Embrace the learship challenge: The role of Gay men's ternalized sexual stigma on the evaluatn of others' learship and one's own - PubMed

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• EMBRACE THE LEARSHIP CHALLENGE: THE ROLE OF GAY MEN'S TERNALIZED SEXUAL STIGMA ON THE EVALUATN OF OTHERS' LEARSHIP AND ONE'S OWN
• OPENLY GAY LEARSHIP SETS IMPORTANT TONE AT THE TOP, BUT THERE'S STILL WORK TO DO
• DR. STEVE YAVELLI: THE GAY LEARSHIP DU CULTIVAT LEARSHIP WH THE LGBTQ+ MUNY
• LEADG WH PRI — THE GAY LEARSHIP DUTOBY MILDON·FOLLOW16 M READ·FEB 7, 2022--LISTENSHAREDR STEVEN YAVELLI IS THE THOR OF PRI LEARSHIP: STRATEGI FOR THE LGBTQ+ LEAR TO BE THE KG OR QUEEN OF THEIR JUNGLE. OUR NVERSATN VERED HIS TAKE ON DIVERSY AND CLN AND WE TOOK A CLOSE LOOK AT THE SIX KEY AREAS HE VERS ABOUT LEARSHIP HIS BOOK.TO BEG MY NVERSATN WH MY GUT THIS WEEK, I ASKED HIM, ‘WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT DO YOU DO?’‘I’M DR STEVEN “STEVE” YAVELLI, PRONOUNS HE, HIM, AND HIS. I AM THE OWNER AND PRCIPAL OF TOPDOG LEARNG GROUP. I’M ALSO KNOWN AS THE GAY LEARSHIP DU. BY G THIS SELF-PROCLAIMED TLE, YOU TOMATILLY KNOW THREE THGS ABOUT ME: THAT I’M GAY, THAT I SELF-INTIFY AS A DU, AND THIRD, I REALLY LIKE TO TALK ABOUT LEARSHIP, PECIALLY CLIVE LEARSHIP WH THE WORKPLACE.I’VE BEEN DOG THIS PRETTY MUCH MY WHOLE REER ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. SO LEARSHIP, CHANGE MANAGEMENT, DIVERSY CLN NSULTG. I WAS A DISNEY FOLK FOR A WHILE. I WAS AN IBMER FOR A B. I WAS A PROFSOR HERE THE STAT FOR LIKE A HOT MUTE AFTER I GOT MY DOCTORATE. I’VE BEEN DOG MY OWN PRACTICE FOR OVER 14 YEARS NOW. I’M BASED ORLANDO, FLORIDA, BUT I LIVED LANSTER FOR A WHILE WHEN I WAS WORKG AT THE UNIVERSY.’IN STEVE’S BOOK, HE WR ABOUT SIX KEY AREAS AROUND CLIVE LEARSHIP WHICH ARE THENTICY, URAGE, EMPATHY, MUNITN, RELATNSHIPS AND CULTURE. WE CID OUR NVERSATN WOULD TAKE A B OF A EP DIVE TO EACH OF THE SIX AREAS BEE THEY MAKE A EFUL CHECKLIST FOR CLIVE LEARS TO WORK THROUGH. BEFORE DOG THAT, STEVE TOLD ME HOW HE ME TO INTIFY THE SIX AREAS.‘I WAS AT A NFERENCE SEVERAL YEARS AGO. I’M SORTG BS RDS AS PEOPLE DO AT NFERENC, AND THIS WOMAN’S DOG THE SAME THG STG NEXT TO ME. WE STCK UP A NVERSATN.SHE’S LIKE, “WHAT DO YOU DO?”I REPLIED, “YOU KNOW, NSULTG, BLAH BLAH BLAH. HOW ABOUT YOU?”SHE’S LIKE, “I’M A PUBLISHER.”I SAID, “YOU KNOW, THERE’S A BOOK MY HEAD THAT NEEDS TO E OUT!”AND SHE SAID, “WELL, LET’S GET THAT BOOK OUT.”WE STARTED GOG DOWN THE PATH. I KNEW I WANTED TO MAKE ABOUT LEARSHIP, GIVEN THAT’S WHERE I FOC A LOT OF MY ENERGY. I STARTED PUTTG THGS TOGETHER, THKG ABOUT WHERE I’VE SEEN LEARS WHO ARE DOG WELL AND KNOCKG OUT OF THE PARK. WHAT MODI THEY HAVE. THEN ON THAT AREN’T DOG SO WELL. WHAT THEY’RE MISSG.BACK THE DAY THE SHOW, SEX AND THE CY THE CHARACTER CARRIE WHO WAS A WRER WOULD S AT HER LAPTOP, AND SHE’D WRE, “I ULDN’T HELP BUT WONR.”IT’S THE GAY MAN ME, I GUS, BUT I HEARD THAT VOICE, AND I SAID, “I ULDN’T HELP WONR, IS THERE SOMETHG ABOUT THE QUEER EXPERIENCE THAT ALLOWS YOU TO EXERCISE LEARSHIP A LTLE B DIFFERENTLY?” I’VE HAD MANY PEOPLE TERVIEW ME AND SAY “ARE YOU SAYG STRAIGHT PEOPLE N’T BE GOOD LEARS?” I’M LIKE, “WELL, YEAH, THAT’S TE.” NO, I’M KIDDG, THAT’S NOT TE. BUT I DO SAY THAT THERE IS AN OPPORTUNY FOR LGBTQ+ FOLKS TO EXERCISE THEIR LEARSHIP MCL DIFFERENTLY. THAT’S HOW PRI LEARSHIP ME ABOUT. I DO KNOW, OM MANY PEOPLE WHO’VE GIVEN ME FEEDBACK, MY EDORS, THAT ’S TOTALLY OPEN FOR OUR STRAIGHT ALLI AS WELL. BUT GETTG TO THE PETENCI, THE ARE THE SIX, REGARDLS OF WHO YOU ARE, THAT I’VE SEEN LEARS EHER ROCK AND ROLL AND KNOCK OUT OF THE PARK, AS WE SAY HERE THE STAT.THERE’S NO HIDN AGENDA WH THE SIX AREAS OF PETENCY. WHAT’S NICE ABOUT THEM IS THEY ALL JT TIE SO GEOLY TOGETHER. THEY’RE NOT LIKE THE NICE LTLE LEAR STRIP. THERE ARE SIX LOURS, BEE THAT’S THE LOURS ON THE PRI FLAG, PENDG ON WHICH PRI FLAG YOU LOOK AT. THE SIX AREAS ARE TERTWED. I N’T BE THENTIC IF I’M NOT URAGEO. THEY ALL MELD TOGETHER A GREAT WAY.AUTHENTICYI’M NOT THE FIRST PERSON TO HAVE THIS NVERSATN. A LOT OF PEOPLE TALK ABOUT HOW THENTIC LEARS ARE BETTER. WHY IS THAT? WELL, AS HUMANS WE N TELL WHEN SOMEONE’S NOT BEG THENTIC, WHETHER ’S NSC OR UNNSC. WE GET THAT FEELG WHEN SOMEONE’S JT NOT BEG THEIR TE THENTIC SELV.PUT THAT THROUGH THE RABOW LENS. IF I’M AN OUT GAY MAN AT WORK, OR I’M A TRANS PERSON BEG THEIR THENTIC SELV WH THE WORKPLACE, THAT’S POWER. THAT’S FLEXG THAT LEARSHIP MCLE. AND SO, I TALK PRI LEARSHIP ABOUT HOW YOU N THEN CHANNEL THAT TO BE AN THENTIC LEAR GENERAL. THAT’S THE WAY PEOPLE WILL START TO GRAVATE TOWARD YOU. THE MASSIVE SECRET BEHD ANY EFFECTIVE LEARSHIP REGARDLS IS FOSTERG TST.IF I’M THENTIC, PEOPLE TST ME. IF I’M LEADG THROUGH LEARSHIP URAGE, MEANG I’M HAVG THOSE HARD NVERSATNS AND I’M GOG TO PROVI YOU WH THAT FEEDBACK, EVEN IF ’S NOT SOMETHG YOU FEEL FORTABLE HEARG, I’M STILL GOG TO PROVI YOU WH THAT. YOU KNOW AT THE END OF THE DAY, WE’RE OKAY, BEE I’M JT HELPG YOU BE BETTER. HAVG THAT URAGE LEADS TO FOSTERG TST.’I WAS HEARG THAT THENTICY IS ABOUT BEG NGENT. WHEN STEVE WAS TALKG, I WAS THKG ABOUT WHAT BRENé BROWN TALKS ABOUT, TERMS OF LEANG TO YOUR VULNERABILI AS WELL. I ASKED HIM IF HE THKS THAT VULNERABILY TO BEG AN THENTIC LEAR AS WELL?