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Contents:

• GAY RIYADH, SDI ARABIA | THE ESSENTIAL LGBT TRAVEL GUI!
• GAY MAN RIYADH
• SNEAKG TO GAY CLUBS AND RECLAIMG THE WORD "QUEER" WH RIYADH KHALAF
• GAY DUBAI
• A GAY UPLE RAN A RAL RTRANT PEACE. THEN NEW NEIGHBORS ARRIVED.
• MY GAY SON: 'THE FAY SAID WE SHOULD SEND HIM TO SYRIA FOR NVERSN THERAPY'
• SDI GAYS FLNT NEW EEDOMS: 'STRAIGHTS N'T KISS PUBLIC OR HOLD HANDS LIKE '
• EXPLORE GAY ROOMS & RENTALS RIYADH
• SDI GAY SCENE: 'FORBIDN, BUT I N'T HELP IT'

GAY RIYADH, SDI ARABIA | THE ESSENTIAL LGBT TRAVEL GUI!

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GAY MAN RIYADH

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Riyadh also talks about why he cid to wre his book ‘The Gay Gui’, and why ’s important to talk about what happens after you e out to yourself. Fally, they discs reclaimg the word queer and who gets to e this NOTESWhat we chat about…Riyadh’s procs of wrg his book and the rponsibily of givg adviceWhat Riyadh’s experience of g out to his parents was likeRiyadh’s dad’s mental healthRelign and homosexualyWhat happens after you e out? Riyadh’s advice for gog to a gay bar for the first timeThe need for social spac for LGBTQ+ people unr the age of 18Queer spac LondonThe guilt and shame around sex, and how Riyadh lost that shameReclaimg the word queerUSEFUL LINKSA Gay Boy’s Gui To Life: * Riyadh’s vio wh his parents: Sk The Pk at Troxxy: Queer Bra BBC Seri: MORE ABOUT RIYADH KHALAFRiyadh is a documentary filmmaker, podst prenter, YouTuber and out more about Riyadh on his Twter, Instagram and YouTube.

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SNEAKG TO GAY CLUBS AND RECLAIMG THE WORD "QUEER" WH RIYADH KHALAF

The bsman and his wife, Melissa, first plaed to the Front Porch proprietors about pre-dawn vendor liveri 2019, not long after the nservative Christian uple moved their fancial firm right next door to the rtrant, which fli a gay Pri flag.

(Front Porch Market and Grill)What’s more, the Washers say, the ad rat was jt one more sult that the uple, who once planted an “all liv matter” sign their ont yard, have endured sce movg next door to a rtrant owned by a gay uple.

They married 2020, five years after they opened the Front Porch, which quickly beme a statn The Front Porch has been flyg a Pri flag on s pat sce 2016, not long after a gunman killed 49 people a gay bar Orlando. Waybourn was print of the Dallas Gay Alliance when sued Parkland Memorial Hospal for failg to provi readily available medic to AIDS patients. “I had so many threats agast me that even the Dallas police statned squad rs outsi our home, ” Waybourn an activist, Waybourn says, his goals were clear: same-sex marriage, gays and lbians the ary, accs to lifavg medic.

GAY DUBAI

To the activist, feels like a step backward after a lifetime of fightg for gay pack the seats at the Board of Zong Appeals hearg hosted at Grace Epispal Church. “I have que a few gay iends, clients and a fay member, and I have patronized a gay-owned rtrant for years, ” he whether the Washers are tryg to remake The Plas to their image of Ameri — Whe, nservative, Christian — Melissa said, “I n see where you’re g om.

Riyadh had stopped hangg out wh his dad bee he realised he was gay – a revelatn he did not thk his Mlim father, a garage owner wh a passn for football and rs, would take was right: took him another year, and when Riyadh me out to his dad, Sam says “me like a fast tra, h me very hard. ’”The g-out drama forms part of a new book by Riyadh, an Irish YouTuber and broadster, whose bright, nversatnal gui to beg a young gay man – Yay! They fell love, married and moved to the seasi town of Bray, where they had their first son, Riyadh, two years 16, he me out to his mother after she found gay porn on the fay puter.

He worried that his father – whom he scrib as “outrageoly heterosexual” – would stigate an honour killg or arranged marriage, or force his son to gay nversn therapy. For ee real time breakg news alerts sent straight to your box sign up to our breakg news emailsSign up to our ee breakg news emailsIn the glass and marble shoppg malls of this smopolan and paratively laid-back cy on the Red Sea, young Sdi Arabian men are takg advantage of the emergence of an creasgly tolerated Wtern-oriented gay the glass and marble shoppg malls of this smopolan and paratively laid-back cy on the Red Sea, young Sdi Arabian men are takg advantage of the emergence of an creasgly tolerated Wtern-oriented gay scene. And young Sdis who equent the venu, many returne om the Uned Stat after the 11 September 2001 attacks, say that they get to know one another through the paradox of Sdi Arabia is that while the executner's sword awas anyone nvicted of the crime of sodomy, practice homosexualy is tolerated.

A GAY UPLE RAN A RAL RTRANT PEACE. THEN NEW NEIGHBORS ARRIVED.

