You’re Not Gay: Homosexualy Anxiety OCD - OCD Rource Center

Contents:

• DO YOU HAVE HOCD OR ARE YOU JT NYG THAT YOU'RE GAY OR BI?
• HOCD BUT GAY ANYWAY
• YOU ARE NOT GAY, 'S HOCD, FOR ALL YOU SUFFERERS.
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• HOCD – HOMOSEXUAL OCD OR THE FEAR OF BEG GAY
• HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?
• TAG ARCHIV: N OCD MAKE ME THK I AM GAY

DO YOU HAVE HOCD OR ARE YOU JT NYG THAT YOU'RE GAY OR BI?

One thg that sr me bee seems different than what I read about HOCD is that people talk about beg aaid they uld be gay or uld turn gay, but n HOCD make you thk youre ACTUALLY gay? Probably the most mon qutn asked by those likely to be sufferg om homosexual obssive pulsive disorr (HOCD, also lled Sexual Orientatn OCD or Gay OCD) is "Am I gay?

The qutn is right at the heart of HOCD feelgs, sce this particular type of OCD foc on an obssn wh gay, lbian, or bisexual activy and the patient's uncertaty about his or her own sexualy. If you have been or have experienc om beg straight and you fear that you're gay, 's very likely that you're straight and the "gay feelg" is jt a symptom of your unrlyg OCD.

This sounds straight but then I read Empty Closets and many gays never even thought about guys sexually until much later life and assumed they were straight. Then somethg happened that make them thk they were gay and then beg wh guys sudnly seemed way better than beg wh Im gay:Gay fger rat - only gays have thisbetter asms to thoughts of guys when I masturbategroals rpons or aroals to seeg guys every day No groals for girls.

HOCD BUT GAY ANYWAY

Gays ually have feme rat which is what I I get terrible anxiety around girls and on Empty Closets they say s bee 'you are feelg prsure to feel what you are SUPPOSED to feel and nt bee you are gay' so lled groal rpons are so strong for me. To ask gay people their experienc and see if they are siiar to groasl feel like sudn jolt of aroal, blood flow to ballsack, sexual tgl, tighteng, fast heartbeat, nervons etc.. Due to the overwhelmg amount of men postg on here wh irratnal fears that they are gay, and I have never read so many different fom posts on the same exact topic by the way, I thought I would make a post of my experience both wh beg the closet as a homosexual and my sexual obssns alg wh Obssive Compulsive Disorr.

This will help men sufferg om HOCD to pare what they are gog through wh the different suatns that a gay man and a sexual obssn sufferer endured so they n see the difference. It is irratnal to thk that jt bee I get along wh kids and want to be wh them that means I am sexually terted , jt as is irratnal for you to thk that bee you are eher more feme that most guys, strike out wh girls sometim, or sometim lose tert girls you once found attractive that you might be gay. After I had the recurrg thoughts and realized I enjoyed them and I should stop ratnalizg sayg maybe I'm not really gay when I clearly was, I cid to e out of the closet.

If readg all this and reflectg on for a uple weeks still don't help you e to terms wh not beg gay and you nnot manage your life, you need to seek profsnal unselg. After i purchased thoughts me up, you are gay, e out of the closet also gay imag and such which i'm also part , the thoughts said to me you should buy aga to remove the gayns. Not buyg aga( y i also got ocd sometim when buyg thgs)After that was hard, my thoughts had basilly epic battl between the gay crap my head which i know a't real and the real thgs that i know i'm straight.

YOU ARE NOT GAY, 'S HOCD, FOR ALL YOU SUFFERERS.

Today hocd started aga, thkg about i didn't repurchase and i mt be gay now bee i purchased onle had gay thoughts and imag after, so i mt be gay now. I don't really re about how people would treat me even as a straight person if you don't like me there's the door, but even if i really was gay i wouldn't give 2 shs about what people thk aswell. Another thg is that when your thoughts sayg your gay and you try to fight off bee ofurse you don't feel right wh , and you say NO IM HETERO, and also keep checkg and repeatg thought about the straight thgs you did the past etc, that's somethg you shouldn't do anymore, nfirmg that you're straight.