‘I TOTALLY AGREE WH THE GODSS THAT IS BRENé BROWN BEE ’S TE. AS A SMART AND EFFECTIVE LEAR, I WANT TO OWN UP TO WHAT I N DO, WHAT I’M ROCKG AND ROLLG AT, AS WELL AS THE STUFF THAT I’M NOT GOOD AT BEE SMART LEARS SURROUND THEMSELV WH PEOPLE WHO FILL THE GAPS OF MY PETENCE LEVEL. SMART LEARS PLEMENT THEIR TEAMS WH DIFFERENT FACETS OF DIVERSY.I’M AN EXTROVERT, SE YOU ULD NOT FIGURE THAT OUT. I LIKE TO TALK. I LIKE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE. IF I’M SMART, I’D BUILD MY TEAM WH AT LEAST A UPLE OF FOLKS WHO HAVE A MORE TROVERTED PERSPECTIVE. THEY’LL BRG SOMETHG TO THE TABLE THAT I DON’T. THAT’S BEG THENTIC — KNOWG THAT ABOUT MYSELF AND BRGG THAT TO THE OVERALL WORKPLACE AND BEYOND.’THE SEND AREA IS URAGE. WHEN WE LOOK AT THE SIX SIGNATURE TRAS OF AN CLIVE LEAR THAT DELOTE PUT TOGETHER, THEY TALK ABOUT HAVG URAGEO NVERSATNS, BEG A BOLD LEAR, LLG THGS OUT WHEN YOU SEE THGS HAPPENG… THAT KD OF THG. I ASKED STEVE, ‘WHAT’S YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON URAGE?’‘I PUT THROUGH THE AMEWORK OF BEG A NSCLY CLIVE LEAR, WHICH IS THE PHRASG I LIKE TO E. AND A NSCLY CLIVE LEAR KNOWS THAT WHEN THGS AREN’T BEG AS CLIVE AS THEY SHOULD AND ULD BE, THEY MAKE THOSE MOMENTS KNOWN.’COURAGESTEVE NTUED ON THE THEME OF URAGE. ‘HERE’S A TE STORY. I WAS A NFERENCE ROOM ATLANTA WH A CLIENT, AND WE WERE CLOSG OUT THIS CHANGE MANAGEMENT PROJECT. MYSELF AND ONE OF MY TOPDOGGERS, WHICH IS WHAT I LL MY NSULTANTS, AND THEN ABOUT 40 OTHER FOLKS OM THE PROJECT TEAM. WE WERE LIKE “RAH-RAH, WE’RE DONE, WOOHOO, WE DID THE PROJECT.” AT THE VERY HEAD OF THE TABLE IS THE SENR EXECUTIVE. THIS IS THE PERSON WHO SIGNED THE CHEQU TO MY PANY. THEY WERE THE EXECUTIVE SPONSOR AND MALE. THAT’S IMPORTANT TO THE STORY BEE JT AS WE’RE ABOUT TO START THE MEETG AND THE VOIC ARE SLOWLY DYG DOWN, YOU HEAR THAT SENR EXECUTIVE SAY, “WELL, YOU KNOW HOW ALL WOMEN DRIVE.”EVERYONE STOPS AND LOOKS AT THE HEAD OF THE TABLE, BUT NO ONE SAYS A WORD. AT THAT EXACT MOMENT, WE WERE ALL ENGAGED WHAT’S LLED SILENT LLN. BY NOT SAYG SOMETHG OR ADDRSG , WE’RE ALL SILENTLY SUPPORTG THAT STUPID MENT.A URAGEO LEAR WON’T LET THAT HAPPEN. LET’S PRETEND BOB IS THE EXECUTIVE. THE URAGEO LEAR WILL SAY SOMETHG LIKE, “BOB,” WHAT DID YOU MEAN BY THAT STATEMENT?”IT’S DOG TACTFULLY, NOTICG ONE’S OWN EMOTNS. ASKG THE QUTNS. THE MSAGE FEELS VERY DIFFERENT. A URAGEO LEAR WON’T LET THOSE TYP OF THGS GO. THEY’LL ADDRS THOSE ISSU THE MOMENT BEE EVERYBODY IS WATCHG YOU AS A LEAR. REGARDLS IF YOU HAVE A TEAM, YOU’RE ON A PROJECT, YOU ARE AN PENNT NTRIBUTOR — DON’T MATTER. YOU ARE ALWAYS ON STAGE AS A LEAR, AND PEOPLE ARE LLECTG DATA ABOUT THE TYPE OF LEAR THAT YOU ARE. WHETHER YOU’RE GOG TO FEND THEM OR NOT. THAT’S WHERE URAGEO LEARSHIP TO PLAY AND BUILDS TST AS WELL.’SOMETHG I E ACROSS QUE A LOT IS WHEN PEOPLE STGGLE WH BEG ABLE TO SPEAK UP OR LL OUT THGS WHEN THEY NOTICE . I WAS CUR WHAT STEVE’S ADVICE WOULD BE?‘THAT’S A FANTASTIC QUTN. I OFTEN HAVE PEOPLE SAY, “WELL, THAT’S LIKE MY BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS. I N’T SAY SOMETHG TO HER!” AND YOU KNOW, ’S… I HEAR YOU, I’VE BEEN MANY RPORATE ENVIRONMENTS. I GET . BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, ’S UP TO YOU AND YOUR PERSONAL VALUE SYSTEM TO CI HOW YOU WANT TO LEAD AND LIVE THROUGH THAT.SOME PEOPLE SAY, “CAN I SAY SOMETHG TO THEM OFFLE?” Y, YOU N. HOWEVER, YOU’VE MISSED THAT LEARSHIP OPPORTUNY TO LET OTHERS KNOW THAT, “YOU KNOW WHAT, I DON’T AGREE WH THAT.”IT ULD BE JT SOMETHG AS SIMPLE AS YOU SAYG A NON-WORD. I HAVE THIS TOOL PRI LEARSHIP, AND ON OUR WEBSE AS EE TRAG: THE SIX STRATEGI TO BEAT SILENT LLN. ONE OF THOSE IS LLED MOPSAM. IT’S VERY SILLY AND FUN. ONE OF THOSE IS YOU SAY A NON-WORD, LIKE “WHOA.” JT SOMETHG LIKE THAT ALONE SENDS A VERBAL MSAGE THAT “I’M SO NOT ON BOARD WH THAT STUPID STATEMENT YOU SAID.” NOW, DON’T GO SO FAR TO ADDRS WHAT THIS PERSON SAID, BUT AT THE VERY MIMUM, I’M SHOWG THAT “UH-UH, THAT’S NOT OL.”ANOTHER FABULO STRATEGY I’VE SHARED WH LEARS THROUGHOUT THE YEARS, PECIALLY VERY LARGE PANI, IS TO SAY, “LOOK AT YOUR RPORATE VALU.” THE ARE HOW YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO WORK TOGETHER. I WOULD VENTURE THAT THE VALU HAVE SOMETHG ABOUT OPEN AND HONT MUNITN, PROVIDG FEEDBACK, CREATG AN CLIVE WORKPLACE, THGS LIKE THAT WILL BE YOUR VALU. I GUARANTEE , QUE ANKLY.USE THAT AS YOUR SHIELD. SAY “WOW, YOU KNOW, HEY, BOB, AREN’T WE SUPPOSED TO CREATE AN CLIVE WORKPLACE? I DON’T PERCEIVE THAT THAT MENT IS HELPG TO DO THAT. MAYBE THAT’S MY PERSPECTIVE, BUT I JT WANTED TO SHARE THAT WH YOU.”EMPATHYSTEVE HAS WRTEN A CHAPTER HIS BOOK LLED YIELDG THE MAGIC FAIRY WAND OR SWORD OF EMPATHY WHICH ALSO REFERENC ELEPHANTS WHICH IS TRIGUG! I ASKED HIM, ‘WHAT IS THE MAGIC WAND OR SWORD, AND WHERE DO ELEPHANTS E TO THIS?’