A Gay Bachelor Party Primer to Plan an Awome Party

Contents:

• THE SLUTTY RURGENCE OF NEW YORK'S UNRGROUND GAY SEX PARTI
• THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG
• THE UNSUNG HISTORY OF CIRCU PARTI, WHERE GAY MEN SEEK SEX AND FREEDOM
• LONDON'S LANDMARK BUILDG DOTTED WH STRIP CLUBS, GAY VENU TO TURN TO MOSQUE
• THE 10 BEST PARIS GAY CLUBS & BARSGAY CLUBS & BARS PARIS
• THE 10 BEST BERL GAY CLUBS & BARSSEE ALL THGS TO DOGAY CLUBS & BARS BERL
• HOW TO BEE POPULAR AT A GAY BAR
• 7 BT GAY EXPERIENC BANGKOK
• GAY USA
• A GAY BACHELOR PARTY PRIMER TO PLAN AN AWOME PARTY

THE SLUTTY RURGENCE OF NEW YORK'S UNRGROUND GAY SEX PARTI

I was at a gay sex party what looked like a railroad apartment wh high ceilgs, Midtown Manhattan.

THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG

And then the group would disperse, and all of a sudn another area would bee a garn of pnmatic lv, as -shape dus kneeled all over the floor to give head to other -shape dus reclg on the was jt another Friday night gay New York Cy, where ’s a great time to be a days the cy, when the weekend rolls around, men who enjoy men have a variety of optns: They n go out dancg, they n go out drkg, or they n go out fuckg. )As one might spect would be the se wh any sex party—gay, straight, or otherwise—the scene operat wh some level of natural secrecy. “We started the party a year ago, ” said a party host I’ll ll John, whose party, until recently, was largely held a small, divey gay bar Manhattan.

Public gay sex New York, too, never really went away, even durg the plague years of the AIDS epimic— jt got phed to gym steam rooms and the odd bar back room. Sex parti targeted at men who have sex wh men, though, tell a story about gay history and s prent: In 2017, men who have sex wh men are fuckg a new age of liberatn. Cisg is olr than the very ncept of gay culture, and played a huge part s nceptn.

THE UNSUNG HISTORY OF CIRCU PARTI, WHERE GAY MEN SEEK SEX AND FREEDOM

Michael Bronski wr his 2011 book A Queer History of the Uned Stat that early gay-liberatn groups such as the Mattache Society foced on “two distct rpons to legal issu faced by homosexuals.

LONDON'S LANDMARK BUILDG DOTTED WH STRIP CLUBS, GAY VENU TO TURN TO MOSQUE

” The first aimed to secure “sexual eedom for all women and men by repealg sodomy laws and endg police harassment associated wh homosexual socializg or activy. )The policg of public sex would galvanize the fight for gay rights, but would also ntue to harm men-lovg men for s. This is primarily a legacy of the cy’s ght, post-Stonewall history wh public spac for gay sex; early on the HIV/AIDS epimic, the vis was referred to as “Sat’s disease” bee so many patrons of the East Village dis the Sat died om .

Startg soon after the AIDS crisis began the early ’80s, gay men heard about the adly nsequenc of their kd of sex near-nstantly, via PSAs, news footage of nearly ad bodi ravished by AIDS, and even through the work of gay activists like Larry Kramer, who took to prcribg abstence to bat the much has changed sce then, even if Larry Kramer’s hand-wrgg over gay promiscuy hasn’t really. In 2014, New York, wrer Tim Murphy examed how PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis, an antiretroviral medil regimen that prevents negative people om ntractg HIV up to 99 percent) was g a cultural sea change amongst gay men.

Murphy tled his piece “Sex Whout Fear, ” and at the sex parti I’ve vised over the past few months, the tle has held up; I haven’t seen much to suggt that AIDS-related fear dictat many urban, gay men’s sex liv. A recent study of 350 gay-male upl which one partner was HIV negative and one was HIV posive, but on viral-supprsn meditn, found zero stance of exposure over the urse of more than 17, 000 ndomls sex acts.

THE 10 BEST PARIS GAY CLUBS & BARSGAY CLUBS & BARS PARIS

(Wh mut of stg down wh Tavar, he mentned off-handly, “Whenever I see a tradnal gay marriage, I want to pe. ”) Pl, the parti offer a refuge om the hassl of geo-loactn-app acquired sual sex that has bee such a norm amongst gay and bisexual men.

The most recent one, May, featured a DJ set and the mock baptism— red pat, by legendary gay filmmaker Bce La Bce—of some naked twks.

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In those days, he’d advertise by handg out vatns bars or by postg the back of gay weekly nightlife rags like began to build a followg, throwg parti at var lotns throughout the cy before settlg to his current spot about 20 years ago. It looks a lot like the scriptns I’ve read of the notor gay Wt Village BDSM club the Mhaft, which was open for about 10 years before beg shuttered by the health partment.

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” And a week whout time wasted chasg sex va on hook-up apps, is a week well spent gay 2008, Huntr Vreeland has held his weekly all-male HandsomeNYC party at the Manhattan BDSM club Paddl. Though is officially a “BDSM club, ” Paddl offers a variety of gay-themed parti throughout the week (“Straight or BDSM people will not e out [Sunday-Thursday] nights, ” he explaed), cludg after-hours parti on Friday and Saturday nights until 7 am.

“At this pot, law enforcement New York Cy has far more prsg ncerns than gay sex parti nsistg of nsentg adults privately owned lotns, ” he explaed by phone. I would like to say that gay men have rved out a utopia for themselv the spac, but ’s not que the se. I’ve seen guys socialize at the parti wh an enthiasm that is unmon other, ls sex-oriented, more play--ol gay spac I’ve entered.

Most atten have the good sense to keep any dg e beyond marijuana discreet, but signs of GHB, the so-lled “date rape dg” that some gay men self-admister small, timed dos orr to achieve a horny dnken state (whout the next-day haner), are unavoidable. (This is te of many gay nightlife spac, though, be they explicly sexual nature or not.

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Both Thomas and Matthew have experienced varyg gre of the kd of sexual racism that thriv gay spac like this, as well as bars, clubs, and cisg apps.

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While Matthew said he’s never been more nonted by gay racism than at sex parti, Thomas said the racial divis he’s experienced are lser at sex parti when pared to general bars and clubs.

A GAY BACHELOR PARTY PRIMER TO PLAN AN AWOME PARTY

A particularly radil velopment New York sex parti fds queer people of varyg genr inti and sexuali nveng the same space at the same time to fuck—this is te of several of the parti at Simon’s space, the rare place where gay women’s parti and gay men’s parti overlap. Sex parti New York appeal to a niche crowd, sure, (the number of bodi Le has ever packed to his party topped out at 270—blockbter numbers for the relatively small venue and nature of his gatherg), but ’s a crowd that is, a major way, philosophilly aligned wh one of the fundamentals of the gay liberatn movement that stretch back s: the belief that we should be able to atta nsensual pleasure as we see f whout I do on ocsn, I took a turn DJg Amerin Whorer Party May for about 90 mut, and I found the experience more fortable than most sex parti I’ve attend.

Perhaps that’s bee sex parti, like many aspects of gay life, take time to warm up to. The song is unabashedly about gay sex (“The boys the back room / Lgh’ up / Shoot’ off menergy” go the jgle-like hook, sung by a group of gleeful women).

The song reached the height of s populary the years jt before anyone knew what AIDS was, when gay social liv were full of what I image was the same sort of vtment sual sex that I uld feel the room that night.