Why Sayg 'That's Gay' Hurts The LGBTQ Communy

i ain't gay anymore

Kev Maxen, assistant ach of the Jacksonville Jaguars, is the first openly gay ach of a U.S. men’s profsnal league sport

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I’VE INTIFIED AS GAY FOR YEARS. NOT ANYMORE.

Looks like all those ex-gay therapists may have been on to somethg after all, bee here's five proof that someone n renounce their * i ain't gay anymore *

Bulli teased me for beg gay when I was younger, but when a six-year-old boy lls another six-year-old boy gay, he means “weird” or “gross, ” not “has sex wh men. Kids are not gay or straight, they’re jt kids. I wasn’t gay or straight.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

The man who almost broke the Inter for screamg, "I'm not gay no more" has a new moneymaker ... a mil versn of his anti-penile mantra that he's hawkg on iTun. * i ain't gay anymore *

Why, then, do adults who knew me as a child sist that I was gay all along? I felt prsured to pick a label and stick wh , and for a long time “gay” worked bee I didn’t thk about much. But the last year or two, I’ve started to rethk my relatnship to the label “gay.

‘EX-GAY’ MEN FIGHT BACK AGAST VIEW THAT HOMOSEXUALY CAN’T BE CHANGED

Let's be clear, the word gay isn't a bad word. Bis the term referrg to a person who falls love wh the same sex, also means to be happy. Most people who e this word don't know what means and hurl as an sult. * i ain't gay anymore *

I hooked up wh trans and nonbary people and stopped scribg myself as gay, preferrg to e the more clive tchall “queer. Often when I tell some people that I’m distancg myself om gay, they immediately suggt I intify as bisexual, or pansexual. I need somethg that means “mostly gay but not fully mted and open to other possibili, ” but, alas, such a niche label has yet to be imaged.

When I was six, the boys who teased me labelled me as gay. The adults my life labelled me as gay. And for a while after g out, “gay” worked fe.

ANDREW “I’M NOT GAY NO MORE" CALDWELL ADMS HE STILL HAS "DIR" FOR {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY EVAN ROSS KATZFEBARY 26, 2015/5:45 PMBY EVAN ROSS KATZFEBARY 26, 2015 / 5:45 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ANDREW “I’M NOT GAY NO MORE\" CALDWELL ADMS HE STILL HAS \"DIR\" FOR MENS","DATEPUBLISHED":"2015-02-26T22:45:49.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2015-02-26T22:45:49.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"EVAN ROSS KATZ","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REMEMBER ANDREW CALDWELL, THE 21-YEAR-OLD WHO MA A VIRTUAL SPLASH WHEN HE ANNOUNCED TO THE PARISHNERS AT HIS ST. LOUIS CHURCH "I'M NOT GAY NO MORE!"?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;POSN:RELATIVE;PADDG-BOTTOM:56.49999999999999%;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;POSN:ABSOLUTE;HEIGHT:100% !IMPORTANT;WIDTH:100% !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN A NEW TERVIEW WH NBC 12, CALDWELL REVEALS HE'S HAD A CHANGE OF HEART AFTER A FEW MONTHS OF INTER FAME THE REAR-VIEW {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"I DID NOT WANT TO GO VIRAL,” HE EXPLAS. “I DID NOT WANT TO GET UP THERE AND JT SAY ANYTHG AND LOOK CRAZY ONT OF THOANDS OF PEOPLE. I WENT UP THERE BEE I NEED PRAYER THAT DAY. I NEED SO MUCH PRAYER.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CALDWELL SAYS WHILE HE STILL WANTS TO CHANGE, HE HOP THERE'S A PLACE FOR GAY PEOPLE HIS FAH.  HE SAYS THE SPEAKER BEFORE HIM HAD LLED GAYS THE CHURCH "SISSI," AND SUGGTED THEY SHOULD "BLEED OM THEIR BUTTS."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"THEY THK THAT THEY N PREACH THE HOMOSEXUALS AWAY THE CHURCH OF GOD CHRIST. AND YOU N'T."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}RELATED: CHURCH THREATENS TO SUE “I’M NOT GAY NO MORE” GUY OVER ITUN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ASKED IF HE WAS ED "LIVERED," CALDWELL SAYS "NO, THAT'S NOT THE SE... I STILL HAVE SIR. IF I WAS LIVERED, GOD SHOULD LIVER ME MORE. I KNOW TAK A PROCS—BUT I THK IS GOG A LTLE B {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CALDWELL SAYS HE WANTS THE ALMIGHTY TO WORK ON HIS MANNERISMS: "I WANT GOD TO STOP THE SWCHG... TALKG LIKE A WOMAN."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OUR SUGGTN, ANDREW? TO BORROW A PHRASE OM OUR SPIRUAL LEAR, “IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF, HOW THE HELL YOU GONNA LOVE SOMEBODY ELSE?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CAN WE GET AN AMEN?!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

The church where the "I'm Not Gay No More" guy went straight is not only tolerant toward gays, they have an tense dislike for people who steal their tun. * i ain't gay anymore *

I am gay but have never admted this to anyone.

My iends probably spect I am gay, but we have never discsed .

