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Contents:

• FOUR YEARS, TWO NTENTS: A GAY CHE UPLE'S JOURNEY FOR A SURROGATE SON
• CHE COURT RUL AGAST GAY COUPLE SEEKG TO GET MARRIED
• GAY COUPL CHA LOOK ABROAD TO START A FAY
• THE GAY UPLE FIGHTG FOR THE RIGHT TO MARRY CHA
• LEGAL QUIRK ALLOWS GAY UPL CHA TO GET MARRIED ONLE NSERVATIVE UTAH
• BANNED OM MARRYG CHA, GAY UPL TURN TO UTAH’S ZOOM WEDDGS
• BEG GAY IN CHA (AS A FOREIGNER 2020-21) ?️‍? WHAT’S THE TTH?
• A CLOSER LOOK AT GAY RIGHTS CHA

FOUR YEARS, TWO NTENTS: A GAY CHE UPLE'S JOURNEY FOR A SURROGATE SON

Li and Xu, a gay uple who have been together sce 2007, would walk out of the airport, get married two days later Los Angel, and, more important, start their journey toward 2015 to 2018, Li and Xu ma four transpacific trips as part of their gtatnal surrogacy procs. They traveled nearly 50, 000 , spent more than $200, 000, and went through untls days of distrs, all to fulfill the dream of havg their own creasg number of Che gay men, like Li and Xu, are travelg thoands of and spendg hundreds of thoands of dollars to pursue a dream that is impossible at home.

CHE COURT RUL AGAST GAY COUPLE SEEKG TO GET MARRIED

Bee gay upl are not allowed to marry or adopt Cha, they started thkg about surrogacy. Photograph: Courty Quiguang Li and Wei XuFor this story, I spoke to a dozen gay Che men who have begun or pleted surrogacy the Uned Stat. Li says that for many gay men, the strong ph for babi om the elr generatn.

Although this ia is unr fierce attack om some Cha’s younger generatn, still ronat wh many young Che people, cludg some gay men who are asked, or volunteer, to have a child to protect the mianzi of their parents and some of the parents, that means gog as far as phg their sons to the surrogacy journey. David Wang, a sgle, gay man of 28, livg the south-wtern provce of Sichuan, says took years for his parents to accept his sexualy after he me out 2013. His patients clu one of the untry’s most fluential gay figur, Ma Baoli, founr of the world’s biggt gay datg app, Blued.

GAY COUPL CHA LOOK ABROAD TO START A FAY

“I have several patients who told me that they me out to their parents after their baby was born, ” says Rgler, who is a gay dad through surrogacy himself.

Surrogacy was still a total mystery to most of the Che gay muny when Xu and Li started their journey 2014. On the Che msagg app WeChat, groups for gay dads and future dads have mhroomed. Several Amerin surrogacy agenci and fertily clics told me that they’d seen a surge Che clients, startg around 2013, wh gay people makg up a signifint portn of the clientele.

THE GAY UPLE FIGHTG FOR THE RIGHT TO MARRY CHA

Photograph: Courty Quiguang Li and Wei Xu“Enomic velopment Cha … has created a number of middle-class people, cludg those who are homosexual, ” observ Zhijun Hu, who, unr the noted alias “Ah Qiang”, has been workg as an LGBTQ+ activist Cha for more than 20 years. Havg an Amerin baby through surrogacy has now bee a popular and accsible life goal for urban gay men day after they ma through ctoms, Xu and Li went to the HRC Fertily Clic Pasana center for sperm llectn.

LEGAL QUIRK ALLOWS GAY UPL CHA TO GET MARRIED ONLE NSERVATIVE UTAH

Most gay upl don’t have this ncern and, sometim, even like the ia of havg mixed-race babi, whose looks are often appreciated Cha.

885 – for every 1, 000 male newborns, there are only 885 femal – rankg last among all 153 untri US agenci and clics nfirm that gay Che tend parents have a noticeable preference for sons, though some note that they see the same preference across gay men of all wanted a son. Diego tomatilly obtaed US cizenship, and Xu wants him to learn English se he wants to go back at some pot his nsult wh other gay dads about how to look after and te a child. In the Group for Dads of Amerin Babi chat group, they ask qutns about practil thgs like supplements and discs the challeng of parentg, which is still generally viewed as a woman’s duty Zhou, a member of the chat group who is expectg his baby to be born through surrogacy 2020, says that most gay Che parents are particularly eager for rmatn about how to parent.

Gay uple Beijg bee first to take advantage of new legal rights. A urt central Cha has led agast a gay uple seekg to register for marriage. The se has energized supporters of LGBT rights Cha, acrdg to The Associated Prs: "Though was dismissed by the urt Changsha, Cha's first legal challenge to a law limg marriage to oppose-sex upl has galvanized many of the hundreds of young Che gay rights supporters who gathered at the urthoe, some of them wavg small rabow flags.

BANNED OM MARRYG CHA, GAY UPL TURN TO UTAH’S ZOOM WEDDGS

The wire service adds that "Che society and the ernment have generally owned on nontradnal exprsns of genr and sexualy, but awarens of lbian, gay, bisexual and transgenr issu is risg. Homosexualy was classified as a mental disorr by the Che Psychiatric Associatn until 2001.

In the end, neher explicly said he was gay or fed the nature of their relatnship. So far, the clip has been viewed more than 23 ln tim, wh several upvoted ments showg support for “the first gay uple to e out” maland Cha’s entertament dtry.

“Comg out is not a disease, but ’s sick for someone to feel proud of g out or promote beg gay like a trend, ” the person wrote. ” In other words, scrib straight men who pretend to be gay orr to ga populary. As a growg number of TV dramas are adapted om male homoerotic or homo-romantic danmei novels — such as The Untamed (陈情令 chén qíng lìng) and Guardian (镇魂 zhèn hún) — is not unmon for straight celebri to act queer on- or off-screen to attract a certa type of fan who enjoys fictnal gay ntent.

BEG GAY IN CHA (AS A FOREIGNER 2020-21) ?️‍? WHAT’S THE TTH?

Acrdg to Gao’s iend, before he took his life earlier this month, Gao had suffered om long-term discrimatn and bullyg om his supervisor at school due to his gay inty. Sun Wenl brought the first gay marriage se to urt Cha.

Sun Wenl has known he was gay sce he was 12. Sun and Hu beme the first gay uple Cha legally fightg for the right to marry. “Even if we were the only gay uple the world, we should be allowed to marry!

A CLOSER LOOK AT GAY RIGHTS CHA

Shi, the lawyer, said he isn’t too optimistic about the oute, but was signifint bee put the ia of gay marriage the spotlight. “If we lost, that means Cha overtly discrimat agast gay people on the legal level. In 2001, homosexualy was removed om an official list of mental illns for clil treatment Cha.

Young gay and lbian activists are creasgly phg for more rights and regnn, takg heart om June’s cisn by the U.

Li told CNN that marriage is the uppermost ncern wh the Che LGBT muny, and would alleviate many of the issu facg gay people, namely divid fanc, re of children and social benefs. In Augt, lbian llege stunt Chen Qiuyan brought an unprecented urt se agast Cha’s Mistry of Edutn over school textbooks that stigmatize gays and lbians.