‘WHEN YOU LOOK AT TRADNAL WORKPLAC, ’S GETTG A LTLE LS THIS WAY, BUT BACK THE DAY, TO AGE MYSELF, THE NCEPT OF EMOTNS AND UNRSTANDG EMOTNS AND BRGG EMOTNS TO THE WORKPLACE WAS TABOO. THIS IS NOT JT A US THG. IT’S A LOT OF WTERN SOCIETI. “EMOTNS STAY AT THE DOOR, YOU E AND BRG YOUR MD; THAT’S WHAT WE NEED HERE BS.”THAT’S WHERE I SAY “EMBRACE THE EMOTN”. THE WHOLE ELEPHANT THG IS BASED ON A BOOK LLED SWCH BY TWO BROTHERS, CHIP AND DAN HEATH. IT’S A FANTASTIC BOOK, WHICH TALKS ABOUT HOW HUMANS EMBRACE CHANGE. THEY TALK ABOUT THIS NCEPT THAT THEY BORROWED OM, I BELIEVE, AN NYU PROFSOR, WHERE ’S THE NCEPT OF THE ELEPHANT AND THE RIR. WE AS HUMANS ARE BOTH THE ELEPHANT AND THE RIR. YOU THK OF THE TWO PARTS OF ONE ENTY, WHERE THE RIR PART IS THE LOGIL SI OF HUMANS, YOU KNOW, SO, KD OF NTROL, RIDG ON TOP OF THE ELEPHANT. THE ELEPHANT IS THE EMOTNAL SI OF . THEY E THIS ANALOGY BEE THE SIZ OF THE TWO BEGS ARE VERY DIFFERENT. SO, IF I’M THE RIR, AND I’M TAKG MY ELEPHANT DOWN THE PATH, AND I WANT THE ELEPHANT TO GO RIGHT, WHICH WAY DO YOU THK THAT ELEPHANT GO?WELL, THE ELEPHANT ONLY GO RIGHT IF THEY WANT TO. THAT’S HOW OUR EMOTNS ARE. THK ABOUT EVERY SGLE PERSON READG RIGHT NOW. AT SOME POT, YOU’VE BEEN EMOTNALLY HIJACKED WHEN SOME WAY, YOUR EMOTNS GOT THE BETTER OF YOU. IT’S HOW WE OPERATE AS HUMANS, AND ’S BETIFUL.SMART LEARS UNRSTAND THIS AND START TO LEVERAGE THAT EMOTNAL NNECTIVY, NOT JT TO FOSTER RELATNSHIPS, BUT TO UNRSTAND THE PEOPLE THEY’RE LEADG.’COMMUNITNIN THE FOURTH AREA OF MUNITN, ONE OF THE THGS THAT GRABBED MY ATTENTN THIS CHAPTER, IS THE QUTN, “WHY ARE LGBTQ+ FOLKS GOOD AT MUNITG?” I INTIFY AS GAY MYSELF, SO I WAS THKG, ‘YEAH, WHY IS THAT?’‘THANK YOU FOR SHARG THAT, TOBY. YOU KNOW, I HYPOTHISE PRI LEARSHIP THAT, AS A QUEER PERSON, FOR THE MOST PART, WE’RE A HIDN MORY. SO YOU CHOOSE TO DISCLOSE, OUT YOURSELF, TO E OUT BUT WE DO THAT VERY STRATEGILLY. THK THROUGH THE MASLOW HIERARCHY OF NEEDS. WE START WH THAT SAFETY THG. I’M NOT G OUT OF THE CLOSET TO SAY, “HELLO, IENDS!” WHEN I’M A SUATN THAT I N PERCEIVE AS VERY UNSAFE TO MY WELLBEG.WHEN YOU START FIGURG YOUR THENTIC SELF OUT AS A QUEER PERSON, YOU START LOOKG FOR THOSE NONVERBAL CU AND THOSE DIFFERENT SIGNALS THAT ARE OUT THERE THAT HELP UNRSTAND THGS A LTLE B BETTER NTEXT. THAT’S WHY I SAY, AS A QUEER PERSON, WE’VE HAD LOTS OF PRACTICE OF SUATNS, WHERE WHETHER YOU KNOW OR NOT, YOU’RE LOOKG FOR ALLI. YOU’RE LOOKG FOR SAFETY. YOU’RE LOOKG FOR THAT HARBOUR WHERE, IF THGS GET UGLY, I GOT SOMEONE WHO HOPEFULLY HAS GOT MY BACK.WE’RE GETTG SMARTER, AS WORKPLAC, TO THROW THOSE STATEMENTS OVERTLY OUT THERE. YOU KNOW, PEOPLE OFTEN ASK ME, “WHY DO I PUT MY PRONOUNS AND STUFF?” YOU KNOW WHY, BEE YOU’RE SENDG A GEO SIGNAL TO MEMBERS OF THE QUEER MUNY THAT YOU’RE AN ALLY, YOU’RE A SAFE SPACE. JT THROUGH THE NATURE OF OUR SURVIVAL, WE’VE HAD TO VELOP THIS DIFFERENT WAY OF NOT JT MUNITG, BUT ALSO HAVG SOME OF THOSE HARD MUNITN STRATEGI.BACK TO URAGE, WHEN I HAD TO E OUT TO MY PARENTS AND SHARE THAT THENTICY OF WHO I FALLY FIGURED OUT WHO I AM. WHEN I HAD TO DO THAT A WORKPLACE WASN’T THAT I ME WH MY RABOWS A-FLAMG. I WOULD STRATEGILLY SHARE, “HEY, JT SO YOU KNOW, I HAVE A BOYIEND,” OR NOW, “I HAVE A HBAND”. WE START TO THK THROUGH AND NAVIGATE A LTLE B DIFFERENTLY, WHICH EXERCIS THOSE MUNITN MCL, JT A DIFFERENT WAY THAN OUR STRAIGHT BROTHERS AND SISTERS.SO FOR A TAKEAWAY THAT WE N ALL TAKE BACK TO OUR ANISATNS, TRY THIS. WE ALL HAVE OUR PREFERRED WAYS OF MUNITG. SOME PEOPLE LIKE TO PICK UP THE TELEPHONE. SOME PEOPLE ARE LIKE, “WHY ARE YOU VOICE-LLG ME? THIS IS RIDICULO. JT SEND ME A DARN TEXT.” OTHERS SHOOT OFF 20 LN EMAILS A DAY. WE ALL HAVE OUR PREFERRED WAYS.I CHALLENGE EVERYBODY TO THK, WHAT’S YOUR RECIPIENT’S PREFERRED METHOD OF MUNITN? I THK ABOUT MY NIECE, AND IF I LL HER, SHE EAKS OUT BEE SHE’S A LENNIAL. SHE LLS ME PEEVE SO IF I LL HER SHE’S LIKE, “UNCLE PEEVE, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU LLG ME FOR?” I’M LIKE, “I JT WANTED TO SAY HI.” SO NOW, I KNOW, SEND A TEXT. “HEY, HOW ARE YOU DOG? YOU GOT FIVE MUT? I’D JT LOVE TO CHAT.” IT’S THKG THROUGH THE RECIPIENT OF THE MSAGE AND HOW THAT MSAGE IS BEG SENT VERS YOUR OWN BIAS FOR HOW YOU LIKE TO DO THGS.’RELATNSHIPS
• WHAT ARE THE QUALI OF GAY LEARSHIP? LOP065
• SEXUAL ORIENTATN AND LEARSHIP SUABILY: HOW BEG A GAY MAN AFFECTS PERCEPTNS OF F GENR-STEREOTYPED POSNS

