My spoe me out as gay. What should I do? |

Contents:

• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
• FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND BY DEBRA SUTTON
• MY SPOE ME OUT AS GAY. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• ONE OF N.L.'S FIRST MARRIED GAY UPL LOOK BACK WH PRI
• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
• MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Unls your spoe shar their sexual orientatn wh you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay.

You notice pop-ups of gay pornography or gay datg s on their vic. You notice a new group of iends on their social media, many of whom are openly gay. You notice them talkg more about gay people nversatn, eher a posive light or rogatory manner.

Among the upl, when the gay, lbian, or bisexual partner out, a third of the upl break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years and then spl; the remag third try to make their marriag work.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

There's no qutn that learng your partner is gay when you believed them to be straight n be extremely difficult.

IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN

People do not choose who they are attracted to, so make sure to not direct homophobic backlash towards your partner.

FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY

Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

If a hband is gay, n vastate not only the relatnship but the straight wife as well. The cleart way to know if your hband is gay is if he tells you.

If the hband is hont wh both you and wh himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you n tly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own.

In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved. But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye. Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay.

SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND BY DEBRA SUTTON

You fd pop-ups of gay pornography on the puter while he claims they are not his.

He viss gay bars claimg he's there only to hang out wh his gay iend(s). He mak ntual homophobic ments or he mak too many gay ments nversatns. A hband may be gay and display none of those signs or a hband may display the signs and not be gay.

MY SPOE ME OUT AS GAY. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Kaye advis that women "follow their stcts" when cidg whether their hband may be gay. If turns out that a hband is, fact, gay, the fallout n be difficult to al wh, particularly for the straight partner.

(If you're thkg that you n cure the gay by havg your hband go to gay nversn therapy, read this. What's important to remember is that the hband's homosexualy is entirely his rponsibily and has nothg to do wh the wife. The wife has not been aquate any way and likely the gay hband married her bee he tly red about her.

Some gay men believe that beg married n rid them of their homosexualy. If you have had any notn at all that this is a possibily, might help you to know the 6 signs that may suggt that your hband is gay. Aga, this uld be ed by other thgs as well, but uld be prent if your hband is gay.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Issu ncerng sexual sire alone are not a sure-fire sign your hband is gay, but women who report that their hbands turned out to be gay often say this was somethg they noticed first.

But remember, there n be many reasons why sex a marriage is ls than satisfyg, other than the fact that your hband may be gay. His browsg history may give you a clear picture and n be one of the many signs your hband is gay.

Pop-ups of gay pornography have appeared on the puter he , even though he claims he has nothg to do wh . His social media ntacts are unual and full of people, or new iends that you don’t know how he knows them and many of which are gay.

ONE OF N.L.'S FIRST MARRIED GAY UPL LOOK BACK WH PRI

It’s highly unlikely that, if your partner is straight, he would want to put his picture and rmatn on a gay datg se. There will also be signs your hband is gay such as his behavral patterns, pecially ncerng other gay men. He viss gay bars equently even though he will claim that he’s jt there to socialize wh his gay iends.

He watch or seems to be fortable watchg pornography wh gay male scen. He might even appear to be homophobic and make a lot of ments about gay people a rogatory manner.

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

The are signs your spoe is gay and there is no room for further doubts. In most s, if your hband has been hidg gay tennci om you, ’s probably bee he is the closet and don’t know how to e out to you or anybody else his life.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

When you ask yourself qutns like, ‘how n I tell if my hband is gay?