'As a Black, Gay Physician, I've Survived In Ameri By Embracg My Anger'

<p>Gay men are four tim more likely to suffer om prsn than straight men. The reason? Acrdg to therapist Alan Downs, 's a toxic cktail of anger and rejectn, which he lls "velvet rage". Here, he discs his ntroversial self-help manual – pl, startg right, we hear five very personal "g out" stori</p> * gay anger *

Image a street packed wh nocent cizens newly spng om jail--basilly, 10 blocks of gay Rben Carters--and you've got an ia what a jt-out queer's first pri para is like.

In the wake of recent progrs--the victory Vermont, wispread same-sex partner benefs, the succs of Will & Grace--many "gay muny" members, particularly middle-e whe on, have relaxed to the apathy that is perhaps the te goal of every equaly movement. The anger behd the first brick hucked durg Stonewall (the gay movement's Big Bang) and the AIDS-war protts of ACT UP (the most imagative displays of rage ever to occur this untry) has given way to more dividual and nuanced rpons as we gays atta a number of prevly unimagable goals.

Remember watchg the stunng wartime valy of ACT UP--who ma headl by tossg rps of PWAs on the Whe Hoe lawn--morph to the nfed and nnibalistic activi of send-wave prott group Queer Natn, bt known for outg celebri and stagg homosexual kiss-s ont of Foot Locker?

KENH ANGER, TRAILBLAZG GAY FILMMAKER AND HOLLYWOOD BABYLON THOR, DI AT 96

When satisfactory external enemi failed to materialize, the Queers turned on themselv, and othy homo kiss-s gave way to labor, and eventually fatal, bicker-fts over polilly rrect mutia. So long as people revile, persecute, and say all manner of evil agast falsely, so long as policians attack and entertament moguls st as wacky neighbors and sexls dweebs, gay people have every right to be pissed. Still, a hunger for articulate gay anger exists--wns the passnate receptn given to Sharon Unrwood, the angry middle-aged mother of a gay son, whose eloquently ass-rippg "open letter" to Vermont bigots ma the gay e-mail rounds faster than that Photoshopped image of Mark Wahlberg fistg Tom Cise.

Reverend Mel Whe is currently the very gay -founr and leadg light of Soulforce, an activist anizatn voted to seekg jtice for sexual mori through "relentls non-vlent ristance the spir of Gandhi and Mart Luther Kg. " So far, Soulforce's primary missn has been a four-year effort to end sexual discrimatn by the Uned Methodist Church, a missn that began wh a seri of open letters om Whe to Falwell, refully and lmly chroniclg Falwell's s of hate directed at homosexuals. The passn, wisdom, and persistence displayed Mel Whe's open letters and much of Soulforce's lerature is stunng, and may pot to what might be the only way out of the impasse which "gay anger" fans fd themselv the assiatg tim.

PRI AND PREJUDICE FOR GAY MEN

”It’s a grim picture by self but that era also saw another threat enter the ame, quietly and gomely pickg off gay men already livg on a knife’s Last Call killer, as the media me to ll him, mostly found his victims the one place his victims ed as safe refuge: gay bars. ” Photograph: HBOWhile the thori dragged their feet, missg important leads and claimg ignorance over how to handle the se (“I don’t know about where all the gay bars are New York Cy, ” one says, a sense of rigid mascule pri unrlyg) and the media chose to eher ignore or salacly explo, was left up to the same activists who had helped the muny through the early stag of the HIV epimic and ntued to protect them om other forc to do the work.

“We’re hearg the same thgs over and over aga by Ron DeSantis, ” Caronna says, parg the rhetoric of now to that of before, phed by the hateful sger turned vol homophobe Ana Bryant, clud the seri. “It’s this legacy of homophobia that’s still very prent and then we get people like Tmp who stoke the flam of homophobia bee they know ’s a wedge issue, bee they know that their fanbase will love if they e after trans people or they e after gay people.

”Last year also saw a story that chillgly mirrored elements of the Last Call killer’s se, wh a spate of men targeted at New York gay bars before beg murred. ”But what Last Call also do is show the undyg importance of the gay bar, even to those who might not unrstand s need (straight lleagu and iends have asked me why gay bars still exist when “Every bar is a gay bar now” and siarly, madngly, “Is g out even a thg anymore? When Matt [Foreman] said I don’t thk straight people unrstand what ’s like to walk to a gay bar, we were like we need to put this le bee actually is a good way of amg .