EMBRACE THE LEARSHIP CHALLENGE: THE ROLE OF GAY MEN'S TERNALIZED SEXUAL STIGMA ON THE EVALUATN OF OTHERS' LEARSHIP AND ONE'S OWN

In 2006 Kirk Snyr published the very surprisg rults of a five-year study, which found that – anizatns and teams workg unr the direct learship of out gay executiv – employe re more about their work, feel more personally nnected to the succs of the anizatn, and monstrate a eper mment to profsnal excellence. Snyr found that the gay executiv displayed siar learship tras, and that the learship tras turn provi a 21st century advantage – particularly addrsg the needs of a workforce reportg creasg feelgs of disnnectn, isolatn, lonels, and burnout. You may remember om my post on “thk manager, thk male” that people typilly tomatilly associate succsful learship wh beg a man, but tertgly this do not seem to be the se for gay men.

OPENLY GAY LEARSHIP SETS IMPORTANT TONE AT THE TOP, BUT THERE'S STILL WORK TO DO

In one study I nducted that pared what people thought of heterosexual men, heterosexual women, gay men and lbian women, gay men were actually thought of as the least succsful lears [1].

Frd suggted that gay men have siar personaly tras and characteristics as heterosexual women, and lbian women have siar personaly tras and characteristics as heterosexual men.

DR. STEVE YAVELLI: THE GAY LEARSHIP DU CULTIVAT LEARSHIP WH THE LGBTQ+ MUNY

Yet this malic belief is still prevalent today’s society; a lot of current rearch has found that people thk gay and lbian people monstrate the quali of their oppose-sex unterparts.

