Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends | Psychology Today

Contents:

• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• WHY ARE ALL MY FRIENDS GAY?
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to. If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women. One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born.

It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens. Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge. Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny.

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together. Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay.

Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you. You n talk about another iend that is gay or even jt about someone hypothetilly g out if you don't know someone who's gay. Say somethg like, "You know you're stuck wh me as a iend no matter what, but I jt have to ask bee I don't want to make assumptns and e to the wrong nclns: are you gay?

Article SummaryXTo tell if your guy iend is gay, notice whether he refers to other guys as attractive, which uld be a sign that he’s gay. Pay attentn to how much he talks about women a romantic or sexual way, sce a lack of tert women uld suggt he’s gay.

HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY

" If you want to talk about your iend to a parent or guardian, try askg "Would you be okay wh me mentng that you're gay to my parents if me up, or would you prefer that I keep quiet? Acceptance n make a huge different the liv of LGBTQIA (Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual) people. Article SummaryXIt might e as a b of a shock to fd out your bt iend is gay, but by supportg them and givg yourself time to get ed to , your iendship n be jt like was.

It probably took a lot of urage for your iend to e out as gay, so tell them that you accept them for who they are to be a good iend. Still, 'd be good to know if that's ed the se for sure - hell, I myself act jokgly as if I am gay rarely wh close iends - though I've never done this around this iend yet and he hasn't met the iends.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

(Addnal note: If you're ncerned about their tert you, remember that even if he's gay, that don't mean he'll be terted you particular. If he's gay and "closeted" you may never fd out, but he will be more likely to e out to you if you seem like you're not homophobic.

Not really "closeted" I jt don't feel the need to fight wh every homophobe I n to, as temptg as that might be at tim. There is still the possibily that he thks you may be bisexual or still terted a homosexual relatnship wh this approach, but as long as you aren't showg any romantic or sexual tert him is highly unlikely to be an issue.

At the same time, if you thk he might be unfortable sharg that he is gay fearg a poor reactn om you, fd ways to dite that you are an ally (if you are) - sually mentn other LGBTQ+ iendships, brg up your stance on polics that affect the LGBTQ+ muny, ment posively about a celebry, etc. I'm not clear on what ".., I myself act jokgly as a gay rarely wh close iends…" means, but que hontly, don't sound good. I know many people do fd that funny, but the handful of homosexuals I know (of both genrs) do not appreciate if isn't done by a known homosexual, and fd meang bee appeals to alienatn.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

And like heterosexuals, nearly all homosexuals want sex wh mutual sire: Nearly all persons would rather have sex wh people that want to have sex wh , not somebody repelled by the thought. Let's assume he is actually gay: you don't know how he liv his sexualy, if he embrac or if, on the other end of the spectm, if he isn't even aware of .

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

Note: often, "I have plenty of gay iends" or "I act as a gay person wh my iends" do not e across as posive ments; rather, they feel like the other person is sayg "Look at me, I'm so open-md and acceptg, I like gay people as if they were normal, now give me a medal for ". I don't know why seems to be such a huge al to everyone here, but I've never met any gay person who'd serly be offend by this. Sometim people ask, "What do you thk about homosexual relatnship" wherpon they will probably tell you the tth too.

WHY ARE ALL MY FRIENDS GAY?

Gay people are somewhat outsts here Rsia and people treat them badly so even if he is one he might lie if asked straightforward but he might slip out the tth discsn about homosexualy. Oh, one more thg, even if you hate or dislike gay people 's better not to show or tell them this sce might offend them much and you may lose a iend. The acronym LGBTQIA+ is ed to scribe the muny of people who intify as Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, Queer, Intersex, and/or Asexual.

When someone out as gay, lbian, bisexual or pansexual, or asexual, this has to do wh their sexual orientatn, or who they are attracted to sexually and/or romantilly. A gay, lbian, bisexual/pansexual, or asexual person may end up a relatnship wh someone of the same genr, or a relatnship that is otherwise “non-heteronormative” — meang that the two people the relatnship do not intify as straight and cisgenr. High school iends who had e out to her as gay didn’t believe her when she told them that she was bisexual, cg her past relatnships wh men.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY

She felt like her queerns alienated her om her straight iends, and her relatnships wh men prevented her om fully relatg to her gay iends. A 2017 review of 52 studi, for stance, found that when pared wh heterosexual people, bisexual people had higher rat of prsn and anxiety, and higher or equivalent rat of those ndns when pared wh those who intified as gay. People unr 25, nclud somethg siar among Ameri’s youth: Bisexual high school stunts reported more feelgs of sadns and hopelsns and more thoughts of suici than those who intified as heterosexual or ’s also some evince that bisexual people fared worse than their heterosexual and gay unterparts durg the panmic, cludg greater strs, lonels, psychologil distrs and fatigue; and poorer mental and physil health than those intifyg as straight or dispary is often a rult of the prejudic bisexual people face, Dr.

The study found that much of this discrimatn often om gay and lbian people, followed by fay members and straight people; and n directly impact bisexual people’s mental health, cludg ntributg to prsn, strs and exacerbated or triggered anxiety (cludg panic attacks and post-trmatic strs disorr).