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Contents:

• HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY
• GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
• THE DAY MUM SAID,‘I’M GAY’
• YOUR MUM GAY
• IS YOUR MOM GAY?
• YOUR MUM IS GAY
• UR MUM WACK GAY
• I’M ASHAMED OF HOW I REACTED WHEN MY MUM TOLD ME SHE IS GAY
• WHAT’S LIKE FOR A CHILD WHEN THEIR MUM OR DAD OUT AS GAY?
• UR MOM GAY
• PROJECT OF THE DAY: ‘MUM’ IS A GAY COMG OF AGE STORY
• YOU'RE MOM GAY
• TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’

HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

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GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?

You may realize, for stance, that you really want your mom to know when you realized you were gay.

"Mom, I'm gay. Article SummaryXTellg your mom that you’re gay n be nerve-wrackg, but wh a plan and a ltle bravery, you n get off your cht. You might want to clu thgs like when you learned you were gay, what ’s been like for you, and what your hop are for the future.

THE DAY MUM SAID,‘I’M GAY’

I'm gay.

YOUR MUM GAY

If you jt have a feelg that your brother is gay, that's okay. If you thk your brother is gay bee he watch a "girly" TV show or his voice sounds a certa way, that's relyg on stereotyp. If you live a particularly homophobic or transphobic area, discs safety plans wh the fay member se of vlence om others.

IS YOUR MOM GAY?

If your fay member has e out as gay or bisexual, accept that they will end up seeg someone of their own genr, and that's perfectly okay. Don't be aaid to rearch beg gay, bisexual, transgenr, asexual, or whatever your fay member me out as. I thk he might be gay.

If you saw your brother kissg another guy and he said he is not attracted to women, y, he is gay. How do I tell if a child is gay? They might have a lack of tert the oppose sex if they’re homosexual or asexual.

Perhaps is not surprisg that mothers and their gay sons often scribe their relatnships as close. However, beg gay might be a factor that mak some mothers and sons even closer.

YOUR MUM IS GAY

This was found to be te for many of the mothers and sons I terviewed for the study scribed the book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child (). Neverthels, this closens uld have a downsi, at least temporarily, as many mothers ially blame themselv and the close relatnships for their sons' homosexualy.

UR MUM WACK GAY

So, perhaps is not pletely surprisg that once they learned their sons were gay, some of the mothers I terviewed felt that they had done somethg to damage them.

The fact is that I am the mother and I was told growg up that men bee gay bee their mothers are too motherg. For a long time, the psychiatric profsn blamed overly close maternal relatnships for g the "disease" of male homosexualy. Even though rearch sce the 1950's has bunked , this theory persists people's mds and rears s ugly head for mothers when they ially learn their sons are gay.

I’M ASHAMED OF HOW I REACTED WHEN MY MUM TOLD ME SHE IS GAY

Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post.

WHAT’S LIKE FOR A CHILD WHEN THEIR MUM OR DAD OUT AS GAY?

Homosexualy to Blame for Close Relatnships wh Mother? My rearch, clil and personal experienc suggt that there is ed a al lk between male homosexualy and a close maternal relatnship but flows the oppose directn than what was prevly thought. In other words, havg a close relatnship wh your mother don't make you gay—beg gay mak you closer to your mother.

The young gay mal this study relled sharg terts mon wh their mothers, such as fashn and okg, and were also sensive to their feelgs. ) aspect of the parent-child relatnship some gay fai. As stated by Tariq, a 19-year-old Ain Amerin gay man:.

I thk personally [beg gay] ma me a more emotnal person, more sensive, more touch wh both the male and female sis of myself, but allowg me to even acknowledge that other si ma me closer to my mother.

UR MOM GAY

Once mothers this study got over their feelgs of guilt and got ed to the ia that their sons were gay, they were able to regnize the benefs of havg a gay son.

Bee gay people are gay! That is why gay people are lled "gay!

Closens between mothers and their gay sons is a stereotype and like all stereotyp, sometim they rg te.

PROJECT OF THE DAY: ‘MUM’ IS A GAY COMG OF AGE STORY

However, we get to hot water when we allow stereotyp to get the way of unrstandg the uniquens of dividuals and their circumstanc—so is important to remember that not all mothers and gay sons are close. Sadly, some mothers simply nnot adjt to their sons' homosexualy, due to their guilt, relig ncerns, or abily to "let go" and accept the ways they live their liv. For sure, gay men, their mothers and those who assist them need to explore and unrstand the val relatnships.

But for many men and women, tellg their fay they’re gay is the alternative to livg a lifelong lie.

YOU'RE MOM GAY

Dad basilly said, “I’m gay. ” I remember beg que bossy and sayg, “Of urse I know what beg gay means. Sam thks Dad mt have known he was gay, so why marry her?

I’ve never really talked to Dad about but I thk he thought he was gay, but wasn’t sure and was nial.

She’s said to me many tim that if Dad had told her he was gay earlier, she would happily have been iends wh him.

TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’

My brother would say, “I’m sure Dad’s gay.