Thomas Lloyd: Why am I "so gay?" | TED Talk

Contents:

• 17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)
• AM I GAY?
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• WHY AM I "SO GAY?"
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)

Everyone I meet thks I’m gay. So ’s been a mon trend ever sce I was highschool that everyone always asks one way or another “is he gay” or “ are you gay” and ’s gettg irratg. So my cursy got the bt of me and I started lookg up gay porn.

So I'm totally a closet bi/gay. TL;DR - I thought I was straight, got cur, started chattg wh a guy 3 hours away, met up, did everythg together, talked everyday sce we met, velopg feelgs for each other, need to take slow, not sure how but termed to figure out, never been happier, both closet bi/gay. So here's the thg about g the word "gay" sultgly.

I know that "words change meang over time" and "everyone says so 's jt part of the vobulary now" and " meant somethg else before meant homosexual" and "herp rp ee speech rp.

AM I GAY?

" I unrstand that when you ll somethg "gay, " you're not nnectg to actually experiencg a same-sex attractn. I also unrstand that you believe that gleang a "homosexual nnotatn" om your pejorative e of the word is jt "oversensive" and "vigilante thought policg, " which you fd obnox.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Here's why you shouldn't e gay as an sult: mak you sound like a douchebag. Wh that md, please make the mute chang to your vobulary necsary to avoid offendg the gay people you support and/or "tolerate" and/or "don't mean to offend.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

" And jt bee 's not offensive to your "gay bff" don't mean:. your gay iend isn't actually offend by your e of the term, and he's only keepg his mouth shut so that he don't make you feel awkward (spe the fact that you may be makg him feel awkward).

Your support for the muny other ways "allows" you to pejoratively throw the term "gay" allowed.

I don't re that you don't mean to say that somethg's homosexual when you sultgly refer to as "gay. I intify as a gay person.

WHY AM I "SO GAY?"

So when you ll somethg "gay, " you are referrg to our LGBT inty, whether you mean to or not. And if you philosophilly disagree wh my takg offense to the term, is beg offensive on prciple worth alienatg iends of yours who might be gay? Do you really thk 's fair that your sistence upon g a word a certa way should tmp other people's wish that you stop g that word that way bee mak them feel like sh and they al wh that om heteronormative society enough so they really don't need their so-lled "iends" to spew latently homophobic nonsense at them as well?

In your se, Sir/Madam Heterosexual, you have straight privilege, which means that you don't have to swim agast the current of homophobic bullsh that greets jt about every LGBT person every day. So I gus what I'm askg you to do is take the 3 sends to acknowledge that your pejorative e of the word "gay" offends members of the LGBT muny.

Homophob of Redd, why are you homophobic? You're so gay....., when the doctor asked you for a semen sample, you farted the cup.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Like you might well be bisexual or gay. If the only gay timacy I ever had was a group like this, or what you experienced, I uld fortably say I was pretty straight. Whout some sort of bond gay sex, or any sex, n be pretty mechanil.

He als mostly wh issu the gay muny. Gay.

Some of them probably are a ltle bisexual, but I know two particular who seem 100% straight every jt enjoy the nvenience of gay sex sometim. When he download a gay app though, sudnly there were 20 dus a day throwg themselv at him and beggg him to pick them. So when you are sayg "foc on the more submissive aspects of " and referencg the prev post where someone suggted this was more about beg submissive than about beg gay, n you elaborate on that?