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For Father's Day, NPR spoke to three, gay sgle fathers who ma the choice to bee parents via surrogacy.

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DAD AND DAD: A JOURNEY TO GAY FATHERHOOD – PICTUR

Ever sce same-sex marriage beme legal across the US, there has been a baby boom the gay muny – om New York Cy to Utah – as the touchg imag show * first gay dads *

Clton, MarylandThey are the first both their fai to bee gay fathers, and received a warm wele to parenthood. Asbury Park, New JerseyThe most stunng takeaway om photographg gay dads is the equaly of their partnership while raisg their children.

Brooklyn, New YorkWhile makg Dads I was surprised to fd out how many gay sgle dads there are creatg their fay through adoptn or surrogacy. It was hard to fd black fai wh gay fathers livg NYC.

‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD

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Province, Rho IslandArt and Jim were one of the first gay upl to bee fathers through adoptn.

Tom and Mike wh their son Jack at a lacrosse practice at Horace Mann School, Bronx, New YorkThroughout the book the children of gay dads grow olr. Although the school and Jack’s iends know that Jack has two gay dads there was some tensn the air while posg for this photo the middle of a sports field wh all the other players around. New York CySome gay dads choose not to share who the blogil father of their children is.

SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’

Photographer Bart Heynen set out across the untry to make a visual archive of gay fatherhood "Dads." * first gay dads *

Heynen planned to photograph for a book of photography featurg gay fathers and their children.

”Amerin culture has not been particularly starved of imag of gay fatherhood, particularly recent years.

THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

Celebri like Anrson Cooper have helped normalize the ia of gay men raisg children, and no longer feels revelatory to see them on televisn, as did when “Morn Fay” premiered mon, Mr.

Heynen said, are imag of gay fathers who aren’t Instagram ready — like two men bg their dghters’ hair or tossg a football the ont yard. It’s an unrstandable impulse, which he attribut to a sire among gay parents to feel “normal” after havg their pabili as parents ntually lled to qutn.

ONE OF BRA'S FIRST GAY DADS TO MARRY DGHTER'S EX-BOYIEND AFTER PROPOSG ON TRIP

Heynen said, but rather a celebratn of the day-to-day liv of gay Jt for the YoungCly Rose, 61, and Ryan, 12Cly Rose, who liv Manhattan, was first photographed for “Dads” three years ago after meetg Mr. Heynen at an event at the Lbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgenr Communy Center New York Cy.

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Heynen “a lot of cred” for cludg a father like him — a sgle dad his 60s — sce he said there is often a lack of reprentatn of olr gay people art and media, which tends to foc on young, f men. As a Black, gay man raisg a son on his own, Mr. Startg the 1970s, however, a few state urts upheld ctody rights for transgenr, gay, and lbian parents, though some still required that they not live wh a partner or engage “homosexual activi.

Bill Jon, a gay man, 1968 beme the first sgle father to adopt a child California and one of the first natnally—although, as he told NPR  2015, he was obliquely advised by a social worker not to mentn that he was gay.

‘BRA’S FIRST GAY DADS’ ARE TAMPA’S UK TABLOID SENSATN

A later, New York beme the first state not to reject adoptn applints solely bee of “homosexualy. ” A gay uple California 1979 beme the first the untry to jotly adopt a child. It wasn’t until 1997, however, that New Jersey beme the first state to allow same-sex upl to adopt jotly statewi, and not until 2010 did the last state, Florida, overturn a ban on adoptn by gay men and lbians.

DGHTER OF BRA’S ‘FIRST GAY DADS’ IS HAPPY FATHER IS DATG HER EX-BOYIEND

) The same year, a Brish gay uple had children through surrogacy California, where a urt for the first time allowed two gay dads to be on their children’s birth certifite. Siar groups for lbian mothers and gay fathers formed other ci. In 1977, lawyers Donna Hchens and Roberta Achtenberg San Francis began the Lbian Rights Project, which helped both lbian moms and gay dads.

BRA’S ‘FIRST GAY DADS’ SPL AFTER ONE STARTS DATG DGHTER’S EX

Also lnched the same era (1979) was the Gay Fathers Coaln, which ultimately beme Fay Equaly Council, the natnal anizatn for LGBTQ parents.

UK'S FIRST GAY DADS' TRIPLETS TO MAKE HISTORY WH 3 PARENTS ON BIRTH CERTIFIT

By March 1990, lbian and gay parents had bee visible enough for Newsweek to a term, reportg that “a new generatn of gay parents has produced the first-ever ‘gayby boom. ABC’s That Certa Summer (1972), about a gay dad who out to his teen son, was the first televisn movie to pict a queer parent.

