In this week’s stallment of ¡Hola Papi!, John Pl Brammer addrs that funny thg we ll “gay culture.”
Contents:
- A MISF GAY REVEALS: WHAT’S LIKE TO NOT F IN WH YOUR COMMUNY?
- “I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG TO THE GAY COMMUNY AND IT’S DEVASTATG ME.”
- GAY STEREOTYP CAN RU MEN’S LIV, IT'S TIME TO EMBRACE ALL EXPRSNS OF INTY
- GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
A MISF GAY REVEALS: WHAT’S LIKE TO NOT F IN WH YOUR COMMUNY?
* i don't fit into the gay community *
Way back the late 1970s, I went to my very first gay bars, assumg I’d be weled wh arms and legs akimbo.
This was way before Inter and hookup apps, so gay guys went to the bars and diss primarily to get picked up, not to celebrate each other’s w or knowledge.
At this pot, when the rtoonishly macho dis group Village People were a sensatn, many gays were affectg an impossibly manly pose, whereas I was scrawny, had bad sk and terrible hair, and wore zippered turtlenecks that my mother had procured me om the Sears-Roebuck talogue when I was high school. In 1987, I walked to my first meetg of ACT UP—the AIDS activist group—and was happy to fd that the grassroots anizatn spanned var threads of the muny, cludg lbians, who aren’t always the same room wh gay men.
“I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG TO THE GAY COMMUNY AND IT’S DEVASTATG ME.”
But the ’90s, the macho thg took over aga, and sudnly all the guys at the Roxy dance club on gay Saturdays had bulgg pecs and were obssively anx to show them.
GAY STEREOTYP CAN RU MEN’S LIV, IT'S TIME TO EMBRACE ALL EXPRSNS OF INTY
Too often, the LGBTQ muny dictat what kd of queer you’re supposed to be, addg to the opprsn you already get om a homophobic society.
GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
Gays have to be “straight-actg” (whatever that means), trans people have to pass and be tasteful, and so on, until the only possible act of liberatn is breakg ee om queer le.