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• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• CAN WE TALK ABOUT GAY MEN AND AGE GAPS?
• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• AGE GAP RELATNSHIP | INTERVIEW | GAY COUPLE AARON & MIKE
• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv. ” One young man said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might jt as well have a vaga. Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships.

CAN WE TALK ABOUT GAY MEN AND AGE GAPS?

Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy. I now regnize this as a hackneyed ia that furiat men age-gap gay relatnships.

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl.

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AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Their work will fort men the double jeopardy of beg both gay and lovg someone much olr or younger.

Sometim ‘me too’ gets wrongDid you hear about the group of mp Democrats who recently tried to pull a polil h job on 31-year-old gay ngrsnal ndidate Alex Morse?

More disturbgly, s roots lie homophobic trop that have long mischaracterized olr gay men as threats to young people. One was wh a man 20 years olr than me, the other wh a man 10 years wr om the perspective of a gay man who has always found himself attracted to olr men.

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

For gay men, age is many thgs: ’s fetishized, ’s feared, reprents our succs and our failur, our self-worth and our worth to others. Do you have experience wh gay datg wh an age difference?

AGE GAP RELATNSHIP | INTERVIEW | GAY COUPLE AARON & MIKE

I ed to say, “Old men fuck, ok, and talk better, ” and, many s, was te—pecially when my datg pool was a group of nfed, shame-filled late-teen, early-20s gay men wh late-onset emotnal adolcence, jt like we like to thk that relatnships and sire are morally pure and separate om somethg as ugly as power, many relatnships that’s jt not the se.

I am aware that th far I have only discsed gay relatnships, but there’s a reason for that. Sarah and Dar om age gap adventur terview gay uple Aaron and Mike om the QueerDaze blog on their age gap relatnship. I’m a twenty-five-year-old openly gay man, and I’ve always liked olr men.

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Many of my gay iends who are close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv.

My gay iends don’t unrstand , but I don’t unrstand myself, so I n’t expla to them. A young man once said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might as well have a vaga. I later wrote an say for Psychology Today, “The Curse of an Attractn to Olr Gay Men, ” that has been accsed over 100, 000 tim a relatively short perd of time.

Leon Banister Jr., pletg his doctoral dissertatn “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” thoroughly rearched available lerature as well as nducted narrative terviews wh several age-discrepant upl. By normalizg the age-discrepant relatnships and prentg them a posive light, they will brg fort to those men the double jeopardy of beg gay and lovg someone much olr or younger.