My mother, and my (gay) self.
Contents:
- MOM WHO INIALLY STGGLED TO ACCEPT HER GAY SON NOW STANDS IN AT SAME-SEX WEDDGS
- HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
- GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
- SALLY FIELD ON BEG A MOM WHO SUPPORTS HER GAY SON SPOILER ALERT
- A MOTHER'S LETTER TO HER GAY SON BCE DAVID CIELLO
- 'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN
- PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
MOM WHO INIALLY STGGLED TO ACCEPT HER GAY SON NOW STANDS IN AT SAME-SEX WEDDGS
Sara Cunngham stggled when her son told her he was gay. Now she volunteers as a stand- mom at same-sex weddgs when the blogil parents refe to attend. * mother gay son *
Fally, when he turned 21, Parker told his mother a tth he had only hted at before: he is gay.
"I jt remember that I had to face realy that moment, that hour, that I have a gay child, " said Sara. "I’ve heard said that when a gay child out of their closet, the parents often go to theirs and that’s te, " she one of those days, Parker me to her room to ask if she was OK. But she’s here now and wants to help others the gay muny who are stgglg wh rejectn om their now volunteers to go to other same-sex weddgs if the blogil parents refe to attend.
She was rryg a piece of orange poster board wh a msage hand-lettered black marker: “PARENTS of GAYS: UNITE SUPPORT fOR oUR CHILDREN. They asked if they uld kiss her; they asked if she would talk to their parents; they told her that they uldn’t image their own mothers and fathers supportg them so publicly, or supportg them at woman’s name was Jeanne Manford, and she was marchg alongsi her twenty-one-year-old gay son, Morty. The anizatn they dreamed up that day, which started as a sgle support group Manhattan, was ially lled Parents of Gays; later, was renamed Parents FLAG, for Parents and Friends of Lbians and Gays; nowadays, is known only as PFLAG.
HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
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The same year Avril was born, Morty’s psychiatrist summoned Jeanne and Jul to his office and rmed them that their beloved goln boy and sole survivg son was the bt of her knowledge, Jeanne Manford had never known anyone who was gay.
”There was no mystery about what that kd of tradnal, law-abidg woman was supposed to thk about gay people 1968. At the time, homosexual acts were crimal forty-ne stat, wh punishments rangg om f to prison time, cludg life sentenc.
Polil anizg was virtually impossible—one early gay-rights group that attempted to officially rporate New York was told that s mere existence would vlate state sodomy laws—and posive cultural reprentatn was all but nonexistent; there were no openly gay or lbian policians, punds, relig lears, actors, athlet, or micians the mastream.
GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
Seven years after his suici, a mother wr a letter to her gay son, Bce D. Ciello. * mother gay son *
Newspapers ed the words “homosexual” and “pervert” terchangeably, and the handful of gay people who appeared on televisn to discs their “life style” almost always had their fac hidn shadows or otherwise obscured. In 1974, when “The Pat Colls Show” aired a segment on parents of gay children, the host troduced by sayg, “Even if he mted murr, I gus you’d say, ‘Well, he’s still my child, no matter what. ’ But suppose your child me to you and said, ‘Mother, Dad, I am homosexual.
”You uld f most of the solar system to the chasm between how the average Amerin of the era would have reacted that hypothetil suatn and how Jeanne Manford rpond upon learng that Morty was gay. Not for a moment did she wonr, as the otherwise supportive Jul ially did, if his gayns reflected some failg of theirs as parents.
Later, after he went to llege at Columbia and me to terms wh beg gay, the steady, unfsy love of his fay seemed tepid pared wh his own creasg radilism. The first time he attend a gay-rights prott, he wore sunglass and turned away om the news meras, but he soon beme, his sister Suzanne (now Suzanne Manford Swan) told me, “unaaid and unstoppable.
SALLY FIELD ON BEG A MOM WHO SUPPORTS HER GAY SON SPOILER ALERT
Chris Jewell’s parents disowned him after fdg out he was gay, but he is not alone his story of parental rejectn * mother gay son *
” An eighteen-year-old regular at the Stonewall Inn, Morty was there when a fight broke out between patrons and the police the summer of 1969, an event that talyzed the gay-rights movement. The followg year, after jog the brand-new Gay Activists Alliance, he began anizg polil monstratns, then dropped out of llege to do so full time. Not long after, he was arrted for refg to move when police tried to shoo him off a stoop on Christopher Street, the heart of the Greenwich Village gay scene.
A MOTHER'S LETTER TO HER GAY SON BCE DAVID CIELLO
: Bella Abzug, the firebrand femist who would help troduce the first feral gay-rights bill. Verg the gas money, travelled to ci and towns throughout the South to raise awarens about gay liberatn. (One of them, om the Tim, featured him beg ejected om a benef for John Ldsay, the mayor of New York Cy, after shoutg, “Jtice for homosexuals!
The next time Morty wound up jail, Jeanne was woken up by an early-morng phone ll—not om him but om the arrtg officer, who, apparently expectg to Morty’s life, ma a show of askg Jeanne if she knew that her son was “a homosexual. Why don’t you go after crimals and stop harassg the gays? The possibily that he would be attacked for beg gay “was always the back of my md, ” she said—until the day when was sudnly at the foreont.
In the sprg of 1972, the New York Daily News ran an edorial, headled “Any Old Jobs for Homos?, ” that referred to “fairi, nanc, swish, fags, lezz” and mend the Supreme Court for cidg that a public universy uld rcd a job offer to a man who applied for a marriage license wh his male partner.
'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN
) That edorial cid wh the annual Inner Circle dner, a parody show hosted by New York Cy journalists, which that year was slated to clu a mockg sk about a gay-rights bill. “You would meet Jeanne Manford and you would never a ln years gus what she had her, ” Eric Marc, the thor of the 1992 book “Makg Gay History” and now the host of a podst by the same name, told me.
PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
Then she went on to exprs a sentiment never before aired a mastream publitn: “I am proud of my son, Morty Manford, and the hard work he has been dog urgg homosexuals to accept their feelgs. Only the New York Post— s last wang days as a liberal paper, before s purchase, a few years later, by Rupert Murdoch—agreed to publish letter ma Morty realize, fally, that his mother was not jt toleratg her gay son.