PORTRA OF A 21ST CENTURY FAY: MEET BRA'S FIRST GAY DADS AND THEIR TWS ASPEN AND SAFON, WHO SAY THE MD-BOGGLGLY TANGLED BLOGIL WEB BEHD THEIR BIRTH IS TOTALLY NORMAL

Michael Willhoe’s Daddy’s Roommate (1990) was the first children’s book wh a gay dad. Marriage equaly, they claimed, would also require that “homosexualy” be tght schools. ) This go doubly for transgenr parents, about whom much ls has been wrten, and bisexual parents, many of whom were likely misintified as gay or lbian earlier if they were same-sex relatnships, or overlooked if they were not.

In fact, gay sgle dads are part of a growg movement that has seen a signifint surge of tert the last few years, as noted by the New York get a more plete picture of the joys of fatherhood, Yahoo Life spoke to four sgle gay dads who prove that love is what tly mak a fay.

(urty photo)When Puerto Rin TikTok star José Rolón me out at 18 years old, there were few public exampl of gay fathers. “But after everythg is said and done, adoptn for gay men is still really difficult. ”Fzpatrick, whose father, a gay Black man, was killed senselsly by gun vlence the parkg lot of a gay bar when Fzpatrick was 18, says that fatherhood gave him unique opportuni to turn his paful past to purpose through the love of his dghter.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

“I thk that gay parents make the bt parents the world, ” he says. “A lot of gay men, as they get olr, bee lonely.

One night, Hilton, a sgle gay dad who's weled three children via surrogate, opened up to Evans about the joys of fatherhood and his own journey.

”“I was gog through that empts of growg olr as a gay man and not havg a signifint other and not havg the life I once lived, and not unrstandg where I was gog, ” he ntu. “I know all the gay dads who do too.

THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW

”Hunter, a succsful divorce attorney wh his own private practice Los Angel, says he was badly bullied as a teenager for beg gay. NPR spoke to three men, sgle gay fathers, who chose to bee dads via surrogacy, after years of g to terms wh their inti, their fai, and the technologil advanc that have ma journeys like this possible. "At that pot 1994, you didn't see many gays [on] the mp.

So I realized I was gay, but I was like sred, nfed.

But the procs for sgle people, particularly relatively olr gay men, he says, was difficult. Black, gay and heavyset the South, he was raised by a sgle mother a fay of sgle mothers. DUSTIN LING "Sometim the gay muny is seen as, oh, 's the funny guy who's always about fashn or always about travel, " says Dt Lg.

UK'S FIRST GAY DADS TO MAKE HISTORY BY HAVG THREE NAM ON BIRTH CERTIFITE

"Fathers – gay fathers and mothers – e different and var forms, not jt that one-note inty. " Raised on the island natn of Aba to Asian parents, Lg says there weren't many exampl of gay men around.

Dpe the challeng of life as a sgle gay dad New York, Lg remas an optimist. Multi-lnaire Barrie Drewt-Barlow, 50, is also expectg a baby dghter October wh 25-year-old Stt Hutchson, his dghter Safon's former partnerVio LoadgVio UnavailableGay dad gets engaged to dghters ex-boyiendOne of Bra's first gay dads has proposed to his dghter’s ex-boyiend while all three holidayed Croatia together. Barry and his ex-hband Tony Drewt-Barlow ma news 1999 when they beme the first gay men to father tws through a surrogacy the UK, Star Onle reports.

The pair, who are known as Bra’s “first gay dads”, have sce separated after a 32-year relatnship but still live together.

WHO ARE TONY AND BARRIE DREWT-BARLOW? UK'S FIRST GAY DADS ON 'BELOW DECK' N A LN-DOLLAR EMPIRE

Barrie and Tony beme the first gay men the UK to father children through surrogacy.

1/48CBS1971: All the FayAll the Fay ma LGBT history when troduced the first gay character primetime 1971, revealg that Archie Bunker's bar buddy Steve was gay.

MY LNAIRE DADS AND ME! BRA'S FIRST GAY DADS, 16 YEARS ON

The movie is noted for pictg homosexualy a sympathetic—read: normal—light. 4/48YouTube1975: Hot l BalmoreThe Norman Lear s starrg Jam Cromwell, Charlotte Rae and Conchata Ferrell had perhaps the first pictn of a gay uple on an Amerin TV seri.

The character was divisive at the time—early plots had him wantg to bee a woman, he dated several women—but ultimately he was primetime TV's first gay dad. 8/48FOX1991: RocOne of Fox's first shows, Roc, was the first to have a gay weddg on TV. In a "very special episo, " Roc fds out his uncle is gay and has a partner.

10/481992: One Life to LiveIn 1992, the world met One Life to Live's Billy Douglas, played by a young Ryan Phillippe, the first gay teen character on daytime TV. 12/48ABC1994: My So-Called LifeWhile One Life to Live had s first gay teen 1992, primetime's first openly gay teen seri regular character me to My So-Called Life's Enrique "Rickie" Vasquez, played by Wilson Cz. Pedro was openly gay and HIV-posive.

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