How to Deal when Your Bt Friend Is Gay: 12 Steps

'I HAD A BABY FOR MY GAY BT FRIEND'

” Those are the words that Esme Shaller, now 36, rells sayg to her llege iend Ben Kfmann-Malaga, who’s gay.

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“I had a lot of discsns wh the surance pany, explag the surrogacy and how was unfair that other upl uld have two IVF cycl vered but gay upl uldn’t take advantage — I would have had to add Esme as a pennt for to work. ”Shaller’s hband Gary, Ben and Eduardo all acpanied Shaller to the hospal, where one special moment was wh a nurse who had grown up bt iends wh a gay man who died of AIDS the 1980s. As Gay bt iends who cid to have a baby together, their story prov there is no such thg as too much love when to buildg a fay.

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We then found out that Lawrence, beg a gay man, was seen legally unf to donate sperm or blood. As “some of my bt iends are gay, ” the thg that homophob wh gay iends say when they’re acced of beg homophob.

Now, a most ltle s on CBS (of all plac) was never gog to be the place where send-wave issu of tolerance-vs-actualizatn would be hashed out, so the tle don’t make a ton of sense beyond s wkg nod towards gay stuff, but, aga: tradnal three-mera s on CBS. The important part: Jason Bateman starred a CBS s adaptatn of the gay rom- Kiss Me Guido (executive produced by Marc Cherry!

It’s not like the succs of Will & Grace led to an flux of gay-themed shows the followg year, the way that Friends spawned urban-hangout shows and Lost spawned nonsensil-nspiracy shows (TWO separate wav of them! Still, Will & Grace was clearly a template for the type of gay show that would work on work TV. The plot: clean-cut gay man (Jason Bateman) acquir straight roommate (Tanic‘s Danny Nucci) the wake of breakup wh long-term boyiend.

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Gay man has exponentially more effemate bt iend (Alec Mapa). Consirg Some of My Bt Friends lasted all of seven episos (only five of which ma to air), and further nsirg was a gay s on CBS, I have to adm I was expectg worse.

Bateman fs the Eric McCormack mold of “nonthreateng, sexls gay man, ” and all the problems that e wh that, but there’s a lovelorn wears about the character that feels more natural on him a way felt performative on McCormack. There’s a lot more “straight” edy this, wh a good majory of the lghs g om Nucci not realizg his new roommate is gay, then he do, then his parents and bt iend e over. Only this se, the dog-whistle of domtic hoework is leralized as actual homophobia, which I would ll progrs for 2001.

TO NSIR HAVG A BABY WH MY GAY BT IEND?

My bt iend is a gay man.

We hung out so much and I talked about her so much that I’m fairly certa my parents thought I was gay.

There's so much dialogue about beg gay, and homophobia, and stereotyp, and, then, there's all the ternal bat that the two MC's have over whether or not they should even pursue this attractn, and 's all jt a b too much. It jt felt like uld have been a whole better wh more character velopment and world buildg and ls monologug about beg gay.