All of this suggts that when people thk about gay male lears, they thk of them as havg feme quali – which triggers “thk manager, thk male, ” th emg them to be nsired poor lears. Therefore, although at first glance may look like “thk manager, thk male” do not apply to gay male and lbian lears, seems to still be prent — albe wh a twist. Ground the amework of the gay glass ceilg, the current rearch vtigated the effect of gay men's ternalized sexual stigma (ISS) on both the perceived effectivens of other gay men's learship and on their self-perceived learship effectivens and their tentn to apply to a learship posn.

Our hypoth were as follows: the lear's SO and TGR would morate the associatn of gay participants' ISS wh their posive attus towards the lear and wh his learship effectivens; and gay participants' masculy threat would morate the associatn of their ISS wh their tentn to apply to a learship posn, and wh their self-perceived effectivens as potential lears. Lbians are more likely than men to experience discrimatn bee of the “double jeopardy” of genr as well as sexual or genr orientatn (74 percent of lbians pared wh 51% of gay men). Steve Yavelli (“The Gay Learship Du”) is Owner & Prcipal of TopDog Learng Group, LLC, a learng and velopment, learship, change management, and diversy and nsultg firm based Orlando, FL, USA, wh affiliat across the globe.

LEADG WH PRI — THE GAY LEARSHIP DUTOBY MILDON·FOLLOW16 M READ·FEB 7, 2022--LISTENSHAREDR STEVEN YAVELLI IS THE THOR OF PRI LEARSHIP: STRATEGI FOR THE LGBTQ+ LEAR TO BE THE KG OR QUEEN OF THEIR JUNGLE. OUR NVERSATN VERED HIS TAKE ON DIVERSY AND CLN AND WE TOOK A CLOSE LOOK AT THE SIX KEY AREAS HE VERS ABOUT LEARSHIP HIS BOOK.TO BEG MY NVERSATN WH MY GUT THIS WEEK, I ASKED HIM, ‘WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT DO YOU DO?’‘I’M DR STEVEN “STEVE” YAVELLI, PRONOUNS HE, HIM, AND HIS. I AM THE OWNER AND PRCIPAL OF TOPDOG LEARNG GROUP. I’M ALSO KNOWN AS THE GAY LEARSHIP DU. BY G THIS SELF-PROCLAIMED TLE, YOU TOMATILLY KNOW THREE THGS ABOUT ME: THAT I’M GAY, THAT I SELF-INTIFY AS A DU, AND THIRD, I REALLY LIKE TO TALK ABOUT LEARSHIP, PECIALLY CLIVE LEARSHIP WH THE WORKPLACE.I’VE BEEN DOG THIS PRETTY MUCH MY WHOLE REER ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. SO LEARSHIP, CHANGE MANAGEMENT, DIVERSY CLN NSULTG. I WAS A DISNEY FOLK FOR A WHILE. I WAS AN IBMER FOR A B. I WAS A PROFSOR HERE THE STAT FOR LIKE A HOT MUTE AFTER I GOT MY DOCTORATE. I’VE BEEN DOG MY OWN PRACTICE FOR OVER 14 YEARS NOW. I’M BASED ORLANDO, FLORIDA, BUT I LIVED LANSTER FOR A WHILE WHEN I WAS WORKG AT THE UNIVERSY.’IN STEVE’S BOOK, HE WR ABOUT SIX KEY AREAS AROUND CLIVE LEARSHIP WHICH ARE THENTICY, URAGE, EMPATHY, MUNITN, RELATNSHIPS AND CULTURE. WE CID OUR NVERSATN WOULD TAKE A B OF A EP DIVE TO EACH OF THE SIX AREAS BEE THEY MAKE A EFUL CHECKLIST FOR CLIVE LEARS TO WORK THROUGH. BEFORE DOG THAT, STEVE TOLD ME HOW HE ME TO INTIFY THE SIX AREAS.‘I WAS AT A NFERENCE SEVERAL YEARS AGO. I’M SORTG BS RDS AS PEOPLE DO AT NFERENC, AND THIS WOMAN’S DOG THE SAME THG STG NEXT TO ME. WE STCK UP A NVERSATN.SHE’S LIKE, “WHAT DO YOU DO?”I REPLIED, “YOU KNOW, NSULTG, BLAH BLAH BLAH. HOW ABOUT YOU?”SHE’S LIKE, “I’M A PUBLISHER.”I SAID, “YOU KNOW, THERE’S A BOOK MY HEAD THAT NEEDS TO E OUT!”AND SHE SAID, “WELL, LET’S GET THAT BOOK OUT.”WE STARTED GOG DOWN THE PATH. I KNEW I WANTED TO MAKE ABOUT LEARSHIP, GIVEN THAT’S WHERE I FOC A LOT OF MY ENERGY. I STARTED PUTTG THGS TOGETHER, THKG ABOUT WHERE I’VE SEEN LEARS WHO ARE DOG WELL AND KNOCKG OUT OF THE PARK. WHAT MODI THEY HAVE. THEN ON THAT AREN’T DOG SO WELL. WHAT THEY’RE MISSG.BACK THE DAY THE SHOW, SEX AND THE CY THE CHARACTER CARRIE WHO WAS A WRER WOULD S AT HER LAPTOP, AND SHE’D WRE, “I ULDN’T HELP BUT WONR.”IT’S THE GAY MAN ME, I GUS, BUT I HEARD THAT VOICE, AND I SAID, “I ULDN’T HELP WONR, IS THERE SOMETHG ABOUT THE QUEER EXPERIENCE THAT ALLOWS YOU TO EXERCISE LEARSHIP A LTLE B DIFFERENTLY?” I’VE HAD MANY PEOPLE TERVIEW ME AND SAY “ARE YOU SAYG STRAIGHT PEOPLE N’T BE GOOD LEARS?” I’M LIKE, “WELL, YEAH, THAT’S TE.” NO, I’M KIDDG, THAT’S NOT TE. BUT I DO SAY THAT THERE IS AN OPPORTUNY FOR LGBTQ+ FOLKS TO EXERCISE THEIR LEARSHIP MCL DIFFERENTLY. THAT’S HOW PRI LEARSHIP ME ABOUT. I DO KNOW, OM MANY PEOPLE WHO’VE GIVEN ME FEEDBACK, MY EDORS, THAT ’S TOTALLY OPEN FOR OUR STRAIGHT ALLI AS WELL. BUT GETTG TO THE PETENCI, THE ARE THE SIX, REGARDLS OF WHO YOU ARE, THAT I’VE SEEN LEARS EHER ROCK AND ROLL AND KNOCK OUT OF THE PARK, AS WE SAY HERE THE STAT.THERE’S NO HIDN AGENDA WH THE SIX AREAS OF PETENCY. WHAT’S NICE ABOUT THEM IS THEY ALL JT TIE SO GEOLY TOGETHER. THEY’RE NOT LIKE THE NICE LTLE LEAR STRIP. THERE ARE SIX LOURS, BEE THAT’S THE LOURS ON THE PRI FLAG, PENDG ON WHICH PRI FLAG YOU LOOK AT. THE SIX AREAS ARE TERTWED. I N’T BE THENTIC IF I’M NOT URAGEO. THEY ALL MELD TOGETHER A GREAT WAY.AUTHENTICYI’M NOT THE FIRST PERSON TO HAVE THIS NVERSATN. A LOT OF PEOPLE TALK ABOUT HOW THENTIC LEARS ARE BETTER. WHY IS THAT? WELL, AS HUMANS WE N TELL WHEN SOMEONE’S NOT BEG