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Contents:

• "I REALIZED I WAS GAY": MEN WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE ARE SHARG WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR THEM TO REVEAL THAT TTH AND LIVE AUTHENTILLY
• WHY ARE THERE GAY MEN?
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
• SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• THE FOTTEN SECRET LANGUAGE OF GAY MEN
• I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

"I REALIZED I WAS GAY": MEN WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE ARE SHARG WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR THEM TO REVEAL THAT TTH AND LIVE AUTHENTILLY

For example, when a “closeted” gay or bisexual man has sex wh another man, he views that sex as reflectg his secret gay/bisexual inty. A mory of the men I terviewed were homophobic and held prejudice agast LGBTQ2+ people and this prejudice mak the thought of an LGBTQ2+ inty unappealg to them. After g out as gay, Colton Unrwood is sharg his journey a new Netflix documentary.

Osborne told Time magaze Febary that he is gay and has known for years, but he kept a secret bee of untry mic's mostly nservative fan base.

WHY ARE THERE GAY MEN?

Ronen Rubste's gay character on "9-1-1: Lone Star" helped him get fortable wh his own sexualy.

I me out as transgenr and then I me out as gay aga, " she said a YouTube vio April. Former "Bachelor" star Colton Unrwood me out as gay on "Good Morng Ameri. When I found out earlier this month, along wh the rt of the world, that one of my favore actors, Kal Penn, is a fellow gay man and now engaged to his long-time partner, I was so happy that he was openly livg his tth.

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

After seeg a gay guy I uld see myself , I started to qutn myself more.

I me out as bisexual at 44 after my stepson me out as gay at 11 years old.

SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY

"I moved to Ireland jt before the referendum that legalized gay marriage.

Once the untry around me changed and I started seeg more gays the muny, felt safer, and I felt more fortable to e out.

Part of me felt rponsible for her ath, as if beg bi or gay and my feelgs of regret somehow ed . I also realized that the label of ‘gay’ ma more sense for me than ‘bi. But when I moved to California and saw more gay people, then I really started to realize .

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

I have a lot of stori about folks who were homophobic but me around to acceptg me and honorg me for beg a gay man, once they got to know me beyond what I do bed. In the meantime, I kept watchg gay porn but wouldn't accept and felt guilty after jerkg off to . I me out to my wife many moons ago but took a long time to realize that prayg the gay away wasn’t workg.

I’m a good place right now and share my home wh gay iends, as well as adult children. "I fally started serly qutng my early 40s and quickly realized I was gay. Pl the ‘80s was not a particularly good time to be gay — I thk fear of AIDS was possibly one thg that had me nial.

I wonr if I'd accepted I'm gay when I was 20, if thgs would have been much different. After spendg years dog all the manly thgs that were supposed to straighten me out, I had a particular weekend — a men-only whewater raftg trip — when I realized I did all the thgs I was aimg for that were supposed to change me, and I was still 100% gay. Once I knew the gay wasn't gog anywhere, I figured I wanted to be open and hont wh people om then on, regardls of how the rt of my life went.

CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?

Eventually, after a lot of booze and tears, I fally admted I was gay.

So my iend got me to talk to other gay guys and try and accept myself.

In Lat Ameri and my untry of Venezuela, beg gay is associated wh beg ls of a person. When I was a kid, I went through all the dumb pre-ter gay kid thgs like lgerg the JCPenny's men’s unrwear sectn. I e om a strict Irish tholic fay, so any of my mannerisms or actns that were ‘too gay’ were discsed by my fay.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Grad school was the first time I was around people who seemed to genuely not re or treat people different bee they were gay. When I rennected wh my bt childhood iend who me out to me as bi, I was spired and told him I was gay. Growg up was the whole ‘relig upbrgg/ternalized homophobia’ dance: I liked gay porn, but uldn't adm to myself I was gay.

At that pot beme important to e out as the gay man I've always been.

THE FOTTEN SECRET LANGUAGE OF GAY MEN

My wife and I are gog to unselg together to work through thgs and while ‘’ has a shelf life, I'm foced on figurg out what beg gay means to me. "At around 28 years old, I had a cent grasp that I'm overwhelmgly gay, wh some rare and specific attractn towards women. After a few months of experiencg very novel and tense sexual feelgs, I overme my fear of masturbatn and started dog to var kds of straight and gay porn.

After the divorce, I me out to my close fay and iends and started my journey of figurg out how to be gay. Tellg my therapist I'm gay and utterg that simple word changed somethg me. But I uldn't open the door even an ch to the ia that I was homosexual.

And thanks to r/AskGayBrosOver30 for creatg a space for queer men to be vulnerable and empathize wh each other. While female sexualy appears to be more fluid, rearch suggts that male gayns is an born, unalterable, strongly geilly fluenced tra.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

But nsirg that the tra disurag the type of sex that leads to procreatn — that is, sex wh women — and would therefore seem to thwart s own chanc of beg geilly passed on to the next generatn, why are there gay men at all?

For several years, studi led by Andrea Camper Ciani at the Universy of Padova Italy and others have found that mothers and maternal nts of gay men tend to have signifintly more offsprg than the maternal relativ of straight men.

The rults show strong support for the "balancg selectn hypothis, " which is fast beg the accepted theory of the geic basis of male theory holds that the same geic factors that duce gayns mal also promote fecundy (high reproductive succs) those mal' female maternal relativ. Through this tra-off, the maternal relativ' "gay man gen, " though they aren't exprsed as such, tend to get passed to future generatns spe of their tenncy to make their male herors no one knows which gen, exactly, the might be, at least one of them appears to be loted on the X chromosome, acrdg to geic molg by Camper Ciani and his lleagu.