'When I look back at the photos of Sarah as a ltle girl, I n't help but feel sad.' One mother and her gay dghter talk wh utter ankns about the schism her sexualy has ed wh their fay
Contents:
- 'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN
- I N'T FIVE MY DGHTER FOR BEG GAY
- MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS
- PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN
She jt told me she’s gay. I’ve already talked to her about sex wh boys—how do I talk to her about girls? * i don't want a gay daughter *
She jt told me she’s gay. Sign up to get "Dear Therapist" your Therapist, As a parent, I firmly believe that is my duty to prepare my kids to be posive, healthy, and productive people both the world and personal when my 12-year-old dghter announced that she is gay, my md started spng. That’s how I feel’The armageddon refers to his mum’s strong Jehovah’s Wns beliefs about the sfulns of homosexualy.
’”Chris, sadly, isn’t alone his story of parental fa of equalyAt the time I terviewed him, a Brazilian mother who killed her teenage son for beg gay is sentenced to 25 years prison. Celebry stori of heartbreakg parental rejectn are also November, the Amerin thor and producer Robyn Crawford released a book nfirmg she had had a romantic relatnship wh Whney Hoton – but had to abandon out of fear of the repercsns om Hoton’s by Oprah Wey if would have bothered her if her dghter was gay, Cissy Hoton said “Absolutely.
“She even worked Brisbane’s gay bar, ” Chris says. She also shuts down whenever I brg up boyiends or boys general (and she’s never dated a boy, as far as I know), and seems bothered by anti-gay ments and sermons she hears. I’m worried that she might be gay and don’t feel fortable tellg bee of some ments her father has ma the past.
I N'T FIVE MY DGHTER FOR BEG GAY
Chris Jewell’s parents disowned him after fdg out he was gay, but he is not alone his story of parental rejectn * i don't want a gay daughter *
We’re already at odds over the electn, but I still love her even if she is gay. —Dghter Might Be Gay.
MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS
* i don't want a gay daughter *
You mt realize you nnot make your dghter one wh ls gay by wishg she were straight. Nor n you make her ls gay by keepg quiet when her father or pastor says somethg homophobic or by repeatedly askg if she has a boyiend. Your dghter may be gay or bisexual, but she may also be straight and merely disturbed by the anti-gay sentiment your church po.
Do not let the only thg you ever say to your dghter about homophobia be nothg.
Tell her that you regret never speakg up the past when you’ve heard anti-gay slurs, that you were wrong to let homophobia go unremarked-upon, and that your love for her is not ndnally based upon her prumed heterosexualy. Support your dghter by overtly tellg her that you support her, not that you would still love her “even if she is gay. ” When you tell someone, “I still love you even if you are gay, ” what you are really sayg is this: “Obvly beg gay is worse than beg straight.
PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
Many parents stggle for years to adjt after learng child is gay, acrdg to a new study om Gee Washgton Universy public health rearchers. * i don't want a gay daughter *
There are many rourc available to you as you figure out how to parent a way gog forward that repudiat pulsory heterosexualy and anti-LGBTQ sentiments: nsir the work of Mel Whe, Soulforce, PFLAG, and the Gay Christian Network, among others.
” He seemed oddly imprsed when he saw that I was the only whe person my group of llege iends, and he speaks of his one black, gay, Jewish iend like he’s some rare llectible. “Kchen Stk: The rtrant staff thk I n’t unrstand when they ll me anti-gay slurs Spanish. Now, she has e out as gay and I look at her - wh her short hair and mascule cloth, - and wonr where did we as parents go wrong?
If I'm hont, I probably felt a twge of relief that she was settlg down bee I had harboured fleetg ncerns that she might be gay. I'd known gay people the past at work and had never been prejudiced towards them - had never bothered me.