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

As a straight person you want to fight off, you're digted, anx, feared and keep nfirmg yourself and lookg for ways to show yourself you aren't gay. Simply by the fact that you would have felt emotnally and physilly attracted to men and fd perfectly normal and loved havg gay thoughts, imag and that you have read the above, uld be like me that you still have unwanted thoughts.

Only ten mut after I had started readg the most recent posts, however, I realized that somethg was wrong: The folks wh gay fears were clearly not gay. As of this wrg I have been bombard by threads, private msag, e-mail, and stant msag by straight folks terrified that they are gay (and a very small number of gay and bisexual folks terrified that they, too, are not their real sexual orientatn). Neverthels, is sufficiently wispread to warrant more specialists the field, more media exposure, and more unrstandg among therapists relativ, iends, and, pecially, gay people who give the wrong advice.

As wh tradnal OCD, people who are affected by this ternalized homophobia engage ruals to help them alleviate their anxiety and prove to themselv that they are tly straight. They might also perform washg ruals if they are around a gay person, may act overtly to assure themselv of their sexual orientatn, or may even blatantly act out agast gay people orr to prove they are straight.

HOCD – HOMOSEXUAL OCD OR THE FEAR OF BEG GAY

Addnally, HOCD sufferers might avoid physil ntact or beg alone wh gay people and may even rry this behavr to shunng same-sex public rtrooms or not eatg public se the food was prepared by a gay person. If HOCD has left you stgglg wh relentls qutns about your sexual inty, HOCD: Everythg You Didn’t Know – A Primer for Unrstandg & Overg Homosexual Obssive Compulsive Disorr, a book by Dr.

It is distguished by beg overly ncerned and vol to others about not beg gay, as well as reag om participatg otherwise normal activi so that others do not associate you wh the possibily of beg gay.

However, bee most gay men start out thkg of themselv as straight, many gay men beg wh the same set of fears and valu due to which they don’t reveal their inti and bee the on nial or beg the closet.

HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?

It will still be s before the general public is fortable wh the entire suatn, and even longer before homosexualy is treated as jt another genr, equal to beg straight.

The fact that straights are unfortable wh same-sex thoughts and gays are unfortable wh oppose-sex thoughts should monstrate that fear exists all forms. I’d look at guys to make sure I wasn’t gay, and then I’d have tsive thoughts about sex, get aroed, by any sex not jt gay be disgted, and worry even more. We all have male and female parts of ourselv, both physilly and mentally; In my childhood, I observed that any genr dysmorphia was heavily nmned, and I have several iends who would turn out gay if they uld.

We now see that human sexualy is very malleable; there is jail gayns, which people are gay si and straight outsi; and we see straight men havg sex wh trans girls and payg for when they uld have girls. The 19th centuryPerversnDenialThe Mid 20thHomosexualyLiberal rearchThe Mid 1960s-1980sGa and lbian livRise of genr theoryThe 1980sHIV and AIDSDisurse theoryThe late 1980sQueerPoststcturalismAn troductory and terdisciplary approach to gay studi. I thought their actns are like gay, they aren't actually and at last they will marry the oppose genr so I ed to hang out wh anyone and till now I have never met a gay or bi person which is actually good for me as I am sufferg om HOCD.

TAG ARCHIV: N OCD MAKE ME THK I AM GAY

" When ever I am ok(that rarely happens for like 30 mut at max) and nvced I am not gay or bi, my md always remds me somethg related to , I give some reasons and then whole cycle starts aga. I don't have mental peace om anythg, whenever I see a cute girl my md is like now s time to look a guy and pare both (like wtf), what if I beme gay or bi future.

I don't get that what do you all mean by "accept" , that I am gay or bi, that's horrifyg or do you mean by acceptg be like "yeah whatever" and get distracted. Everythg you’ve said has happened to me I found that the attemptg to try and prove/ disprove whether or not you are gay is exactly what keeps you the OCD loop.

As wh the gay porn I got mixed rults, a lot of the time I had no aroal and the few tim I did I wasn’t arosed bee of what I was watchg I had jt eaked myself out about so much and got so anx I kda tricked myself to havg a reactn. Homosexual thoughts have e to ky md durg sex once or twice but I guarantee the only reason that happened/ happens is bee you were super sred was gonna happen, so happened, not bee was natural.