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Contents:

• CHAPTER 3 : AM I GAY?
• TAG: NIGERIAN GAY STORI
• INSI NIGERIA'S SECRET GAY CLUB
• GAY NIGERIAN CHEF, AYO, SHAR SAD STORY OF HOW HE WAS REPEATEDLY RAPED BY HIS UNCLE
• OPN: NIGERIA IS A LD-BLOOD UNTRY FOR GAY MEN – I HAVE THE SRS TO PROVE
• GAY NIGERIANS SHARE STORI OF ABE BY CHRISTIANS & MLIMS, POLICE BTALY & DEATH | WATCH THE PBS DOCUMENTARY
• GAY NIGERIA, BLACK MALE AMERI
• GAY IN NIGERIA: LGBT LIFE IN ONE OF THE WORLD’S MOST HOMOPHOBIC NATNS
• A POLICE RAID, VIRAL VIOS AND THE BROKEN LIV OF NIGERIAN GAY LAW SPECTS
• 'SEX EDUTN'S' ERIC EFFNG IS SPIRATN TO NIGERIA'S GAYS, SAYS ACTIVIST

CHAPTER 3 : AM I GAY?

Fred was fdg difficult to get his md off Victor, he thought he was gog crazy was he actually fallg love wh his fellow guy?, This was somethg as a young boy he dread, he hated guys who were gay, homosexuals disgted him. He qutned himself, he uldn't believe this, what would his mother and his s thk of him, he was so succsful but now this, why did he off all the thgs be gay, he liked victor more than the ual way two guys were to like each other and he knew , he didn't regret likg him tho, he was a sweet guy, but he was a untry which didn't accept gay people, yeah they uld fly out of the untry, he kept on thkg, what if victor don't feel the same way, he need God. The day I went to llect his money, predictably what was supposed to be a brief teractn railed to a fur verbal altertn, wh him llg me “homo” and sayg I serve to be beaten, that I am of no e to my fay, that I am m one, that fact I have no future and should be jailed.

I wasn’t about to dulge this recklsns; apart om the fact that I still didn’t like him, I’d heard stori of guys who were homophobic enough to go lookg for other guys they spect are gay and who they n victimize. Chief sed mischievoly as he muttered "Its been so long, I wonr if I'm still good a this, he took another cuff and cuffed both his legs, he brought a stuffed toy a very ltle one and a tape and he shoved the stuffed toy to victor's mouth as the poor boy stggle for help, by then Victor was now gettg the whole ia, "the old eak was gay". As the only out young gay kid at my school, I took the advancement of my sexual experienc to my own hands and I did what we all do: I bought a fake ID and h the gay clubs.

Worst of all, though, the shame attached to the memori of those first tim marred how I would approach sex for years.It was listeng to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify,” and seeg the band’s out gay sger Olly Alexanr talk about how the song was spired his sexual trysts wh straight men, that I realized that the feelgs are way more mon than people let on. Sure, I know all about gay guys havg sex wh straight guys, but felt reassurg to see him scribe the “sat and sner role” he embodied durg those experienc, and to hear the uncertaty and melancholy weaved to the song.More than anythg though, was the repeated lyril mantra of “I won’t be ashamed.” Bee as queer people, we’re buried lifetime’s worth of shame so vivid and searg that oftentim ’s cripplg.

TAG: NIGERIAN GAY STORI

"I love this place bee mak me feel at home" gatherg of members of the gay and lbian muny Lagos is held regularly, albe discreetly, but uld soon be vast majory of gay Nigerians may not be terted this kd of event but they still have to hi their sexualy this nservative already illegal, homosexualy is wily owned upon across Nigeria and has been the subject of several bills the Natnal Same-Sex Marriage (Prohibn) Bill specifilly outlaws same-sex also bans gathergs of homosexuals or any other support for gay clubs, anisatns, unns or amoro exprsns, whether secret or public.

