Today on Christian Post, Chuck Colson posted a lumn tled Born Gay A Parent s Gui which asserted that the way parents relate to their male children n create homosexualy Colson quoted extensively om Joseph and Lda Nilosi s book, A Parent s Gui to Preventg Homosexualy as support for the view that weak or distant fathers and smotherg mothers create gay mal Acrdg to Nilosi, gay mal suffered a genr wound childhood
Contents:
- ‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ FANS ARE CONVCED MATT IS GAY
- GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
- A GAY BOY’S FAL PORTRA OF HIS MOM
- MY MOTHER SISTED I WAS GAY - BUT I’M NOT
- MOM, I’M GAY. CAN MY FRIENDS SLEEP OVER?
- WHY DO GAY MEN TEND TO HAVE CLOSER RELATNSHIPS WH THEIR MOMS STEAD OF THEIR DADS?
- SON TELLS MOM HE'S GAY, SHE REACTS THE BT WAY.
- ‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ WHY FANS ARE ADAMANT MATT IS GAY?
- HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ FANS ARE CONVCED MATT IS GAY
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This was found to be te for many of the mothers and sons I terviewed for the study scribed the book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child (). Neverthels, this closens uld have a downsi, at least temporarily, as many mothers ially blame themselv and the close relatnships for their sons' homosexualy. So, perhaps is not pletely surprisg that once they learned their sons were gay, some of the mothers I terviewed felt that they had done somethg to damage them.
For a long time, the psychiatric profsn blamed overly close maternal relatnships for g the "disease" of male homosexualy. Even though rearch sce the 1950's has bunked , this theory persists people's mds and rears s ugly head for mothers when they ially learn their sons are gay. Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post.
GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
My mother, and my (gay) self. * boy and mom gay *
My rearch, clil and personal experienc suggt that there is ed a al lk between male homosexualy and a close maternal relatnship but flows the oppose directn than what was prevly thought.
The young gay mal this study relled sharg terts mon wh their mothers, such as fashn and okg, and were also sensive to their feelgs. I thk personally [beg gay] ma me a more emotnal person, more sensive, more touch wh both the male and female sis of myself, but allowg me to even acknowledge that other si ma me closer to my mother. Once mothers this study got over their feelgs of guilt and got ed to the ia that their sons were gay, they were able to regnize the benefs of havg a gay son.
A GAY BOY’S FAL PORTRA OF HIS MOM
* boy and mom gay *
However, we get to hot water when we allow stereotyp to get the way of unrstandg the uniquens of dividuals and their circumstanc—so is important to remember that not all mothers and gay sons are close.
Sadly, some mothers simply nnot adjt to their sons' homosexualy, due to their guilt, relig ncerns, or abily to "let go" and accept the ways they live their liv. It’s a tism that our earlit selv are shaped large part by our bonds wh our parents, and nowhere is this more te than when a son is gay.
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MY MOTHER SISTED I WAS GAY - BUT I’M NOT
Guillme Gallienne was different om his three athletic brothers – he liked to dance and drs up as a woman. His mother treated him like a girl and told him he was gay. The thg is, he was actually heterosexual * boy and mom gay *
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Colson quoted extensively om Joseph and Lda Nilosi’s book, A Parent’s Gui to Preventg Homosexualy as support for the view that weak or distant fathers and smotherg mothers create gay mal. Somehow, however, the “prehomosexual male” be gay by fallg love wh what he once rejected – masculy – and seeks gay sex as a means to fd .
Instead of rporatg a mascule sense of self, the prehomosexual boy is dog jt the oppose -- rejectg his emergg malens and th velopg a fensive posn agast . In future broadsts, Colson promis to brg more rmatn “about what parents n do to lsen the chanc their children will grow up homosexual.
MOM, I’M GAY. CAN MY FRIENDS SLEEP OVER?
In practice, if you believe the reports of men who say they are gay bee their fathers were distant, then you are bound to believe the reports of gay men who say they had close relatnships wh their fathers.
WHY DO GAY MEN TEND TO HAVE CLOSER RELATNSHIPS WH THEIR MOMS STEAD OF THEIR DADS?
In that se, the theory fails as a general explanatn for homosexualy bee, as I illtrate below, there are numero gay men and their fathers who report histori of close bondg and mutual love. For stance, the odds of homosexualy creased slightly when divorced parents remarried, brgg two step-parents to the picture. ” In that particular se, the father had actually spent more time nurturg his son durg the growg up years bee his job allowed him to work at my experience, many fathers and gay sons scribe close, lovg relatnships.
For stance, one man scribed his relatnship wh his gay son this way ( alics):When my son was 18 months to 3 years old (and on to childhood), we enjoyed a wonrfully close relatnship.
SON TELLS MOM HE'S GAY, SHE REACTS THE BT WAY.
He wr ( alics)“The most important msage we n offer, ” Nilosi says, “is that there is no such thg as a ‘gay child’ or a ‘gay teen.
’…That is exactly the oppose msage we hear om gay activists who claim that people are “born gay” and that nfed teens ought to be enuraged to embrace homosexualy.
Homosexualy is not strongly related to geics but that do not mean that parentg is the only alternative non-geic factor. The jury is out wh much more rearch to be done, but what has been done on parentg do not spire nfince the claim that distant fathers and smotherg mothers create gay Throckmorton, PhD is an associate profsor of psychology at Grove Cy College and fellow for psychology and public policy wh the Center for Visn & Valu.
‘I LOVE A MAMA’S BOY’ WHY FANS ARE ADAMANT MATT IS GAY?
In part of the logy, I tried to be gentle but hont as I listed each fay member her life and their this publitn, I add a ltle more about our relatnship between her as mother and me as gay son.
Our relatnship was good for the most part, only straed by the time took for her to e to unrstand and accept my homosexualy vs.
HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
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