THENTIC, WHETHER ’S NSC OR UNNSC. WE GET THAT FEELG WHEN SOMEONE’S JT NOT BEG THEIR TE THENTIC SELV.PUT THAT THROUGH THE RABOW LENS. IF I’M AN OUT GAY MAN AT WORK, OR I’M A TRANS PERSON BEG THEIR THENTIC SELV WH THE WORKPLACE, THAT’S POWER. THAT’S FLEXG THAT LEARSHIP MCLE. AND SO, I TALK PRI LEARSHIP ABOUT HOW YOU N THEN CHANNEL THAT TO BE AN THENTIC LEAR GENERAL. THAT’S THE WAY PEOPLE WILL START TO GRAVATE TOWARD YOU. THE MASSIVE SECRET BEHD ANY EFFECTIVE LEARSHIP REGARDLS IS FOSTERG TST.IF I’M THENTIC, PEOPLE TST ME. IF I’M LEADG THROUGH LEARSHIP URAGE, MEANG I’M HAVG THOSE HARD NVERSATNS AND I’M GOG TO PROVI YOU WH THAT FEEDBACK, EVEN IF ’S NOT SOMETHG YOU FEEL FORTABLE HEARG, I’M STILL GOG TO PROVI YOU WH THAT. YOU KNOW AT THE END OF THE DAY, WE’RE OKAY, BEE I’M JT HELPG YOU BE BETTER. HAVG THAT URAGE LEADS TO FOSTERG TST.’I WAS HEARG THAT THENTICY IS ABOUT BEG NGENT. WHEN STEVE WAS TALKG, I WAS THKG ABOUT WHAT BRENé BROWN TALKS ABOUT, TERMS OF LEANG TO YOUR VULNERABILI AS WELL. I ASKED HIM IF HE THKS THAT VULNERABILY TO BEG AN THENTIC LEAR AS WELL?‘I TOTALLY AGREE WH THE GODSS THAT IS BRENé BROWN BEE ’S TE. AS A SMART AND EFFECTIVE LEAR, I WANT TO OWN UP TO WHAT I N DO, WHAT I’M ROCKG AND ROLLG AT, AS WELL AS THE STUFF THAT I’M NOT GOOD AT BEE SMART LEARS SURROUND THEMSELV WH PEOPLE WHO FILL THE GAPS OF MY PETENCE LEVEL. SMART LEARS PLEMENT THEIR TEAMS WH DIFFERENT FACETS OF DIVERSY.I’M AN EXTROVERT, SE YOU ULD NOT FIGURE THAT OUT. I LIKE TO TALK. I LIKE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE. IF I’M SMART, I’D BUILD MY TEAM WH AT LEAST A UPLE OF FOLKS WHO HAVE A MORE TROVERTED PERSPECTIVE. THEY’LL BRG SOMETHG TO THE TABLE THAT I DON’T. THAT’S BEG THENTIC — KNOWG THAT ABOUT MYSELF AND BRGG THAT TO THE OVERALL WORKPLACE AND BEYOND.’THE SEND AREA IS URAGE. WHEN WE LOOK AT THE SIX SIGNATURE TRAS OF AN CLIVE LEAR THAT DELOTE PUT TOGETHER, THEY TALK ABOUT HAVG URAGEO NVERSATNS, BEG A BOLD LEAR, LLG THGS OUT WHEN YOU SEE THGS HAPPENG… THAT KD OF THG. I ASKED STEVE, ‘WHAT’S YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON URAGE?’‘I PUT THROUGH THE AMEWORK OF BEG A NSCLY CLIVE LEAR, WHICH IS THE PHRASG I LIKE TO E. AND A NSCLY CLIVE LEAR KNOWS THAT WHEN THGS AREN’T BEG AS CLIVE AS THEY SHOULD AND ULD BE, THEY MAKE THOSE MOMENTS KNOWN.’COURAGESTEVE NTUED ON THE THEME OF URAGE. ‘HERE’S A TE STORY. I WAS A NFERENCE ROOM ATLANTA WH A CLIENT, AND WE WERE CLOSG OUT THIS CHANGE MANAGEMENT PROJECT. MYSELF AND ONE OF MY TOPDOGGERS, WHICH IS WHAT I LL MY NSULTANTS, AND THEN ABOUT 40 OTHER FOLKS OM THE PROJECT TEAM. WE WERE LIKE “RAH-RAH, WE’RE DONE, WOOHOO, WE DID THE PROJECT.” AT THE VERY HEAD OF THE TABLE IS THE SENR EXECUTIVE. THIS IS THE PERSON WHO SIGNED THE CHEQU TO MY PANY. THEY WERE THE EXECUTIVE SPONSOR AND MALE. THAT’S IMPORTANT TO THE STORY BEE JT AS WE’RE ABOUT TO START THE MEETG AND THE VOIC ARE SLOWLY DYG DOWN, YOU HEAR THAT SENR EXECUTIVE SAY, “WELL, YOU KNOW HOW ALL WOMEN DRIVE.”EVERYONE STOPS AND LOOKS AT THE HEAD OF THE TABLE, BUT NO ONE SAYS A WORD. AT THAT EXACT MOMENT, WE WERE ALL ENGAGED WHAT’S LLED SILENT LLN. BY NOT SAYG SOMETHG OR ADDRSG , WE’RE ALL SILENTLY SUPPORTG THAT STUPID MENT.A URAGEO LEAR WON’T LET THAT HAPPEN. LET’S PRETEND BOB IS THE EXECUTIVE. THE URAGEO LEAR WILL SAY SOMETHG LIKE, “BOB,” WHAT DID YOU MEAN BY THAT STATEMENT?”IT’S DOG TACTFULLY, NOTICG ONE’S OWN EMOTNS. ASKG THE QUTNS. THE MSAGE FEELS VERY DIFFERENT. A URAGEO LEAR WON’T LET THOSE TYP OF THGS GO. THEY’LL ADDRS THOSE ISSU THE MOMENT BEE EVERYBODY IS WATCHG YOU AS A LEAR. REGARDLS IF YOU HAVE A TEAM, YOU’RE ON A PROJECT, YOU ARE AN PENNT NTRIBUTOR — DON’T MATTER. YOU ARE ALWAYS ON STAGE AS A LEAR, AND PEOPLE ARE LLECTG DATA ABOUT THE TYPE OF LEAR THAT YOU ARE. WHETHER YOU’RE GOG TO FEND THEM OR NOT. THAT’S WHERE URAGEO LEARSHIP TO PLAY AND BUILDS TST AS WELL.’SOMETHG I E ACROSS QUE A LOT IS WHEN PEOPLE STGGLE WH BEG ABLE TO SPEAK UP OR LL OUT THGS WHEN THEY NOTICE . I WAS CUR WHAT STEVE’S ADVICE WOULD BE?‘THAT’S A FANTASTIC QUTN. I OFTEN HAVE PEOPLE SAY, “WELL, THAT’S LIKE MY BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS’S BOSS. I N’T SAY SOMETHG TO HER!” AND YOU KNOW, ’S… I HEAR YOU, I’VE BEEN MANY RPORATE ENVIRONMENTS. I GET . BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, ’S UP TO YOU AND YOUR PERSONAL VALUE SYSTEM TO CI HOW YOU WANT TO LEAD AND LIVE THROUGH THAT.SOME PEOPLE SAY, “CAN I SAY SOMETHG TO THEM OFFLE?” Y, YOU N. HOWEVER, YOU’VE MISSED THAT LEARSHIP OPPORTUNY TO LET OTHERS KNOW THAT, “YOU KNOW WHAT, I DON’T AGREE WH THAT.”IT ULD BE JT SOMETHG AS SIMPLE AS YOU SAYG A NON-WORD. I HAVE THIS TOOL PRI LEARSHIP, AND ON OUR WEBSE AS EE TRAG: THE SIX STRATEGI TO BEAT SILENT LLN. ONE OF THOSE IS LLED MOPSAM. IT’S VERY SILLY AND FUN. ONE OF THOSE IS YOU SAY A NON-WORD, LIKE “WHOA.” JT SOMETHG LIKE THAT ALONE SENDS A VERBAL MSAGE THAT “I’M SO NOT ON BOARD WH THAT STUPID STATEMENT YOU SAID.” NOW, DON’T GO SO FAR TO ADDRS WHAT THIS PERSON SAID, BUT AT THE VERY MIMUM, I’M SHOWG THAT “UH-UH, THAT’S NOT OL.”ANOTHER FABULO