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Contents:

• A MEMOIR ABOUT QUEER INTY, TOLD ONE GAY BAR AT A TIME
• COMG OUT AND MY FIRST GAY BAR
• MY HBAND IS GOG TO A GAY BAR TONIGHT
• HAVE YOU BEEN INSI A GAY BAR RECENTLY?
• THE STRAIGHT MEN YOU MEET AT GAY BARS
• STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
• A YEAR GAY BARS
• HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

A MEMOIR ABOUT QUEER INTY, TOLD ONE GAY BAR AT A TIME

My fiance went to a gay bar and didn't tell me. AdvertisementSKIP Jeremy Atherton LWhen you purchase an penntly reviewed book through our se, we earn an affiliate 9, 2021GAY BARWhy We Went OutBy Jeremy Atherton LHistory, as is tght, is a straight le of domo fallg — the relentls clack of fact htg fact, an orrly que of aly stretchg on forever.

COMG OUT AND MY FIRST GAY BAR

History, as is lived, is a reelg spiral of flight and return; the erative reawakeng of new selv faiar plac; a never-endg terrogatn of our own nfed and nfg motiv; a msy slather of dots on a graph where the center n be plotted only Atherton L’s betiful, lyril memoir, “Gay Bar: Why We Went Out, ” cloaks this lived history that learned history, examg an objective subject — gay bars — to create a highly subjective object: a book about his life, flensed down to jt the bs that ma past the chapter foc on one particular gay bar (jumpg om London to Los Angel to San Francis and back), s history and s place the trajectory of Atherton L’s life. As Atherton L remds , “disassociatn is a gay rual as much as any other. “Gay Bar” danc on the edge of that third space between fictn and nonfictn, a space often rerved for poetry.

Atherton L himself is renred only relatn to the bars he walks through; you’ll fd yourself hard-prsed at the end to say where he was born or how many siblgs he has (and you won’t re) Atherton L has a five-octave, Mariah Carey-que range for discsg gay sex. Like any good gay bar, this book has a bouncer, and his name is is Atherton L’s first book, but benefs om his extensive experience as an sayist and an edor of Failed Stat, a journal about plac.

“Gay Bar” is well crafted (which is pecially pleasg nsirg this is a memoir about stctur), wh a strong thorial hand that mak the rear feel refully shepherd through the text, even as Atherton L jumps s and ntents. When he discs an important 1966 prott at the historic Greenwich Village gay bar Juli’, he c a New York Tim article to talk about the “tr of activists” volved — not realizg that the article left out a fourth man, Randy Wicker (the only one still alive, cintally enough) a half page later, though, Atherton L warns that spe the activist claim that gay bars “should be kept open to facilate knowledge passg between generatns, ” he himself had never really received gay wisdom “on a barstool.

MY HBAND IS GOG TO A GAY BAR TONIGHT

” This book is not about history, the subject you study, but history, that thg you have wh that guy by the jebox whose name you n’t the fal chapter of “Gay Bar, ” Atherton L grappl wh gog to a new generatn of bars, created by very different forc, meetg very different needs. I had wrten about how my graduate school history partment learned I was gay. The first time I went to a gay bar was New Orleans.

She had been the first person I’d ever e out to, and she wanted to take me to the gay sectn of New Orleans. […] This was also when everyone at my grad school found out I was gay.

Gog to a gay bar New Orleans happened the first week of November 2001. So, when we went to New Orleans November for this amic nference, only three people knew I was gay, and they all kept my secret. None of were keen to go to a female strip club so I suggted we tell them we were gog to a gay bar knowg they would not follow there.

HAVE YOU BEEN INSI A GAY BAR RECENTLY?

My iend had already told me earlier she wanted to take me to the gay district of New Orleans. When I suggted gog to a gay bar to get rid of them, my iend asked if I was sure.

We spl wh those guys and went to the gay dance club Oz at the rner of St. If I’d ever had any doubts I was gay, this put them to rt.

I knew tellg the two guys we were wh earlier I was gay was gog to spread. We went out a few weeks later for my birthday (November 30), and by the end of the month, there was no one the history partment who did not know I was gay.

THE STRAIGHT MEN YOU MEET AT GAY BARS

I knew when I told those two guys about gog to a gay bar, I was g out to the entire history partment. It happens to be one of my favore morn gay art piec. My hband is gog to a gay bar tonight - Lounge -.

Who Needs Gay Bars? For Greggor Mattson, profsor and chair of soclogy at Oberl College, a key theme unrpng gay bar closur is ambivalence.

For his new book Who Needs Gay Bars?

STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS

At the lnch of the book at Manhattan’s LGBT Center, an dience member asked what Mattson mak of the amount of gay folks revery for addictn.

A YEAR GAY BARS

“Gay people have been ambivalent about gay bars as long as there have been gay bars. And over the urse of his big, gay road trip, Mattson found many other reasons: some say that both olr folks don’t go out anymore and that lennials are drkg ls (good for ), some attt to men and women not mixg while others say they have always advoted for all-genr spac, a lot of them may blame the rise of social media, onle muni, and datg apps while many thk that apps brg more people . It’s clear that gay bars are closg.

HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR

“In the last 21 years, 45 percent of gay bars have closed, ” Mattson said at the lnch event. In her stallatn The New Eagle Creek Saloon, the Oakland-based artist reimag and honors the legacy of the first Black-owned gay bar San Francis, owned and operated by Rodney Barte, her father and founr of the Compton, CA chapter of the Black Panther Party. ” In a handwrten note clud an artist-ma ze of bar ephemera, there is a list of reasons why Black-owned gay bars provi the muny wh a place to: “practice our culture, our ctoms, how we socialize, our mic, celebrate our history, be relaxed om whe supremacy, regnize our hero, share our experienc, ntributns, and talent, reflect on our life experienc.

While Barte’s New Eagle Creek Saloon is a glimpse to the legacy of a bar for gay Black men, what about the lost bars for women? Rememberg the impact of the fé, worker-owner Sharon Davenport told lol food blog Bay Area B 2011, “We were a haven for lbians and gay men, an rmatn center for LGBT activists, an anchor for a diverse muny that clud workg girls, bad-boys, suburban queens, transmen, and transwomen.

Mattson nclus, “There was a rebound and gay bars were add between 2021 and 2023.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

And Mattson isn’t the only one to recently sur the natn unverg the history and legacy of the gay bar. Will we ever be ls obssed wh the myth that gay bars are dyg? But as Mattson aptly nclus his book and as the stallatns and opengs suggt, “Gay bars are not dyg, they are evolvg.