KENH ANGER, GAY FILM PNEER AND UNRELIABLE HOLLYWOOD CHRONICLER, DI AT 96

Ocsnally the digizatn procs troduc transcriptn errors or other problems; we are ntug to work to improve the archived Rivera, his iends say, was the most improbable gay martyr -- a Hispanic dg er om Queens who lived on the far g of gay the stabbg ath of this 29-year-old man July 1990 has served to rally gay people throughout New York Cy. "It took Jul's ath to really galvanize the gay muny, " said Alan Sack, 39, an terr signer who scribed urt last week how his iend bled to ath his arms a Queens schoolyard. " 'You Exist'The alliance of gay people that has veloped around the Rivera se has worked to foc public attentn on the latg vlence agast gay people throughout the cy.

"For gay advot, the trial of two men charged the slayg has bee the gay equivalent of the Howard Beach se, which a black man was chased to his ath by a group of wh. That se beme a rallyg pot for many blacks New York; gay rights groups who fought for a year to have the Rivera killg classified as a bias crime say the trial is siar watershed the liv of the cy's homosexuals.

AGGRSN TOWARD GAY MEN AS GENR ROLE ENFORCEMENT: EFFECTS OF MALE ROLE NORMS, SEXUAL PREJUDICE, AND MASCULE GENR ROLE STRS

"This is the first time there is a clear-cut example of how gay bashg works, " said Ed Serbm, anizer of Queens Gays and Lbians Rivera, who prosecutors say was stabbed and beaten by three men lookg for a gay man to attack, was one of two gay men killed 1990 what the police labeled bias cints. Rivera's se is also the first such homici to e to trial New York State, said Matt Foreman, executive director of the New York Cy Gay and Lbian Anti-Vlence Project said. Foreman said that 511 gay and lbian bias-related crim were reported to his group through October of this year, pared wh 223 1989, a 129 percent crease.

He said 74 gay bias cints were reported to the Bias Un 1991 through October and 96 cints 1990, followg a 115 percent creas such s between 1989 and 1990.

GAY RAGE

Gay rints here are mostly workg class and olr people, many of whom live there for the lower rents and the more suburban ma issue among homosexuals here has always been privacy, and few Jackson Heights rints belonged to or approved of more radil movements like Queer Natn or Act are reticent out of choice, some out of anxiety, gay advot say. Rivera had moved to Jackson Heights 10 years ago and had shared ho wh a variety of while his life style did not f wh the image that many gay rints of Jackson Heights seek for their muny, he had a wi range of iends, Mr. Sack have formed yet another anizatn Queens lled Queens Gay and Lbians Uned that held s fourth meetg this week and is gettg volved muny movement has also gone beyond the issue of anti-gay vlence, to broad qutns of social acceptance and specific programs like a Meals-on-Wheels project for homebound AIDS patients.

BEHIND THE GAY ANGER THERE IS OFTEN DEEP PAIN

Acrdg to a 2014 study om Bradley Goodnight and lleagu at Geia State Universy, different dimensns of masculy are predictive of right-wg thorarian attus and anti-gay anger. Participants who valued toughns and had anti-feme attus were more aggrsive toward their opponent when they were (a) toxited and (b) believed their opponent was gay bee of rmatn they had received about him earlier. Gays are basilly angry bee of the fact that they end up “gay” and they are angry at who ed them to end up this ndn (a ndn that the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn up until 1972 lled a psychologil disease).

BEHD THE GAY ANGER THERE IS OFTEN DEEP PA

My suggtn to someone who is havg a problem wh homosexualy would be to do a web search for the many anizatns and books by ex gays that offer help wh this.

Don’t brand yourself as “gay”, but rather, see yourself as jt a person who is havg a problem wh somethg life (which is the se for most people on some level), and know that there is a solutn to your problem.

It might feel good to “belong” to a movement, or might feel good to fd “acceptance” at a lol gay bar, but a big issue then be: are you fdg acceptance by God your heart? Posted Conservative, Polics, Relign | Tags: Angry gays, gay marriage, gay supporters, homosexual anger, homosexual cure, Proposn 8, the meang of life, The Plague Of Liberalism, Why Are We Here?

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GAY RAGE

GAY ANGER

‘RIGHTEO ANGER WAS A PART OF ’: THE SHOCKG STORY OF NEW YORK’S GAY BAR KILLER

AN UNLIKELY MARTYR FOC GAY ANGER

ANGERS GAY SNAS