INSI NIGERIA'S SECRET GAY CLUB

'Repulsive'The bill has been passed by Nigeria's Senate - the hight chamber - and is now beg reviewed by the lower chamber, the Hoe of ptn, Rashidi Williams is one of Nigeria's few openly gay human rights activistsIf approved, will be sent to the print to sign to law, after which same-sex upl uld face up to 14 years Nigerian homosexuals pla that the stigma they face is already enough punishment for their way of (not his real name), a gay man livg Lagos, is outraged by the proposed law: "How do a ernment thk that sendg someone to prison would change his or her sexual orientatn? One of Nigeria's few openly gay human rights activists, Rashidi Williams, not that the bill seeks to ban somethg which is already illegal and which no-one is publicly advotg.

However, some of the doctors say they hardly ever know the sexual orientatn of those they attend to bee is not a requirement for treatment and unsellg, and even if the patients were to reveal that they were homosexuals, would not affect the qualy of healthre lawmakers have nmned vlence agast homosexuals but this has done ltle to prevent the growg anxiety among those the bill would target as s likely adoptn, whatever form, ptn, If the bill is passed, same-sex upl uld face 14 years prisonMr Williams says some gay Nigerians may seek asylum untri where homosexual people are accepted, while others will have to go the gay club, spe the jovial atmosphere, there is heightened utn, and no-one is allowed to take any thought of beg intified as beg gay, lbian, bisexual or transgenr a untry where the public still turns to mob jtice hnts some that is a huge ncern for Richard (not his real name): "If you don't bee discreet and try to hi yourself, even the man on the street will want to also act on the bill bee has been passed.

The 35-year-old actrs on Tuday, Augt 25, shared an oblique post on social media that implied that most men who cheat on their wiv are closeted gays. The film is a joyful celebratn of the femme inty and munit them like parture, homophobia and the ill of Your Se Articl5 LGBT Ain Movi to See After You Watch 'Moonlight' ›'I Am Samuel' Is the Story of a Gay Kenyan Man Stgglg to... I wanted to start meangful nversatns around genr norms and masculy that speak specifilly to our reali as gay men wh a culture that is poisonoly patriarchal and eply homophobic.

GAY NIGERIAN CHEF, AYO, SHAR SAD STORY OF HOW HE WAS REPEATEDLY RAPED BY HIS UNCLE

Agast a backdrop of adly anti-gay vlence, A Nasty Boy dared to be a haven for gay men Nigeria and, no time, received ternatnal attentn through CNN, BBC, The Guardian, The Enomist, Vogue, and others.

And yet, even this gome attack pal parison to the fatal btaly many Nigerian gay men have too often experienced the form of lynchgs or pillory wh tir before they’re set on fire and burnt alive—not for terrorism or worse, but for beg gay, for beg human, a sperately homophobic untry.

OPN: NIGERIA IS A LD-BLOOD UNTRY FOR GAY MEN – I HAVE THE SRS TO PROVE

A 2017 survey by The Iniative for Equal Rights (TIERS), a Nigerian-based human rights anizatn, showed 90% of Nigerians support the ntued enforcement of Nigeria’s anti-gay laws. In universy, I beme a social pariah and the poster child for “faggots” after beg outed by my bt iend on a mp that waged a ‘War on Homosexualy. ” Tonight, Special Corrponnt, Nick Schi, tails the abe and mistreatment of gays the untry, by law enforcement and by Mlim and Christian groups.

GAY NIGERIANS SHARE STORI OF ABE BY CHRISTIANS & MLIMS, POLICE BTALY & DEATH | WATCH THE PBS DOCUMENTARY

ESTHER DAUDA, Parishner: It’s very abomable and I thk that is one of the reasons why Sodom and Gomorrah had to be wiped out of the face of the earth, bee of homosexualism and whatever. JOSHUA MAINA: If there is a gay, you judge him based on the law of the land, and if the land says he should be killed, leave that one to the law enforcement agent. Officials tell PBS Newshour they don’t ph the issue bee they fear public cricism would backfire; but gay Nigerians say that policy helps crease public hate and private pa.

