20 Hont Reasons Gay Men Stay Sgle (On Purpose) | Rick Clemons | YourTango

Contents:

• 5 REASONS IT’S GOOD TO BE GAY AND SGLE
• SGLE FOREVER: STORI AND INSIGHTS OM GAY MEN
• 20 HONT REASONS GAY MEN STAY SGLE (ON PURPOSE)
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
• JAGUARS ACH KEV MAXEN RECEIV OVERWHELMG SUPPORT AFTER G OUT AS GAY

5 REASONS IT’S GOOD TO BE GAY AND SGLE

Let’s all be real for a moment and face the fact there is often a lot of prsure om iends, fay, workers, and others for a gay person to be a relatnship, pecially now that marriage equaly laws are on the books. Whout further ado, here are five reasons why ’s good to be sgle and gay:.

All of the above, and plenty more that didn’t make the list, are reasons ’s not only good but excg and vigoratg to be sgle and gay.

Jt days ago, a ment ntributed to one of my posts alerted me to Steven Bereznai's book, Gay and sgle... It strik me as ftg that Gay and sgle was published the same year that Sgled Out first appeared prt. Another is that my book clus no gay sex.

SGLE FOREVER: STORI AND INSIGHTS OM GAY MEN

What I loved about Gay and sgle were the many observatns, valu, and attus Bereznai and I did share. Sgle gay men, I learned, are targets of some of the same kds of stereotyp that other sgl are - and they, too, are at risk for takg those charg a b too serly.

20 HONT REASONS GAY MEN STAY SGLE (ON PURPOSE)

His mom is OK wh him beg gay but worri that as a sgle person, he may grow old alone. "Beg gay and sgle is the new smokg. Once upon a time, the gay muny, sgle was good.

"The gay movement of the 70s, " the thor explas,. "regnized that the stigma of homos and sgl were tw opprsns om a sgle source - heterosexual uplehood - and so took aim at many of the assumptns of marriage and other forms of tradnal pair bonds.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

"In the shadow of gay and more sgle gay men are buffeted by a variety of ternal and external forc to buddy up, oftentim wh nsequenc not unlike those of the closet: a sense of shame, failure, and a quiet (or not so quiet) speratn. The tle of the book ends wh a qutn mark: Gay and sgle...

Do need sgle role mols, if only to know that 's possible to be gay and sgle and happy and dignified. For Bereznai, ntemplatg a life-long sglehood meant "lookg at how, stead of g out of the closet to be myself, I have spent more than a nstctg the faça of the person I thought gay guys would want to date. "Instead, I pursued my own terts, put more time to fay and iends, foced on my wrg, slowly settlg to the quiet lm and fort of beg a sgle gay man.

Maybe has somethg to do wh the wter season, but as of late, a number of my gay iends have taken to Facebook to lament beg there's absolutely nothg wrong wh beg sgle. Gay men aren't the only sgle people the world who like to wallow self-py. " stat among gay men than straight men.

I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

There are LGBT meet-up groups and muny service projects where you n meet gay men who have the same terts and valu as you do. You have ternalized homophobia.

JAGUARS ACH KEV MAXEN RECEIV OVERWHELMG SUPPORT AFTER G OUT AS GAY

You still have some hangups about beg gay. A number of gay men spend so much of their childhood hidg who they are, and tryg to be somethg or someone they're not.

We don’t want people who are jong for a relatnship like a fix that they n pend on, ” he, a 25-year-old gay man based Dallas who has been sgle for the last four years, beme much more at ease wh his life as a sgle person after a lot of self-reflectn. I've found that for many gay men, thkg that love sucks is what keeps them om gog for the "L" word their qut for happs.

Hontly speakg, most gay guys fear love suckg and worry they'll have to give up the recreatnal sport of suckg orr to fd te is, fallg love don't stop life om suckg, nor do mean a gay man's oral skills need to suffer or go out of style.