'I'M NOT GAY NO MORE' GUY -- I WENT VIRAL ... NOW I'M MAK' RERDS

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Your iends, who might already spect that you’re gay, will get to know you on a eper level and likely feel much closer to you.

I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay?

LIL NAS X RPOND TO SOMEONE WHO SAID HE'S NOT "REALLY GAY" AND I CHOKED ON MY SP

You don’t need to be certa you are gay before talkg to someone or attendg an LGBTQ+ meetg. I am a gay male.

I have been out nearly 7 years now (age 16, sophomore year of HS).

That week I told my iends and fay I was gay. It is very homogeneo/ hetero-normative and beg a tholic stutn is not the easit environment for queer stunts. So I’ve been purely relatnships wh other mal so far ever sce high schools and I was nvced that I was gay.

SAYG 'THAT'S GAY' PEJORATIVELY HURTS THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNY, STOP SAYG IT

Fally now my late twenti after I ught my BF cheatg on me, I jt realised that I’m not gay anymore and I’m fuckg done wh .

Every sgle gay man is a cheater and I a’t havg anymore. Smh, 58, who says he believ homosexual behavr is wrong on relig grounds, tried to tough out.

He spent 17 years a doomed marriage while battlg his urg all day, he said, and dreamg about them all recent years, as he probed his childhood unselg and at men’s weekend retreats wh nam like People Can Change and Journey Into Manhood, “my homosexual feelgs have nearly vanished, ” Mr. Smh is one of thoands of men across the untry, often known as “ex-gay, ” who believe they have changed their most basic sexual sir through some batn of therapy and prayer — somethg most scientists say has never been proved possible and is likely an men are often closeted, fearg ridicule om gay advot who acce them of self-ceptn and, at the same time, fearg rejectn by their church muni as tated oddi. Jerry Brown signed a law banng e of wily discreded sexual “nversn therapi” for mors — an asslt on their own validy, some ex-gay men feel.

I A’T GAY

”But many ex-gays have ntued to seek help om such therapists and men’s retreats, sayg their own experience is proof enough that the treatment n Bzer, 35, was so angered by the California ban, which will take effect on Jan. He was tormented as a Christian teenager by his homosexual attractns, but now, after men’s retreats and an onle urse of reparative therapy, he says he feels glimmers of attractn for women and is thkg about datg. “I found that I uldn’t jt say ‘I’m gay’ and live that way, ” said Mr.

Bzer, who plans to seek a doctorate psychology and bee a therapist ex-gays guard their secret but quietly meet support groups around the untry, sharg ias on how to avoid temptatns or, perhaps, broach their past wh a female date. Some choose celibacy as an improvement over what they regard as a sful gay life.

Whether they have gone through formal reparative therapy, most ex-gays agree wh s tes, even as they are rejected by mastream scientists. The theori, which have also been adopted by nservative relig opponents of gay marriage, hold that male homosexualy emerg om fay dynamics — often a distant father and an overbearg mother — or om early sexual abe. ”(While some women also stggle wh sexual inty, the ex-gay movement is virtually all male.

'I'M NOT GAY NO MORE' GUY -- CHURCH THREATENS LEGAL ACTN OVER SONG

Spzer, publicly repudiated as valid his own 2001 study suggtg that some people uld change their sexual orientatn; the study had been wily ced by fenrs of the this summer, the ex-gay world was nvulsed when Alan Chambers, the print of Exod Internatnal, the largt Christian mistry for people fightg same-sex attractn, said he did not believe anyone uld be rid of homosexual Nilosi, a psychologist and clil director of the Thomas Aquas Psychologil Clic Enco, Calif., which he scrib as the largt reparative therapy clic the world, disagreed. “I don’t believe that anybody is really gay, ” he said. “I believe that all people are heterosexual but that some have a homosexual problem, and some of the people attempt to rolve their nflict by adoptg a socpolil label lled ‘gay.

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Nilosi said, many patients fd their homosexual urg S., 34, a rporate ntract officer Dallas, says he is among them. Jeremy, who did not want his last name prted to avoid embarrassg his parents, said that om his teens until three years ago he lived as a gay man, at tim havg sex almost daily.

KEV MAXEN, JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH, OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR U.S.-BASED PRO LEAGU

Crics like Wayne Ben, the executive director of Tth Ws Out, which fights antigay bias, liken such therapy to fah healg, wh apparent effects that later fa also pot out that the failur of such therapy are seldom reported.

Cameron Michael Swaim, 20, said he is the early stag of his stggle to overe homosexual sir.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY

Swaim is unemployed and liv wh his parents Orange County, Calif., where his father is a pastor of the Evangelil Friends Church of the tried the gay life, but “ jt don’t settle wh me, ” he said, and ultimately cid “there’s got to be a way to heal this afflictn.

A versn of this article appears prt on, Sectn A, Page 16 of the New York edn wh the headle: ‘Ex-Gay’ Men Fight Back Agast View That Homosexualy Can’t Be Changed.

Looks like all those ex-gay therapists may have been on to somethg after all, bee here’s five proof that someone n renounce their homosexualy and live a proper Christian life ee om the ss of sodomy. The real qutn is: Did he pick out that tly nfg bow tie before or after he was washed of his all gayns?

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