GAY NIGERIA, BLACK MALE AMERI

PETER KASS: When somebody tells you, you nnot amount to anythg bee of your sexualy, when the pastor tells you you’re gog to go to hellfire bee you’re homosexual, a lot of people’s spirs get broken. Although this artifice, pecially the boots, beme a signature part of my wardrobe, didn’t do much to protect me om the rampant and vlent homophobia problem wh -swchg, wh drsg-to-f, is not that jt do not work (the eveng I was abducted Nigeria I was wearg Caterpillar steel toe boots), shovels the moral rponsibily onto the shoulrs of victims of thoughtls bigotry.

Everythg after that would be the past tense, cludg your same week the vio of the shootg ath of Ahmd Arbery as he jogged near his home Geia — which amounted to a lynchg — was posted onle, a different vio tailg yet another horrific killg of a gay man a few om my hometown Nigeria was sent to my box.

One after the other, Nigerians who dulged homosexualy wh impuny narrate how they eventually opted for this illic romantic pa CHARLES ADINGUPU wr that as the ernment tri to clip their wgs, they hid unr veil of fundamental human right. At the public hearg Ben, Edo State, the self nfsed Lbian (Chwe) wept profely before the gatherg why homosexualy should be enshred Nigeria’s nstutn as a way of life and an gement of their (homosexuals) fundamental human rights if their agatn is treated wh levy.

GAY IN NIGERIA: LGBT LIFE IN ONE OF THE WORLD’S MOST HOMOPHOBIC NATNS

Though, his exposure was greeted wh avalanche of cricisms, but Ameachi was unterred as he went ahead to openly discsed LGBT issu as well as enuragg other gay athlet to pursue their dreams irrpective of their shameful life-style. Acrdg to the gay man of God, “my church is a voice of the younger generatn of cizens, activists and diaspora, and our llective belief a more progrsive Nigeria. Okechwu however, disclosed that the ma preoccupatn of his pany is to provi gay dancers and entertament servic for private parti and bs functns.

A POLICE RAID, VIRAL VIOS AND THE BROKEN LIV OF NIGERIAN GAY LAW SPECTS

LAGOS, Nigeria -- Life Nigeria, one of the world’s most anti-gay natns, is a daily stggle for Aola, a closeted, workg-class homosexual man livg on the outskirts of Abuja, the natn’s small, central (not his real name) has been lled offensive nam, sulted and ostracized over assumptns about his sexualy, so he shields his te self fear that g out would only attract more tense abe.

Meanwhile, some young, wealthy gay Nigerians who spend most of their time the louche, Wternized Victoria Island sectn of Lagos -- the massive, quickly mornizg megalopolis on Nigeria’s southwtern ast -- are able to live a quasi-open life spe the vilent homophobia that l much of the rt of the Aola, a portly man his thirti who earns a most livg as a ok at a terg pany Abuja, that life of openns is difficult to said he worri about discrimatn every time he walks out the door, pecially light of a law passed this year that, should be signed by Print Goodluck Jonathan, would make the sheer act of beg gay punishable by up to 14 years prison. ”Aola’s fears are supported by statistil evince: A study of 39 natns published by the Pew Rearch Center June emed Nigeria the least-acceptg natn of the lot for gays, wh 98 percent of survey rponnts sayg society should not accept homosexualy, edgg out ultranservative Jordan by a sgle percentage Acceptg BubbleSix upper-class gay profsnals who met wh the Internatnal Bs Tim at a Victoria Island rtrant last week say that bee they mostly stay wh that neighborhood’s fairly tolerant bubble, they are largely able to avoid Aola’s nstant state of fear.

'SEX EDUTN'S' ERIC EFFNG IS SPIRATN TO NIGERIA'S GAYS, SAYS ACTIVIST

Still, they, like everyone else terviewed for this story, asked to be assigned psdonyms bee of the harsh penalti that n rult om beg intified as gay the prs. ”Fatima is not gay per se -- she scrib her sexualy as “fluid” and said she is open to relatnships wh men or women -- but she mostly dat women. ”Crimalizg HomosexualyBeg gay Nigeria has long meant hidg the shadows of society, but fear and anxiety among most members of the natn’s gay muny have grown markedly sce May 30, when the Nigerian Senate passed a bill makg the simple act of beg homosexual a crime punishable by as long as 14 years prison.