STRATEGY I’VE SHARED WH LEARS THROUGHOUT THE YEARS, PECIALLY VERY LARGE PANI, IS TO SAY, “LOOK AT YOUR RPORATE VALU.” THE ARE HOW YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO WORK TOGETHER. I WOULD VENTURE THAT THE VALU HAVE SOMETHG ABOUT OPEN AND HONT MUNITN, PROVIDG FEEDBACK, CREATG AN CLIVE WORKPLACE, THGS LIKE THAT WILL BE YOUR VALU. I GUARANTEE , QUE ANKLY.USE THAT AS YOUR SHIELD. SAY “WOW, YOU KNOW, HEY, BOB, AREN’T WE SUPPOSED TO CREATE AN CLIVE WORKPLACE? I DON’T PERCEIVE THAT THAT MENT IS HELPG TO DO THAT. MAYBE THAT’S MY PERSPECTIVE, BUT I JT WANTED TO SHARE THAT WH YOU.”EMPATHYSTEVE HAS WRTEN A CHAPTER HIS BOOK LLED YIELDG THE MAGIC FAIRY WAND OR SWORD OF EMPATHY WHICH ALSO REFERENC ELEPHANTS WHICH IS TRIGUG! I ASKED HIM, ‘WHAT IS THE MAGIC WAND OR SWORD, AND WHERE DO ELEPHANTS E TO THIS?’‘WHEN YOU LOOK AT TRADNAL WORKPLAC, ’S GETTG A LTLE LS THIS WAY, BUT BACK THE DAY, TO AGE MYSELF, THE NCEPT OF EMOTNS AND UNRSTANDG EMOTNS AND BRGG EMOTNS TO THE WORKPLACE WAS TABOO. THIS IS NOT JT A US THG. IT’S A LOT OF WTERN SOCIETI. “EMOTNS STAY AT THE DOOR, YOU E AND BRG YOUR MD; THAT’S WHAT WE NEED HERE BS.”THAT’S WHERE I SAY “EMBRACE THE EMOTN”. THE WHOLE ELEPHANT THG IS BASED ON A BOOK LLED SWCH BY TWO BROTHERS, CHIP AND DAN HEATH. IT’S A FANTASTIC BOOK, WHICH TALKS ABOUT HOW HUMANS EMBRACE CHANGE. THEY TALK ABOUT THIS NCEPT THAT THEY BORROWED OM, I BELIEVE, AN NYU PROFSOR, WHERE ’S THE NCEPT OF THE ELEPHANT AND THE RIR. WE AS HUMANS ARE BOTH THE ELEPHANT AND THE RIR. YOU THK OF THE TWO PARTS OF ONE ENTY, WHERE THE RIR PART IS THE LOGIL SI OF HUMANS, YOU KNOW, SO, KD OF NTROL, RIDG ON TOP OF THE ELEPHANT. THE ELEPHANT IS THE EMOTNAL SI OF . THEY E THIS ANALOGY BEE THE SIZ OF THE TWO BEGS ARE VERY DIFFERENT. SO, IF I’M THE RIR, AND I’M TAKG MY ELEPHANT DOWN THE PATH, AND I WANT THE ELEPHANT TO GO RIGHT, WHICH WAY DO YOU THK THAT ELEPHANT GO?WELL, THE ELEPHANT ONLY GO RIGHT IF THEY WANT TO. THAT’S HOW OUR EMOTNS ARE. THK ABOUT EVERY SGLE PERSON READG RIGHT NOW. AT SOME POT, YOU’VE BEEN EMOTNALLY HIJACKED WHEN SOME WAY, YOUR EMOTNS GOT THE BETTER OF YOU. IT’S HOW WE OPERATE AS HUMANS, AND ’S BETIFUL.SMART LEARS UNRSTAND THIS AND START TO LEVERAGE THAT EMOTNAL NNECTIVY, NOT JT TO FOSTER RELATNSHIPS, BUT TO UNRSTAND THE PEOPLE THEY’RE LEADG.’COMMUNITNIN THE FOURTH AREA OF MUNITN, ONE OF THE THGS THAT GRABBED MY ATTENTN THIS CHAPTER, IS THE QUTN, “WHY ARE LGBTQ+ FOLKS GOOD AT MUNITG?” I INTIFY AS GAY MYSELF, SO I WAS THKG, ‘YEAH, WHY IS THAT?’‘THANK YOU FOR SHARG THAT, TOBY. YOU KNOW, I HYPOTHISE PRI LEARSHIP THAT, AS A QUEER PERSON, FOR THE MOST PART, WE’RE A HIDN MORY. SO YOU CHOOSE TO DISCLOSE, OUT YOURSELF, TO E OUT BUT WE DO THAT VERY STRATEGILLY. THK THROUGH THE MASLOW HIERARCHY OF NEEDS. WE START WH THAT SAFETY THG. I’M NOT G OUT OF THE CLOSET TO SAY, “HELLO, IENDS!” WHEN I’M A SUATN THAT I N PERCEIVE AS VERY UNSAFE TO MY WELLBEG.WHEN YOU START FIGURG YOUR THENTIC SELF OUT AS A QUEER PERSON, YOU START LOOKG FOR THOSE NONVERBAL CU AND THOSE DIFFERENT SIGNALS THAT ARE OUT THERE THAT HELP UNRSTAND THGS A LTLE B BETTER NTEXT. THAT’S WHY I SAY, AS A QUEER PERSON, WE’VE HAD LOTS OF PRACTICE OF SUATNS, WHERE WHETHER YOU KNOW OR NOT, YOU’RE LOOKG FOR ALLI. YOU’RE LOOKG FOR SAFETY. YOU’RE LOOKG FOR THAT HARBOUR WHERE, IF THGS GET UGLY, I GOT SOMEONE WHO HOPEFULLY HAS GOT MY BACK.WE’RE GETTG SMARTER, AS WORKPLAC, TO THROW THOSE STATEMENTS OVERTLY OUT THERE. YOU KNOW, PEOPLE OFTEN ASK ME, “WHY DO I PUT MY PRONOUNS AND STUFF?” YOU KNOW WHY, BEE YOU’RE SENDG A GEO SIGNAL TO MEMBERS OF THE QUEER MUNY THAT YOU’RE AN ALLY, YOU’RE A SAFE SPACE. JT THROUGH THE NATURE OF OUR SURVIVAL, WE’VE HAD TO VELOP THIS DIFFERENT WAY OF NOT JT MUNITG, BUT ALSO HAVG SOME OF THOSE HARD MUNITN STRATEGI.BACK TO URAGE, WHEN I HAD TO E OUT TO MY PARENTS AND SHARE THAT THENTICY OF WHO I FALLY FIGURED OUT WHO I AM. WHEN I HAD TO DO THAT A WORKPLACE WASN’T THAT I ME WH MY RABOWS A-FLAMG. I WOULD STRATEGILLY SHARE, “HEY, JT SO YOU KNOW, I HAVE A BOYIEND,” OR NOW, “I HAVE A HBAND”. WE START TO THK THROUGH AND NAVIGATE A LTLE B DIFFERENTLY, WHICH EXERCIS THOSE MUNITN MCL, JT A DIFFERENT WAY THAN OUR STRAIGHT BROTHERS AND SISTERS.SO FOR A TAKEAWAY THAT WE N ALL TAKE BACK TO OUR ANISATNS, TRY THIS. WE ALL HAVE OUR PREFERRED WAYS OF MUNITG. SOME PEOPLE LIKE TO PICK UP THE TELEPHONE. SOME PEOPLE ARE LIKE, “WHY ARE YOU VOICE-LLG ME? THIS IS RIDICULO. JT SEND ME A DARN TEXT.” OTHERS SHOOT OFF 20 LN EMAILS A DAY. WE ALL HAVE OUR PREFERRED WAYS.I CHALLENGE EVERYBODY TO THK, WHAT’S YOUR RECIPIENT’S PREFERRED METHOD OF MUNITN? I THK ABOUT MY NIECE, AND IF I LL HER, SHE EAKS OUT BEE SHE’S A LENNIAL. SHE LLS ME PEEVE SO IF I LL HER SHE’S LIKE, “UNCLE PEEVE, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU LLG ME FOR?” I’M LIKE, “I JT WANTED TO SAY HI.” SO NOW, I KNOW, SEND A TEXT. “HEY, HOW ARE YOU DOG? YOU GOT FIVE MUT? I’D JT LOVE TO CHAT.” IT’S THKG THROUGH THE RECIPIENT OF THE MSAGE AND HOW THAT MSAGE IS BEG SENT VERS YOUR OWN BIAS FOR HOW YOU LIKE TO DO THGS.’RELATNSHIPS

