Urban Dictnary: token gay

Contents:

• HAD I KNOWN, I WOULD NEVER HAVE ACCEPTED THE ROLE OF A TOKEN GAY FRIEND
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• TOKEN GAY
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

HAD I KNOWN, I WOULD NEVER HAVE ACCEPTED THE ROLE OF A TOKEN GAY FRIEND

Straight men who have engaged suatnal homosexualy (such as prison or the ary), what's your story? Is mon for straight people to do homoerotic thgs while dnk? For gay teenagers who have jt e out, n be nfg to thk about who to tell and tst their journey of disverg themselv.

But fdg the right circle of iends as a gay person Indonia isn’t as easy as the way Nia Data portrayed her movie Arisan. I went to a private Catholic school Indonia, not a iendly place for a young queer teenager wh homophobia still rampant. I was expected to give them tips on fashn; I was there so they uld troduce me as the gay iend their circle to their iends and fay.

Worse, the girls suffered wh a severe se of vert homophobia.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

Maybe I had better than most gay kids who stggled to make iends growg up. Also read: Beg Gay and Indonian: Appropriated but Margalized.

TOKEN GAY

So the moment there is an offer to be a part of a group of iends, we are more likely to accept, regardls of whether or not the offer is a genue act of iendship, or if we are only given a token role of a gay iend.

But is never our job to te our straight unterpart regardg nate homophobia. Conversatns about homophobia wh straight people may end wh them feelg offend, bee they are a part of a systemic problem that has been opprsg queer people to beg wh.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Homophobia is fueled by beg a bystanr when queer people face daily repercsns, homophobia is fueled by “harmls” jok that validate non-hetero sexual orientatns, homophobia is fueled by the very existence of tradnal genr rol, which a heteropatriarchal untry like Indonia, is still somethg that is prerved religly.