lends to the perceptn that the Greek system on mp is homophobic.