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WHAT ARE THE QUALI OF GAY LEARSHIP? LOP065

That he sat on the throne named Neferkare leads many scholars to believe the tale Kg Neferkare and General Sase, which scrib a gay relatnship between a pharaoh and his general, was fact about Pepi, though Egyptologists ntue to bate if the story was tth or fictn. The dictator of the cy of Athens 514, Hipparch had ma a sexual advance toward the openly gay Harmodi and was rejected multiple tim, acrdg to historian Thucydis. The grand de of Tny om 1621 until 1670, Ferdando married and produced children, but also quarreled wh his mother, Maria Madla of Atria, about whether homosexualy should be outlawed.

SEXUAL ORIENTATN AND LEARSHIP SUABILY: HOW BEG A GAY MAN AFFECTS PERCEPTNS OF F GENR-STEREOTYPED POSNS

In addn to beg the first openly gay prime mister of the island natn, the 38-year-old was the youngt head of ernment for the untry and the first member of an ethnic mory to hold the post (his father is an Indian immigrant). What if we chose the path of fluence, via the quali of the 14 distct gay male gifts (see Ray Rigoglso’s book, “Gay Men And The New Way Forward” and the rourc listed below), for their pacy to lead the stat quo thkg outsi the narrow nf of how they thk that they’re supposed to thk? While we uld look at the quali of a great lear through the lens of aspirg to learship quali alone – cludg the nfluence of several quali at one time – what of learship when a gay man unrstands and embrac his unique gifts to lead?