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Contents:

• 'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN
• 'GOODBYE, DAD': FATHER DISOWNS GAY SON WH SHOCKGLY HEARTLS LETTER
• I TRIED TO STOP MY SON OM BEG GAY. HERE’S WHAT I WISH I HAD KNOWN
• FATHER'S LETTER DISOWNG GAY SON JAM AFTER COMG OUT GO VIRAL
• DAD DISOWNS GAY SON IN SHOCKGLY SIMPLE GOODBYE LETTER
• FATHER'S LETTER DISOWNG GAY SON GO VIRAL
• I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY
• HEARTBREAKG MOMENT PARENTS DISOWN THEIR GAY SON
• SHOULD CHRISTIANS “DISOWN” GAY SONS AND DGHTERS?
• I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T
• MUM’S HEARTBREAKG LETTER TO GAY SON

'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN

That’s how I feel’The armageddon refers to his mum’s strong Jehovah’s Wns beliefs about the sfulns of homosexualy.

’”Chris, sadly, isn’t alone his story of parental fa of equalyAt the time I terviewed him, a Brazilian mother who killed her teenage son for beg gay is sentenced to 25 years prison. Celebry stori of heartbreakg parental rejectn are also November, the Amerin thor and producer Robyn Crawford released a book nfirmg she had had a romantic relatnship wh Whney Hoton – but had to abandon out of fear of the repercsns om Hoton’s by Oprah Wey if would have bothered her if her dghter was gay, Cissy Hoton said “Absolutely. “She even worked Brisbane’s gay bar, ” Chris says.

'GOODBYE, DAD': FATHER DISOWNS GAY SON WH SHOCKGLY HEARTLS LETTER

Many of the straight parents I terviewed for When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know exprsed havg felt disappotment learng that their child was LGBT. Would he be fired at his job if his supervisors found out that he were gay? Would he have to live a gay-iendly neighborhood?

I TRIED TO STOP MY SON OM BEG GAY. HERE’S WHAT I WISH I HAD KNOWN

Natalie, 63, a mother om Long Island, found out that two of her three children were gay. " Natalie felt that was a loss to the fay geic pool and kept wonrg if beg gay was a choice. Richard Ogawa of Seattle figured out he was gay llege.

Richard told me, "Perhaps if every parent toyed wh the possibily that any of their children uld be gay, would change the way they raise their children. Gay children are no different—so ltle of their sexual orientatn has to do wh who they are as a whole. "It is rare to work wh parents of a gay child who have not stggled wh the feelg of loss at some pot the procs of acceptg their child as gay, " my -thor, Jonathan Tobk, M.

Parents feel sad that their gay child has lost the possibily of havg a life whout signifint difficulty. " Yet Tobk has found that "gay people tell you they are happy wh who they are and feel that they have emerged on the other si of g out as strong, sensive, and rilient dividuals.

FATHER'S LETTER DISOWNG GAY SON JAM AFTER COMG OUT GO VIRAL

Havg a gay child is not a loss of a child altogether. By now u probably have an ia of what i am about to I am gayRyan: i n’t believe i jt told youMom: Are you jokg? Ryan: i know i amRyan: i don’t like hannahRyan: ’s jt a ver-upMom: but that don’t make you gay…Ryan: i knowRyan: but u don’t unrstandRyan: i am gayMom: tell me moreRyan: ’s jt the way i am and ’s somethg i knowRyan: u r not a lbian and u know that.

Ryan: i am jt gayRyan: i am thatMom: I love you no matter whatRyan: i am whe not blackRyan: i knowRyan: i am a boy not a girlRyan: i am attracted to boys not girlsRyan: u know that about yourself and i know thisMom: what about what God thks about actg on the sir?

Not that we didn’t know and love gay people — my only brother had e out to several years before, and we adored him. The feelgs you’ve had for other guys don’t make you gay. So please don’t tell anyone that you ARE gay.

DAD DISOWNS GAY SON IN SHOCKGLY SIMPLE GOODBYE LETTER

Your inty is not that you are gay — is that you are a child of love you. He read all the Christian books that explaed where his gay feelgs me om and dove to unselg to further disver the orig of his unwanted attractn to other guys. And we lost the abily to love our gay son, bee we no longer had a gay son.

What we had wished, prayed and hoped for — that we would not have a gay son — me te. But not at all the way we had, when I thk back on the fear that erned all my reactns durg those first six years after Ryan told he was gay, I crge as I realize how foolish I was.

FATHER'S LETTER DISOWNG GAY SON GO VIRAL

I was aaid of all the wrong, when I thk back on the fear that erned all my reactns durg those first six years after Ryan told he was gay, I crge as I realize how foolish I was.

I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

Now, whenever Rob and I jo our gay iends for an eveng, I thk about how much I would love to be visg wh Ryan and his partner over dner. A heartbreakg letter, allegedly penned by an unsupportive father to his gay son, has gone viral the blogosphere.

Origally upload to Redd and posted by Athlete Ally founr (and HuffPost Gay Voic blogger) Hudson Taylor on his Facebook profile, the letter is addrsed simply to "Jam, " and reads as follows: "I hope your telephone ll was not to receive my blsg for the gradg of your liftyle. "View an image of the letter below, then scroll down to keep readg: Redd er RegBarc, who upload the image of the letter, says the letter was wrten five years ago after he me out as gay to his father.

HEARTBREAKG MOMENT PARENTS DISOWN THEIR GAY SON

'" Watch the vio above to see a HuffPost Live segment featurg muny members, bloggers and HuffPost Gay Voic Edor Noah Michelson discsg the letter and the difficulti of g out to fay You GoHorrific Anti-Gay StatementsPopular the CommunyYou May Like. Callg out zealo anti-gay advot Bryan Fisher, Maggie Gallagher and Dan Cathy, Redd er RegBarc posted this msage wh a photo of the heartbreakg letter he received om his dad five years ago:.

In Augt of 2007, I fally built up the urage to tell my father I was gay. And I overheard my father sayg, “If any one of my kids was gay, I’d disown them. And he asks, “Are you gay?

SHOULD CHRISTIANS “DISOWN” GAY SONS AND DGHTERS?

"Seemgly wrten by a father to his gay son Jam, the words are damng and hurtful. Already, has been viewed nearly 850, 000 tim and been reposted by several advocy and gay rights blogs. And for more people than ever, gay and straight, 's changg more toward love and away om fear - at least this particular area.

First, my wife will be unhappy to learn our son is gay. For help alg wh all this, ntact PFLAG, which giv valuable support to parents wh gay children.

I TRIED TO STOP MY SON FROM BEG GAY. I WISH I HADN'T

We are watchg Barbara Walters terview Ana Bryant, a proment anti-gay activist. Walters asks Bryant what she would do if her child me out as gay. ”But I unrstood: My parents would disown their son if he was gay.

My parents would disown me if they knew I was gay.

They preached that God loved everyone ― except homosexuals. Gay men and lbians were irreemable.

MUM’S HEARTBREAKG LETTER TO GAY SON

I was gay and always had been! For the past 19 years, I never thought my dad didn’t know I was gay.

From there, was only a matter of time before he joed Facebook and, I’m assumg, disvered my profile, which shows me as an out and proud gay Jan.

When I answered, he told me, “It’s about this homosexualy.