"I don't feel opprsed at all, " said one, a 23-year-old who was meetg one of the ffee shops wh a group of self-intified "gay" Sdi iends drsed Wtern cloth and speakg fluent English. "I heard that after 11 September, a Sdi stunt who was gog to be ported on a visa technily applied for polil asylum bee he was gay, " he add, provokg lghter om the others.

MY GAY SON: 'THE FAY SAID WE SHOULD SEND HIM TO SYRIA FOR NVERSN THERAPY'

"Sdi Arabia's domtic reform iative, bed wh the kgdom's eagerns to shed an ternatnal reputatn for fosterg extremism and tolerance, may even have some benefs for this strict Islamic society's gay muny. Shortly after the attacks on Ameri - most of the suici-hijackers were Sdi natnals - a Sdi diplomat Washgton nied that the kgdom beheads homosexuals, while openly admtg that "sodomy" is practised by nsentg mal Sdi Arabia "on a daily basis". Even the head of the notor relig police has sce acknowledged the existence of a lol gay treatment of gay men here received ternatnal attentn when an Interr Mistry statement reported January 2002 that three men the southern cy of Abha had been "behead for homosexualy".

The report provoked wispread nmnatn om gay and human-rights groups the Wt - and a swift nial om an official at the Sdi embassy Washgton, DC.

SDI GAYS FLNT NEW EEDOMS: 'STRAIGHTS N'T KISS PUBLIC OR HOLD HANDS LIKE '

Sce the uproar over the beheadgs, the kgdom's Inter Servic Un, rponsible for blockg s emed "unIslamic" or polilly sensive, unblocked accs to s home page for gay Sdi surfers after beg bombard wh cril e-mails om the US. Ibrahim b Abdullah b Ghah, the head of the relig police (the Commtee for the Preventn of Vice and the Promotn of Virtue) acknowledged, unually tempered language, that there are gay Sdis, while also speakg of the need "to te the young" about this "vice".

But he nied media reports that gay and lbian relatnships were the norm the strictly segregated schools and lleg, that homosexualy "is spreadg" an unprecented two-page special vtigatn, the daily newspaper Okaz said lbianism was "enmic" among schoolgirls. " That asssment is ntradicted by teachers and stunts who say that, the absence of other outlets, a "gay" subculture has evably flourished among youth. Why is “easier to be gay than straight” a society where everyone, homosexual and otherwise, liv the closetYasser, a 26-year-old artist, was takg me on an impromptu tour of his hometown of Jeddah, Sdi Arabia, on a swelterg September afternoon.

“You n be cised anywhere Sdi Arabia, any time of the day, ” said Radwan, a 42-year-old gay Sdi Amerin who grew up var Wtern ci and now liv Jeddah. There’s an overwhelmg number of people who turn to lbianism, ” Yasm said, addg that the number of men the kgdom who turn to gay sex is even greater.

EXPLORE GAY ROOMS & RENTALS RIYADH

Francis, a 34-year-old bety queen om the Philipp ( 2003 he won a gay bety pageant held a private hoe Jeddah by a group of Filipos), reported that he’s had sex wh Sdi men whose wiv were pregnant or menstatg; when those circumstanc changed, most of the men stopped llg. ” John Bradley, the thor of Sdi Arabia Exposed: Insi a Kgdom Crisis (2005), says that most male Wtern expatriat here, gay or not, have been proposned by Sdi men drivg by “at any time of the day or night, que openly and ually very, very persistently.

Jason, a South Ain tor who has lived Jeddah sce 2002, not that although South Ai allows gay marriage, “’s as though there are more gays here. “I’m worried the mutawwa' might e, ” Anajedtop said, and shed off to tch the eveng The History of Sexualy, a multivolume work published the 1970s and ’80s, Michel Fouult proposed his famo this that Wtern amic, medil, and polil disurse of the 18th and 19th centuri had produced the ia of the homosexual as a viant type: In Wtern society, homosexualy changed om beg a behavr (what you do) to an inty (who you are).

SDI GAY SCENE: 'FORBIDN, BUT I N'T HELP IT'

“‘Sexualy’ is distguished not between ‘homosexual’ and ‘heterosexual’ but between takg pleasure and submtg to someone (beg ed for pleasure), ” the soclogist Stephen O.

” This view of sexual behavr, batn wh the strict segregatn of the sex, serv to foster homosexual acts, shiftg the stigma onto bottoms and allowg olr men to exce their younger behavr—their time as bottoms—as mere youthful Islamic Homosexuali, the anthropologist Will Rose shows that this “stat-differentiated pattern”— whereby ’s OK to be a top but not a bottom—has s roots Gre-Roman culture, and he emphasiz that the top-bottom power dynamic is monly exprsed relatns between olr men and younger boys. ’”Yet a paradox exists at the heart of Sdi nceptns of gay sex and sexual inty: Dpe their seemgly flexible view of sexualy, most of the Sdis I terviewed, cludg those men who intify themselv as gay, nsir sodomy a grave s.

” Zahar, a 41-year-old Sdi who has traveled wily throughout the world, urged me not to wre about Islam and homosexualy; to do so, he said, is to cut off bate, bee “’s always the relign that holds people back. For many centuri, Rowson says, the vers were wily thought to perta to za, but sce the early 20th century, they have been largely assumed to proscribe homosexual behavr.